Old Style Daily Thursday 25th January

dumpling

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Hollyharvey

Morning everyone

Thanks for starting us off dumpling.

Csarina sorry that your OH has had another dizzy.
Nelski you clearly have the patience of a saint, I’m ashamed to admit that I couldn’t be as gracious as you are towards your mum. Hopefully the new washing machine delivery and installation will go well today.
It sounds like your mum had a good first day back home nmlc.
Tru a spare room will be really useful for you.

I had a lovely lunch out yesterday. The pub is a lovely country pub with beams and an open fire. Even though it is warm they had the fire burning and gave us a table to the side which was lovely. My neighbour is quite deaf and needs people to sit beside her so that she can hear, so they gave us a table for four to allow for this. They also thought to offer us the table in the bar as they had a couple of large parties of 10 in the restaurant and thought that it would be too noisy for my neighbour to hear. They were really considerate. It was nice to find such good service.

Back to reality today. I’ve got a load in the WM and that will have to go in the dryer, then another load to go in.

I also want to take my most comfortable pair of shoes to be repaired. I will need to drop them off and wander around the town while I wait. I don’t want to be without out because they are the pair I use when I go out shopping or for a walk.

Hugs to those who are poorly or caring for someone who is and those with troubles/worries.

Have a good day everyone whatever you are doing.

dumpling

Good morning everyone :hello:

It's too dark to see what the weather is doing but I haven't needed to put the heating on for a couple of days so very moneysaving. Steve has just left for work and the girls are all fast asleep. I am still not sleeping properly and feel very miserable I am sorry to say.

Becky has an appointment with the Early Psychosis team later today. We went up to her school a couple of days ago and I was very impressed with the SEN department. They have worked out a plan for her to restart school on Monday for a few hours three times a week and then we will see how it goes from then. I think it will be good for her to get some structure and routine back in her life so I am cautiously optomistic about it all.

Phoebe is having an absolutely rotten time of it and has been home for the past few days. We have a CAMHS appointment for her tomorrow so hopefully she will be able to talk to her counsellor and get some of her sadness out. I don't know what is going to happen with school for her as it seems to be a major trigger for her.

Meanwhile I am feeling like the worst parent ever. I thought long and hard about having children because of my own mental health issues but desperately wanted to be a mum. Now it is all falling apart and it is all my fault. I just don't know where it is all going to end. Sorry to write all this, I don't want to upset anyone but it is all swirling around in my mind.

I hope you all have a great day whatever you are up to, take care xx

ScarletRibbons

Good morning all, and thank you Dumpling. Hope everything is all right with you Dumpling.

Looks dry outside, hope it stays that way. I've got bedding to put in wm, it would be nice to get it at least partly dry outside. It was very windy yesterday, and I got some towels partly dry, not bad for January. Sometimes the washing line doesn't see light of day for weeks at this time of year.

I did quite a lot of housework and ironing yesterday, it was sorely needed.

I'll finish the ironing today, out this afternoon to a card making session. Before I go I'll put some YS beef in the slow cooker with veg for tea,

Dh's cough is still going strong, poor thing seems to have been hacking away all night, he's exhausted with it.

I hope everyone had a good day yesterday, thinking of Lainey, Nmlc and family, and others who are sad and worried.

Take care folks.

nmlc

Morning everyone

dumpling - thanks for starting us off x

Hugs to those that want/need one x

Happy birthday to those with a birthday x

Still dark here, was blustery, wet and grey yesterday but mild.

DH up and gone to work stupid early, DS1 now getting ready for work and DS2 still in his pit, will wake him shortly to get ready for college.

Dinner last night was fish, chips/jacket potato, beans/veg, I remembered to get the meat out to defrost overnight, so will be making a beef casserole for tonight's dinner, mash, veg, LO veg to go with it.

Today first thing I'll be heading to town and for a nail appointment, they desperately need doing and I feel so much better once they are done. I'll visit the bank and building society whilst in town too. Then home and get on with the washing, drying and ironing, and housework.

Now on days' off, and pleased to be as we're short staffed due to sickness, and yesterday afternoon were left with 2 members of staff and 1 that should have gone home but stayed to help us out. People were coming in to be seen and waiting for a while then walking out due to the wait and lack of staff to deal with them. I was running around like a mad thing trying to get everyone dealt with, not the right way to run a business at all.

Keep safe and well x

nmlc x

ScarletRibbons

Dumpling, I've just read your post, and am so sorry that things aren't good for you and the family. Please don't blame yourself, you always sound like a lovely Mum, though I know we mothers do blame ourselves for everything. Also, when you are not sleeping all the bad thoughts and feelings do swirl around in your head (speaking from experience).
Try and have a nap later, and I hope you all pick up a bit.

TravellingAbuela

Aw DUMPLING surely it's time things got better for you. Mental health really is the worst problem to deal with and sad when it affects young people. You are doing the best you can so please don't beat yourself up.

It's a flying visit off me. Busy day in store. DGDs to get up shortly, feed and water, then get off to school. DS to pick up on the way back as he is leaving his car for MOT and saves him a walk. He is then "borrowing" our car to run us to the station for the train to Leeds. It's a job lot at the Oncology Clinic this time - fasting bloods, injection and then appointment with the Consultant. We expect to be at the hospital some time. As usual my bag will be packed with snacks and bottles of water to sustain us.

Once back home the DGDs will be back for late tea and another sleepover. Bolognese on the go already to assemble the customary Thursday Pasta Bake for tea as soon as we get back.

Some days I feel too old for all this dashing around and today is one of them. Have a good day folks if you can and ((HUGS)) for all the poorlies, carers, sad, worried and lonely who need them. Take care all xx

Gers

Morning everyone.

Thanks for the thread dumpling - there really is no need to beat yourself up about your girls. They bring you joy and pain just as every other child ever has and you and Steve are doing so well by them.

Yesterday I had a long telephone chat with DM’s doctor as she’s been having some difficulty. The doc has altered her beta blocker slightly so we’ll see.

I’ve a busy DM morning ahead and then I’ve got to finish off some work bits and pieces. It’s the start of semester two on Monday so I’ve three classes to plan for as well as tidy up stuff for units which end this week.

Must get myself ready. Need a good long shower after not having had one yesterday. Apparently the power was restored to the area by 1pm though I didn’t go back home after work. My bedroom radio will be playing as it always comes on after a power cut. I could ask a friend to go in to sort it but probably won’t bother.

Happy Burns night to everyone. There’ll be no haggis and needs eaten here though there will be a ‘Slaint!’ with a wee dram raised.

Hollyharvey

dumpling wrote: »

Meanwhile I am feeling like the worst parent ever. I thought long and hard about having children because of my own mental health issues but desperately wanted to be a mum. Now it is all falling apart and it is all my fault. I just don't know where it is all going to end. Sorry to write all this, I don't want to upset anyone but it is all swirling around in my mind.

Please don't feel like this. You are a good parent. You have been supporting them in a number of ways, both practically and emotionally. You have always been there for them when they need you and have shown them love and care, they are the things that are important and they are exactly what you have been doing. You are doing really well. Take care, I'm thinking of you and your family. x

dumpling

Me again, sorry for my previous post, I was going to delete it but I've had a good cry and have now pulled up my big girl pants.

There are so many of us with difficulties, people coping with ill parents, health issues, wayward children, poorly pets and the list goes on. We are all amazing for coping and just putting one foot in front of the other to get through each day. It really helps that there is virtual support and a great big listening ear when it all gets a bit much.

Today, I am going to get washed and dressed, get dinner ready for everyone and generally just get on with it. The same as everyone else on here.

Sending you all so much love xx

ancientofdays

Morning, Dumpling may I add my voice to those who have posted to support you? Your posts about your daughters are full of your love and care for them. It isn't easy being a parent and do you know anyone who wakes up in the morning telling themselves 'today I'll be doing second class parenting', I shan't do my best? No, nor do I! We all do our best and I know that I often don't get everything right, I think you are doing the very best you can in a very difficult situation.

Yesterday I got soaked on the way to a conference. The rain came down so heavily that all the gutters and grates were blocked with fallen leaves so great lagoons of water and I couldn't avoid the massive wave sent up by a lorry. I got home at 5 (oooh early) with feet still wet and the rest of my clothes just about dry. Not a comfortable feeling. I did change into dryvthings obviously but the chilly, clammy feeling stayed. OH suggested a nice warm bath but I chose to go to bed after dinner with a book. I've slept well and feel more normal this morning, I was sneezing fit to bust last night.

This is my last working day of the week thank goodness, I just want to flump now.

Deleted_User I hope you get a better day. Thinking of all of us who are worried, ill or sad, hoping that this will be a good day for you.