The Cottage Dream

Runders

julicorn wrote: »

It also sounds like you had lots of interest for your house, so that's really good to know because in case you do decide to move, it looks like you'd be able to find a buyer quite quickly.

Also, it's never to late to change careers! There's probably lots of transferable skills you already have from your job, although project management skills will no doubt come in useful as well.

Hey Julicorn, the response to my house/home was amazing. Everyone that looked at it loved it and one guy even said it was the nicest house he'd seen in my area I'm always tinkering with it, so hopefully that will continue to be true if I do sell again in the future.

I think part of my problem re careers is that my self confidence in my skills has gone down the pan. I can't sell myself to companies because I don't believe in myself. Which is ridiculous because I can run an offshore survey with my eyes closed. I am hoping this stint in the office will build my confidence enough to be better at applying for jobs. A lot of people I know went this route before escaping from offshore.

Runders

JennyP wrote: »

Sorry to hear that, Runders. Have to say every time a house purchase has fallen through on me something better has come along a bit later. Fingers crossed it does for you too.

Hey JennyP, I am really hoping this is the case! My Mum always used to say that everything happens for a reason!

JennyP wrote: »

Have changed career a couple of times. It's always been nerve wracking but worth it. I look back and think I'd be a much duller person if I hadn't done different things. Project Management sounds really interesting. Know someone who did some courses to try and swap careers to do that and she was really enjoying it.

I've been in my career for 10 years, I have seconded to different departments in that time though. I think working for this company is almost like a safety blanket now if that makes sense. My brother was probably bang on when he said that I am just too scared to move and look for something else to do once I'd moved

julicorn

Runders wrote: »

I think part of my problem re careers is that my self confidence in my skills has gone down the pan. I can't sell myself to companies because I don't believe in myself. Which is ridiculous because I can run an offshore survey with my eyes closed. I am hoping this stint in the office will build my confidence enough to be better at applying for jobs. A lot of people I know went this route before escaping from offshore.

I think there's this weird phenomenon where you don't recognise your own skills and abilities any more once you've done a job for a few years. Do you ever train new staff, or work with people who have only started recently? I always find that really eye opening, because I feel like my job is really quite easy, but seeing others initially struggle with it reminds me how much I've learned, and how far I've come.
Sounds like a stint in the office is a good idea though, if you haven't worked in that environment in a while.

Kittenkirst

Runders wrote: »

Hey JennyP, I am really hoping this is the case! My Mum always used to say that everything happens for a reason!





I've been in my career for 10 years, I have seconded to different departments in that time though. I think working for this company is almost like a safety blanket now if that makes sense. My brother was probably bang on when he said that I am just too scared to move and look for something else to do once I'd moved

I could have written this post myself, I understand exactly what you are saying. Confidence in my abilities is low so I'm too scared to put myself out there for a new role but know my growth is limited (career wise and finances wise) if I stay put.

Is it worth getting some feedback from colleagues - we have to do this exercise at the end of the year and it massively helps me to see myself through others eyes a bit more (at least temporarily)

lindez

Hi Runders
Just read your diary, sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. I lost my dad in April this year and its really hard. He was 81 years old and had a good life though its still hard to not being able to see him anymore.
You are doing really, really well with your mortgage over payments and I hope you find your dream home in the shire.
I too live in an inner city suburb and my dream is to live in the countryside, though I am 59 now so I don't hold out much hope for my dream. You have time on your side and fingers crossed your dream will come true in the not to far distant future.
I have subscribed to your post and I will be willing you on. Your spreadsheet sounds amazing I will have to learn how to complete one. x

Runders

julicorn wrote: »

I think there's this weird phenomenon where you don't recognise your own skills and abilities any more once you've done a job for a few years. Do you ever train new staff, or work with people who have only started recently? I always find that really eye opening, because I feel like my job is really quite easy, but seeing others initially struggle with it reminds me how much I've learned, and how far I've come.
Sounds like a stint in the office is a good idea though, if you haven't worked in that environment in a while.

I think I am very much in this phenomenon. I regularly train new staff members, I am also involved in performance reviews for them. But yes, I see what you mean, it's like second nature to me where as they have to think a little bit more. I think I also need to learn to sell my skills in a way that non offshore roles will understand them - if that makes sense?

Runders

Kittenkirst wrote: »

I could have written this post myself, I understand exactly what you are saying. Confidence in my abilities is low so I'm too scared to put myself out there for a new role but know my growth is limited (career wise and finances wise) if I stay put.

Is it worth getting some feedback from colleagues - we have to do this exercise at the end of the year and it massively helps me to see myself through others eyes a bit more (at least temporarily)

Hi Kittenkirst, maybe we can cheer each other on on our quest for upping our confidence in ourselves. I like the idea about feedback from colleagues, I think asking my colleagues in the office would be my best bet there

Runders

lindez wrote: »

Hi Runders
Just read your diary, sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. I lost my dad in April this year and its really hard. He was 81 years old and had a good life though its still hard to not being able to see him anymore.
You are doing really, really well with your mortgage over payments and I hope you find your dream home in the shire.
I too live in an inner city suburb and my dream is to live in the countryside, though I am 59 now so I don't hold out much hope for my dream. You have time on your side and fingers crossed your dream will come true in the not to far distant future.
I have subscribed to your post and I will be willing you on. Your spreadsheet sounds amazing I will have to learn how to complete one. x

Hi Lindez,

Thanks for popping by I am really sorry to hear about your Dad. It is super hard, but it does get a little easier with time. You always miss them, and I still cry like a baby sometimes, but I can smile about all the fun things now too

If you want any help with the spreadsheet just drop me a PM

Runders

Hello all,

I've had a naughty few days - I was visiting the shire where I went out for dinner and drinks with friends. Last week my brother came to visit with his family for a couple of days as well. It was so nice to have them come and stay, it is the first time ever they have visited me here and I've been in this area for 10 years! It's always nice to be a tourist in the area you live and see it with fresh eyes. I'm also going away for 2 days this weekend - my poor bank account! I've needed all this though, it's nice to live a little again.

So I am going to set myself some September goals:
1 - No coffees out, apart from the 3 full loyalty cards in my purse
2 - Only eat out twice in total for the month
3 - No take aways
4 - Healthy eating and lots of batch cooking to keep costs down
5 - Make full use of my NT membership and other free days/evenings out

Wish me luck!

Runders

Mini challenge for today: NO FOOD BUYING!!!

My credit card is just full of mini shops here and there which all add up hugely. Today I am only allowed to eat from what I already have in, I have planned my three meals and got the things out and set them on the side. Hopefully this will also help my constant battle with my waistline!