Domestic abuse law 'could change Scotland'

hollydays

pepper77 wrote: »

I've been married 36 years.

Cool story bro :cool:

Mrs_Arcanum

hollydays wrote: »

Cool story bro :cool:

To be fair to pepper77, I ma not sure he is the right target for the sarcasm.

pepper77_2

hollydays wrote: »

Cool story bro :cool:

I am not, in any way, shape or form, anyone's "bro". Certainly not yours.

System

BarronTrump wrote: »

Insane waste of money, if their partner is abusive why are they staying with them?

From my own experience i stayed because i was ill, dependent on him for care, he told nobody else would ever want me, I had been isolated from friends and family so had no where to go, and was scared he might hurt me (or himself, he threatened suicide a few times and told me it would be my fault) if i tried to leave. He avoided being physically violent (well apart from grabbing me round the neck and throwing a glass at my head) but psychologically he knew all the right buttons to press to control me. I didn't even realise it was domestic abuse until after i eventually got out of it.

BarronTrump

SamsReturn wrote: »

I think maybe you are the only one left, 'cos have you noticed ?
Not one person has put a 'thank you' to any of your posts in this thread.

Which proves nothing, certainly does not mean I am wrong.

hollydays

BarronTrump wrote: »

No you are trying to degrade and humiliate me, were you my partner you could wind up in jail, thankfully you are not.

And of course that highlight the prime idiocy of the law, the evidence of my crime only existed in your very flawed mind.

This kind of insanity has lead to several huge genocides in the past.

What are you on a bout "women's autonomy" I don't give too hoots what women do, or what anyone does so long as it does not affect me.

However legislation to jail innocent people damages us all.

All those who are sane anyway.

Looks like I am the only one left.

Basically hysteria has been legislated into the statue book.

I have to agree with your last sentence.
I blame the “ statue” book.(.and the “ hide and seek “ Wendy house..:A)

hollydays

Hysteria Wisteria

BarronTrump

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

From my own experience i stayed because i was ill, dependent on him for care, he told nobody else would ever want me, I had been isolated from friends and family so had no where to go, and was scared he might hurt me (or himself, he threatened suicide a few times and told me it would be my fault) if i tried to leave. He avoided being physically violent (well apart from grabbing me round the neck and throwing a glass at my head) but psychologically he knew all the right buttons to press to control me. I didn't even realise it was domestic abuse until after i eventually got out of it.

Well I do not really see how the new law would have change the situation really.

Some outside support might have helped but having him arrested for whatever is not likely to have helped really.

Also a man might be in the same situation and the whole thing seem to ignore a man could be the victim because feminists, professional haters of men, have pushed the legislation.

I mean I think they are more concerned with punishing men than helping women.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

BarronTrump wrote: »

Insane waste of money, if their partner is abusive why are they staying with them?

Because the patterns of abuse this law is intended to stop are so effective - and expressly intended - at stopping them from realising it's happening and/or leaving.


In my case, I didn't leave because the flat was mine, my children lived there, I didn't have the money or credit rating to rent or buy somewhere else, the council's attitude was 'tell him to leave, if you walk out, you're intentionally homeless and we won't house you, but will notify Social Services that your children are in an unsafe situation' and, quite frankly, because, not only had he said that the day I told him to leave would be the last day I ever saw the children alive (he didn't specify whether it was me still being alive or them, and I didn't fancy my chances in finding out), and he was six foot five and over fourteen stone of pure muscle, thanks to the wonders of anabolic steroids.

He didn't 'have' to get physical often. He made his displeasure quite clear from dragging me out in public to keep up appearances and then getting angry because I'd embarrassed him somehow (but wouldn't ever say why until he decided to up the ante a few days later - normally something like not smiling broadly enough or smiling too much or standing wrongly/wearing a dress/wearing trousers/not having tiny feet/not walking on my tiptoes at all times/not being able to chat about having other friends or going out/having hobbies). Or not picking the phone up on the first ring. Or being out doing the shopping and talking to somebody...

SamsReturn

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

somehow (but wouldn't ever say why until he decided to up the ante a few days later - normally something like not smiling broadly enough or smiling too much or standing wrongly/wearing a dress/wearing trousers/not having tiny feet/not walking on my tiptoes at all times/not being able to chat about having other friends or going out/having hobbies). Or not picking the phone up on the first ring. Or being out doing the shopping and talking to somebody...

Going back years and years ago now, the fella my Sister was with at the time use to lock her in the flat whenever he went out, and take her clothes & shoes out with him. So she couldn't escape.
Even though that was perhaps 40yrs ago, i wonder is that what makes her such a b1tch today, who has to 'get her own back' on all men.