Neighbours lean to destroying garden wall

Grenage

Add another course to the wall and see how they feel.

missile

Grenage wrote: »

Add another course to the wall and see how they feel.

Cheaper and more effective than instructing a solicitor :T

Davesnave

missile wrote: »

Cheaper and more effective than instructing a solicitor :T

Neither of those who've suggested this have explained how it would be achieved.

Of course, an angle grinder could deal with this in about 10 minutes flat, but I wouldn't recommend adding criminal damage to the mix here.

In any sort of dispute, it's usually better to occupy the moral high ground, rather than sink to the level of those opposing you.

missile

Davesnave wrote: »

Neither of those who've suggested this have explained how it would be achieved.

Of course, an angle grinder could deal with this in about 10 minutes flat, but I wouldn't recommend adding criminal damage to the mix here.

Do we really need to explain? :rotfl: The plastic sheeting stops mid way, lay a coarse of bricks or cement to form a gutter on OPs half of dividing wall. No need for an angle grinder

Davesnave wrote: »

In any sort of dispute, it's usually better to occupy the moral high ground, rather than sink to the level of those opposing you.

OP has tried several times to reach agreement with neighbour. :A

Davesnave

missile wrote: »

Do we really need to explain? :rotfl: The plastic sheeting stops mid way, lay a coarse of bricks or cement to form a gutter on OPs half of dividing wall. No need for an angle grinder

OP has tried several times to reach agreement with neighbour. :A

Great, but the plastic sheeting doesn't stop mid way, so an angle-grinder would be needed and the suggestion is a bodge-up, guaranteed to do nothing to solve the real problem: avoiding a dispute and getting the neighbour to behave reasonably without being backed into a corner and losing face.

The fact that the neighbour has done this in the first place is a pretty good indication of what they're like. They've bullied the previous owner and they'll do likewise to the OP, if allowed, but upping the anti in a physical manner is only one bad way of dealing with them.

This problem might be solved by the method described, but it's lousy psychology. If the OP wins this by an aggressive approach, I guarantee the other side will find a way to up the anti and make them lose elsewhere.

Brake fluid spilled on the car? Pet suddenly lost? Loud rap music from neighbour's side while they're out at work? There's a thousand ways.....

As you say, "Do I really need to explain?"

You might like an unsubtle, physical solution and be capable of it, but not everyone would be, perhaps including the OP.

Steph1078

Yes unsubtle & aggressive response is not what I’m aiming for - although I’ve thought about taking the damn thing down myself it’s just not worth it.
I only want it resolved so the wall gets fixed and if they need their leanto then a solution for that too.

As predicted nobody has come round to discuss. So next steps need to be looked into.

missile

Davesnave wrote: »

You might like an unsubtle, physical solution and be capable of it, but not everyone would be, perhaps including the OP.

Man up or turn the other cheek :A

Davesnave

missile wrote: »

Man up or turn the other cheek :A

The irony that you quote Gandhi in your sig isn't entirely lost on me, but I'm really not avocating any Jesus solutions here, so don't pin that on me!

Everyone is agreed that the situation is unacceptable and has to stop. The only thing we disagree about is the best way to achieve that.

Going out there and doing something physical might get instant results, but these will come at a price of an unpredictable follow-up. Getting the neighbour to accept there's a problem and giving them part-ownership of the solution is a smarter way.

The OP has the neighbour on the back foot, or they would have been round by now and discussing this. What's needed now is something to show the neighbour this isn't going away until it's sorted.

Agreement might take a while, but so do lots of problems that crop up when a house is bought. Since we've gone biblical, imagining others will have some kind of Damascene conversion is the unrealistic view. People need time to justify a change of position, especially to themselves.

missile

Davesnave wrote: »

The irony that you quote Gandhi in your sig isn't entirely lost on me, but I'm really not avocating any Jesus solutions here, so don't pin that on me!

Everyone is agreed that the situation is unacceptable and has to stop. The only thing we disagree about is the best way to achieve that.

Going out there and doing something physical might get instant results, but these will come at a price of an unpredictable follow-up. Getting the neighbour to accept there's a problem and giving them part-ownership of the solution is a smarter way.

The OP has the neighbour on the back foot, or they would have been round by now and discussing this. What's needed now is something to show the neighbour this isn't going away until it's sorted.

Agreement might take a while, but so do lots of problems that crop up when a house is bought. Since we've gone biblical, imagining others will have some kind of Damascene conversion is the unrealistic view. People need time to justify a change of position, especially to themselves.

Your suggestion of a solicitors letter will annoy the neighbour and may well further alienate OP within the local community.

it’s a small village attitude here where you’re supposed to be nice to neighbours & they already hate us

Davesnave

missile wrote: »

Your suggestion of a solicitors letter will annoy the neighbour and may well further alienate OP within the local community.

"All the above assumes that the neighbour refuses the best way of resolving this, which is reasoned discussion"