LBGT Marriage / Babies

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I apologise in advance if I come off as nieve here... I certainly never expected I'd be writing this post so here goes...

My partner and I are looking to have a child together. However, the least complicated method of doing so is to get married. Marriage and least complicated... they don't sound like to words going together LOL.

However, I'm put off getting married due to financial reasons. I've been treated very, very badly in the past by people whom I loved, and who I believed loved me and have lost thousands and thousands of pounds in the process.

Since then I've managed to really make a name for myself and recently sold my LTD company. I have just over £100k in assets.

While my partner and I both work for ourselves now, we pretty much share all the money - it all goes into one pot and we just spend what we need. I contribute around 90% to this pot, however, I don't mind for a second her spending every single penny of it - at least while we are together...

In the terms of if we got married what would happen if we then ended up getting a divorce...

Would the easiest thing be to just have a prenup?
Where's the best place online to learn more about this?

I'm more than open to any other suggestions and ideas :)
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  • System
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    I don't think pre-nups are legally binding in the UK (might be worth googling?), and AIUI if the marriage lasts for 2 years or less the courts would seek to put you both back in the financial position you were in before you married.
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    avogadro wrote: »
    I don't think pre-nups are legally binding in the UK (might be worth googling?), and AIUI if the marriage lasts for 2 years or less the courts would seek to put you both back in the financial position you were in before you married.

    Damn' all those American songs lied to me... :eek:

    I did some Googling but honestly, the information seems so scattered. :(
  • Nick_C
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    Not sure why you consider it necessary to get married in order to have children.

    But more importantly, if you are so insecure in your relationship that you fear your partner may leave you and take half your money, then I think you shouldn't be having children together.
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    Nick_C wrote: »
    Not sure why you consider it necessary to get married in order to have children.

    But more importantly, if you are so insecure in your relationship that you fear your partner may leave you and take half your money, then I think you shouldn't be having children together.

    Not necessary but certainly less hassle. Otherwise, the sperm donor is the legal guardian and you've got to go through an adoption process for the child.
  • Ms_Chocaholic
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    Not necessary but certainly less hassle. Otherwise, the sperm donor is the legal guardian and you've got to go through an adoption process for the child.



    I don't quite understand. If you have a child together, the father gets PR for the child if he is named on the birth certificate which gives both parents equal standing. The father must go with the mother to register the birth in order to be put on the birth certificate.
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    I don't quite understand. If you have a child together, the father gets PR for the child if he is named on the birth certificate which gives both parents equal standing. The father must go with the mother to register the birth in order to be put on the birth certificate.
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    Surely if you have an anonymous sperm donor they are not named, why not go through IUI no requiremdnt of getting married?
  • svain
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    Adopt .... ?
  • System
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    As a same-sex couple a civil partnership may also be an option, but I am not sure what the legal difference is between that and a marriage.

    https://www.gov.uk/marriages-civil-partnerships
  • cyantist
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    Who would be the biological mother? Would they also be carrying the child?
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