Can I stop my wife moving back in?

Mojisola

John_In_Lincs wrote: »

My wife and her new husband-to-be want to move in with me.

Her name is still on the rent card

four_candles wrote: »

What self-respecting man would want to move in with his fiancee's soon to be ex husband?

Someone who hopes to make John In Lincs' life so uncomfortable that he will move out and leave them in comfort in the HA property while he struggles to find somewhere else to live?

four_candles

Ames wrote: »

Would a private landlord let to someone with significant rent arrears and liability for rent on another property? Even if she hides those facts, she's not going to have a reference which will put off prospective landlords.

You're right, I suppose they'd have to rent it in his (the new bloke's) name. And it wouldn't surprise me if he's 'out of work' if he's willing to move up to the other end of the country at the drop of a hat!

Tabbytabitha

John_In_Lincs wrote: »

Clearing off the arrears will happen soon, but slowly.

Rather contradictory, don't you think?

Hoogle

I think the rules are no more than 3 nights a week staying in a council/housing association property for visitors not on the lease.

Change your attitude towards her say I cant wait for you to move back in I really hoped we could give our marriage another go, I miss you..... No way will her new fiance want her anywhere near you so he will have to do something for them both to live together.....

thorsoak

Have you talked to your housing association?

Tigsteroonie

thorsoak wrote: »

Have you talked to your housing association?

Come, come, thorsoak - you're normally more astute than this. Are you feeling okay?

John_In_Lincs wrote: »

As her name is still on the rent card here, she says she is legally entitled to move back here and there's nothing I can do about it. I can't check with my local housing association as they are closed until the new year.

moneyistooshorttomention

thorsoak wrote: »

Have you talked to your housing association?

That's my thought too - as I expect they are also struggling with how not just one but two people are apparently unable to find that £1,300. I would certainly need it explaining very clearly to me in their position as to why this was apparently proving so difficult.

Not saying it isnt genuinely proving very difficult for both of you - but it does need carefully explaining - as many of us would be wondering "How on earth?" about a sum that size and would want proof as to why it was apparently so difficult to find that.

robpw2

Hoogle wrote: »

Change your attitude towards her say I cant wait for you to move back in I really hoped we could give our marriage another go, I miss you..... No way will her new fiance want her anywhere near you so he will have to do something for them both to live together.....

or it could end up a really confusing cuckold situation with the wife having both her lovers living with her :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

thorsoak

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

Come, come, thorsoak - you're normally more astute than this. Are you feeling okay?

No .....can't find the glasses and am suffering from the Dreaded Lurgy...... :-(

iammumtoone

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

That's my thought too - as I expect they are also struggling with how not just one but two people are apparently unable to find that £1,300. I would certainly need it explaining very clearly to me in their position as to why this was apparently proving so difficult.

Not saying it isnt genuinely proving very difficult for both of you - but it does need carefully explaining - as many of us would be wondering "How on earth?" about a sum that size and would want proof as to why it was apparently so difficult to find that.

£1,300 is alot of money to alot of people. I bet there are plenty who could not just get their hands on that amount, me included in cash, although I would have options to borrow it if necessary.