Is this considered intentionally homeless?

Comms69

homeismycalm wrote: »

Hi all,

I urgently need some advice about council housing and if they’d help me - My main question is, would I be considered intentionally homeless?

I’m married (separated), with a child of 11 weeks.

A few weeks back, my husband declared to me that he’s homosexual and can’t lie to me about it anymore. He says he no longer wishes to live as husband and wife but that I could carry on living here, as friends for our child’s sake. He says I couldn’t afford to move out anyway.

I have tried this approach of his and it isn’t any good. I feel upset 24/7 just looking at our Happy past, in this house. What I thought was our happiness anyway. Turns out the man I love/loved isn’t who I thought he was. The tension between us is bad, and the atmosphere feels toxic. I can’t however claim he’s absusive etc.

This property is privately rented by me and my husband. Both names on tenancy. However, I wouldn’t be able to afford the rent on my own. It’s £930 a month. I get next to nothing Maternity Allowance, and even if I wanted to, the amount I get in Maternity Allowance doesn’t even cover the rent! He refuses to move out anyway, and insists I should stay. He claims the council won’t House me because I’m not homeless, and if I made myself homeless, it would be declared that I was ‘intentionally homeless’.

Is he right?

Surely I can’t be made to stay put in a property where my husband has separated from me and has declared himself homosexual? It’s taking a big toll on me, to say the least.

You cant be made to stay, no. But you cant expect the taxpayer to subsidise you when you have a safe home.


It's all very fresh and raw and totally sympathise with you, but in essence, he's right.

Comms69

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Give these people a call in the morning. Make sure you read up about what to do before you make the phone call.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/helpline/

Your partner is exhibiting controlling behaviour which is the basis of domestic abuse.

They will be able to advise you and hopefully put you in contact with someone locally who will be able to help you move forward.

What? where??


Seriously, where does it even hint at that!

silvercar

Surely I can’t be made to stay put in a property where my husband has separated from me and has declared himself homosexual? It’s taking a big toll on me, to say the least.

Plenty of people live in the same home as separated individuals. Mainly because they have shared care of a child (ren) or because they can't both afford to live in their own properties.

Of course it is difficult for you as it is new and raw and emotions are running high. That doesn't obviously make you homeless, particularly when you are named on the tenancy.

Nicki71

Council would be very unlikely to rehouse you if they do you will likely to be housed in a b&b dor at least 2 months, this could be anywhere in the country. Sorry sounding not helpful but it is the situation.
Now what you should do, look for private rented property and apply for housing and council tax

Other thing you should do is as others said is get advice go to canb as they will give you financial and other advice, also app,y for tax credits gets something official to say that you are separated

SavvySaver24

Comms69 wrote: »

What? where??


Seriously, where does it even hint at that!

Agree with this!? Where has anyone got that from!!

You have a safe roof over your head, so yes to leave would be making yourself intentionally homeless.