O/S Daily Saturday 20th January 2018

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edited 20 January 2018 at 6:57AM in Old style MoneySaving
O/S Daily Saturday 20th January 2018

This is an “over the garden fence” type thread where we chat about everything Old Style and maybe a little bit more. It’s a great, inspiring and motivating thread we start each day to discuss what Old Style things we’re going to do today or what we’ve achieved already. Everyone’s welcome, please do come in, put your feet up (although check the fence hasn’t just been painted first!) and join us for an Old Style natter. The more the merrier!

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Morning everyone

Hugs to those that want/need one x

Happy birthday to those with a birthday x

DH and myself up and enjoying first cuppas - he woke and couldn't get back to sleep, so then tossed and turned and woke me up - I was in a really deep sleep too - so now drinking coffee whilst on here.

Dinner last night was disjointed but the boys had pizza and chips, I had jacket potato and salad. DS1 and I went to the hospital before DH got home from work so left DS2 in charge of domestics at home I left a jacket potato and some breaded chicken pieces in the oven, and beans in a jug to nuke once DH was home. Today may well be another upside down day but we'll see how it pans out - I have plenty of food in, so we won't starve.

The latest update re hospital - much to our disbelief hospital told dad on Thursday night mum is fit enough to come home and they were discharging her Friday lunchtime! Yes she is much better than she was but still not fit enough to go home without any organised care in place. We appreciate that they need the bed but she's not medically fit to come home yet. Luckily overnight Thursday into Friday her ongoing other health issues reared it's head and because of that they weren't able to discharge her, so yesterday was spent trying to find out what's going on and what's the plan going forward - no-one seems to have that answer! Also they've said she needs to be monitored for this other health issue and this will take "a few days" but won't clarify what "a few days" means! I think they will keep her in until tomorrow then go for discharge on Monday. We'll see.

Also found out as always I seem to be the last one to find anything out - this is an ongoing scenario with the family. I only found out about the discharge plans by accident - I'd text another family member saying what I could do next week for visiting times so we could plan and was told about the discharge plans for yesterday and that they'd know since the night before - they knew I was going to visit yesterday so had the discharge happened I'd have got there and wondered why I didn't know what was going on. I know I'm not the priority at the moment (and I don't want/think I am) but it just reminds me of where I sit in the grand scheme of things, there have been other scenarios in all of this where everyone else seems to know what's going on but I don't get told. I don't want this to sound like woe me, as it's not that at all, but I've never been good enough and at times it becomes apparent, it really makes you feel horrible, and it's taken me years to be able to manage it and mostly I do, but every now and then it rears it's ugly head and this is one of those times, makes me feel rather low and it's made me rather tearful. There's probably going to be a situation this morning that I'm going to need to get through, so hoping I can hold it together and get through it. I've never said anything at these times and maybe I should have done but I think over the years I've just got to the point where I think why bother with educated intelligent adults that obviously think it's ok to treat a family member this way, I've just detached myself as much as possible. There's an old saying "your friends you can choose but family you're stuck with".

Sorry ............... that's become a rather long rant.

Keep safe and well x

nmlc x


  • Hollyharvey
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    edited 20 January 2018 at 6:33AM
    Morning everyone

    Another one here who is looking forward to spring now. We have gone from the high winds on Thursday to a really cold day yesterday with frost and icy pavements.

    Since slipping over on icy pavements I’ve lost quite a bit of confidence when out walking early in the day.

    Bit of a shock for you over your mum being discharged nmlc. I hope that they sort out some ongoing care for her before they do discharge her. I really feel for you about the way you are being treated by your family, it sounds like you are really hurting because of it right now. As you say, you can choose your friends but not your family ((hugs)).

    Lainey I’m so sorry to hear about your dog.

    It sounds like you have a lovely active book club Nelski. I’m a member of one but apart from the monthly meeting and the occasional literary event there isn’t much going on.

    Csarina I’m sorry that things are difficult for you, it sounds like caring for your doh is hard work at the moment. I hope that he picks up soon.

    AOD I’m pleased to hear that you are slowly starting to feel a bit better.

    Judi re your decision about prodigal, you have to do what is right for you and grump and prodigal will need to accept it.

    I found some sausages lurking in the freezer last night so have got them out for dinner tonight. I’m unsure whether to do a toad in the hole or to have them with roast potatoes and veg. Either way I thought they would be a nice warming meal for this cold weather.

    I don’t need any shopping this weekend so at least I don’t need to venture out and can have a nice PJ day today with a book and some mindless tv.

    Hugs to those who are poorly or caring for someone who is.

    Have a good day everyone whatever you are doing.
  • ancientofdays
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    Morning, I am sniffling this morning but slowly this bug is easing.
    Nmlc that's a lot to deal with, hope things are clearer soon and that your mum's care can be sorted out properly.
    Judi, just sending virtual support and LaineyT to you too.

    I slept a bit better after a couple of dreadful nights. I've done virtually nothing for close to a week, not even the Friday Tidy and at some point today I will have to find the oomph to Hoover.
    Had a few text messages from my manager yesterday (she has kept in touch all week) and one was would I like to go to a concert at Symphony Hall this week and yes I would so something to look forward to. Vivaldi and Beethoven plus something else I've forgotten and Blimey the tickets are expensive. But this is not something we do all the time and although not wildly mse, I will enjoy this.
    OH will be up in a little while to fetch the newspaper and then go shopping, he likes shopping and I don't, at least not with him. He organises his shopping into a list based on the layout of the supermarket aisles. Then he goes up and down in order, he gets in such a hissy fit if the supermarket moves the aisles around and of course they do. Also if they decide to promote one of his regular items by putting it on one of the end of aisle displays, that doesn't always register so more hissiness. Accompanying him is a sore trial as my shopping list is disorganised and so am I according to him so I leave him to it. We did do Internet shopping for a while but I prefer choosing veg and fruit according to what's available on the day and also he is good at pouncing on the yellow stickers, he calls that the casino section.
    Tea is calling me so I will wish everyone the best day you can have today.
    I was jumping to conclusions and one of them jumped back
  • redruby
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    Morning all

    Off to work for me today and its pouring with rain and set in for the day, we will be very quiet and have nothing to do and have to stand there for hours, the thing that really annoys me is if we finish an hour or half hour early then we owe them lieu which makes me so mad :mad: I think I have some pies to make so that will take up some time.

    OH in charge of domestic today I have for some breaded chicken pieces for tonight and Ive left a shopping list, the house also wants a tidy through.

    Lainey I am so sorry to hear about dear Rosie, fingers crossed that things go well on Wednesday and you get to spend some more time with her, if not at the very least you will know that you have given her the best life possible and take comfort from that, big hugs my lovely I know how hard it is xx

    Dumpling how is Becky ?

    Have good days all xx
  • Gers
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    Good morning.

    Buckets of water are being tipped over mid-Argyll again.

    My only plan is to take stuff to the recycling place and then buy some eggs. I’m glad that I decided not to venture down to Glasgow this weekend as the roads here have been atrocious. Right at my house is clear of snow but there’s tons of it everywhere else.

    I hope everyone keeps well or gets better. Happy Saturday to all.
  • TravellingAbuela
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    Bah just lost a long waffle" May post again later but meanwhile thanks NMLC and can understand your annoyance at being left out of plans for your DM

    Hugs all round as always and take care xx
    "If you dream alone it will remain just a dream. But if we all dream together it will become reality"
  • camelot1001
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    Morning All

    Cold and icy here, we didn't get much snow last night, just sleet that seems to have frozen. Glasgow did have lots of snow, only 15 miles from here.

    I put some coal on the fire last night when I went to bed and it was still going this morning, I've topped it up this morning, it keeps the chill off the house. My new dressing gown was far too warm last night (it's full length) but is certainly earning its keep this morning! By the way, I've just slept for 10 hours!

    Boxercise this morning then some cleaning I think, there will also be enough washing to do a load when I get back.

    Hugs to those in need, hope you get to spend some more time with your little furry friend Lainey. Not heard from tru this week, hope you're ok.

    Happy Saturday, take care.
  • dumpling
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    Good morning everyone :hello:

    I slept a lot better last night and didn't get up until 7.15, I think it was because Becky seemed a bit more settled last night and opted to go to bed early. She didn't have a very good day yesterday and is struggling to come to terms that she probably won't be returning to hospital. We will get her through it all but it is mentally exhausting.

    The bad news kept coming as poor Steve went for his pre op for his cataract operation and as part of the tests they checked his blood sugar. It turned out to be really high and so they did a proper blood test which was also a lot higher than normal so it looks like he also has type 2 diabetes. He has to go and see his GP next week to have it confirmed but I have made a pre emptive strike and put him on a low carb diet. He wasn't complaining though as he sat down to his bacon and egg breakfast this morning :D.

    nmlc, I really understand how you are feeling about how you have been treated by your family. I am also often left out of the loop and my sisters quite often arrange to go out with each other and don't even think to ask me. It is very hurtful and I still have a little cry about it on occasion. I hope there are better plans put in place for your mum's care. Sending you a big hug xx

    Lainey, I was so sorry to hear about your beloved dog. You are right that quality of life is more important now. Hope you have a bit more time with Rosie and make her last days with you wonderful. Sending you a big hug too xx

    AOD, hope you have a fantastic time at the concert. You deserve it xx

    We are having a big clean up today much to the girls deep delight :rotfl:If they each take a room it gets done quickly but my goodness, the moaning :eek::eek:. Jemima and the grandchildren are coming over to see us today as well so I would like it sorted before they turn up.

    Hope you all have a great day whatever you are up to, take care xx
  • CRANKY40
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    Good morning all,

    nmlc sorry that your relations are leaving you out. Who knows what kind of twisted personality thinks it's ok to leave you turning up to visit your own mother in hospital when she's been discharged. You have your dh and your sons though and they love you more than anyone else in the world. Hold that thought.

    Lainey I'm sorry about your little friend. I hope the news isn't as bad as you fear, but the price to be paid for a lifetime of love and devotion sometimes seems so very high.

    dumpling bad news it may be but you at least know what to do about Steve's diet so he's a lucky man. Hopefully the problem can be contained if not reversed. My sister and I are also following a low carb diet as we don't want to take after our dad. The complications that he has had from diabetes type 2 have been horrific. It's a road that we never want to go down.

    To the rest of you I'm sending the biggest hug that I can manage.

    It's dull and wet here today. The first load of washing has just finished so that can go in the dryer and the whites can go in the wash. The House Troll got stuck in one of his long sleeved school shirts on Wednesday so I had to go and buy him new ones. I didn't buy the next size, I bought the one after so hopefully they'll last him. I've no idea who he takes after. According to his baby book if you plot the parents heights you should end up with a child whose height when fully grown is somewhere between the two. I'm 5 ft 1 and his dad was 5 ft 6. The HT is 13, taller than me and already has size 7 feet (his dad was a 7). Maybe I should stop feeding him. He's now at the stage where he's useful because he can reach things that I can't without going to fetch the little ladder :rotfl:

    I think tru may be busy building chicken barricades. I've seen something about an Avian flu outbreak and DEFRA advice..... I hope her feathery ladies are ok.

    Take care all of you
  • Nelski
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    Morning lovelies :wave:

    Slept in till 8 today which was just lovely so warm and cosy :) could have stayed there all morning tbh but I have to go round to James martins this morning of course...dont want to let him down ;) and have my befriending call too.

    Weather damp and grey again but I'm grateful not to have the snow and ice some of you are facing. hip is really painful today so im blaming the dampness..roll on getting it sorted.

    Plans for today are pretty loose but I do have a few dying bananas so will probably turn them into some banana bread later. Dinner is going to be the left over lamb tikka from last week and some flat breads.

    hope Rosie has a peaceful time... spoil her rotten :)
    Holly yes I love my book club girls we are all very like minded despite the age differences and Im sure will be friends for life
    NMLC Thats awful and I would definitely challenge them about it ..who do they think they are leaving you out of important information about your mum :mad:
    Dumpling Glad becky is settling down a bit sorry to hear about Steve but at least you know how to control it

    Right time for James ...see you all later
  • LaineyT
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    Morning everyone,

    Nmlc am so sorry that you having to deal with family conflict at the same time as worrying about your Mum.
    AOD what a lovely idea re the concert, you more than deserve the treat.
    Dumpling sorry to hear about Steve, the low carb /blood sugar diet has had some impressive results so you are definitely doing the right thing.

    Just back in from the stables, it is cold, wet and totally foul out there so it's good to be back in the warm, DOH has gone out to breakfast with his eldest so it's just us girls for a while, I can feel an urge for eggy bread coming on :)
    Thanks again for all your kind thoughts and words about Rosie, we will certainly cherish every day that she is still with us, how precious our pets are to us all.

    Right, brekkie is calling, have a good day folks x
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