Rented House advice

HampshireH

No chance they will give her a tenancy. She owes money. Won't pass reference. Won't pass affordability.

Why would you go down the route of ruining you life over this.

A can will haunt you. You will be living with your parent for at least the next 6 years because no one will rent to you.

HampshireH

I'm beginning to think this is a 1st class wind up because we have most certainly all wasted our time here this evening

Ms_Chocaholic

Too true HampshireH

Paul_Jones_1984

Vintage,
I'm in work this week, so that's why I can't do anything, apart from email, until the weekend.
It may seem like I'm not acting, but as I explained I'm very nervous about being accused of harassment.

No way will my parents offer me any money. I'm giving them money, so they're happy for me to stay for now.

Ms_Chocaholic

Paul

Does your ex leave the house?

Is this set times each day?

Do you know a locksmith or are you handy or could your dad or an uncle help you out?

Take a few days off work and sit and wait along the street, wait for her to go out, change the locks and BOOM you're in. Stay in the house, preferably with someone with you until she returns. Don't answer the door (she can't accuse you of anything then) but say she is no longer permitted in the house but you are happy for her to arrange for her to get her belongings.

Call the Police if you need to to prevent a breach of the peace.

She has no rights to be in the house, if she calls the Police to say you have locked her out, when the Police turn up show them your tenancy agreement that she has no rights to stay.

Paul_Jones_1984

Ms Choc.

Thank you very much.
I hadn't even thought about discussing with the police directly.
They won't charge me anything. I've always avoided having anything to do with the police, but in this situation it makes sense.

Any suggestion of getting in trouble with the police makes me very nervous.
I'd be delighted to have my ex girlfriend leave the house and me move back in. Obviously that's what I want.

I guess I have nothing to lose by speaking to the police. Worst case scenario, they tell me to go to a solicitor.

I've always thought that any domestic dispute and the man must leave. That's why I left the house. I didn't want an argument going on, waking up the baby etc.

Paul_Jones_1984

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

Paul

Does your ex leave the house?

Is this set times each day?

Do you know a locksmith or are you handy or could your dad or an uncle help you out?

Take a few days off work and sit and wait along the street, wait for her to go out, change the locks and BOOM you're in. Stay in the house, preferably with someone with you until she returns. Don't answer the door (she can't accuse you of anything then) but say she is no longer permitted in the house but you are happy for her to arrange for her to get her belongings.

Call the Police if you need to to prevent a breach of the peace.

She has no rights to be in the house, if she calls the Police to say you have locked her out, when the Police turn up show them your tenancy agreement that she has no rights to stay.

I thought that if I did this, then I would be the one in trouble with the police. Especially because there are young children in the house.
I've always thought it's the man that needs to leave and sort it out legally later.

Ms_Chocaholic

Paul_Jones_1984 wrote: »

I thought that if I did this, then I would be the one in trouble with the police. Especially because there are young children in the house.
I've always thought it's the man that needs to leave and sort it out legally later.

If say you had a joint mortgage and you did this, that would be frowned upon. Also if they were your children, again this would be frowned upon.

However in this situation it is very different, your ex has no right to be in the property and you have no responsibility for the children, they are not yours.

Can anyone else on this thread confirm (for OP's sake) that he would be well within his rights to do this.

Cakeguts

I just want to shut the door on the LHA and the ex girlfriend taking over the tenancy. The chances are if this is a nice house in a nice area the LHA won't cover the rent being charged so the landlord will not accept the girlfriend as a tenant. This is apart from the fact that she will fail all the checks.

Paul_Jones_1984

Thanks Ms Choc,
That makes sense I guess.
The cases I've heard about were probably what you've described, joint mortgage etc. Not a situation I've been in before.

Well, I it looks like there are options here.
Can't say I'm looking forward to such a situation with my ex girlfriend.
It's one thing to post online advising someone to grow a pair etc, but actually going ahead and starting that confrontation is very different in reality.

The advice here is different to what others have advised me (mostly along the lines of, ignore it, not your problem, leave it to the landlord, don't cause a scene, there's nothing they can do, you don't have money, they won't take you to court, it's not worth their while, call their bluff, sell your car, switch to cash in hand work, move abroad, etc, etc).

So maybe you can see why it's taking me a while to get my head around things.