Rocky marriage and paypal email

MichJ81

If someone fraudulently got your paypal details and purchased something, can they request that the confirmation email/receipt be sent to another email address or would it go to the email the paypal account is set up with?


Having a few problems in my marriage and just want to see if I am being naïve and lied to or if I am possibly wrongly accusing my husband.

Comms69

MichJ81 wrote: »

If someone fraudulently got your paypal details and purchased something, can they request that the confirmation email/receipt be sent to another email address or would it go to the email the paypal account is set up with?


Having a few problems in my marriage and just want to see if I am being naïve and lied to or if I am possibly wrongly accusing my husband.

What?


If you use paypal to pay for something, it will show up on your paypal account.


Not sure what you mean by invoice / receipt. But every transaction is there to be seen. What has actually happened?

IAmWales

They'd have to change the email on the PayPal account, and in doing that an email would also go to the original email address.

MichJ81

My husband is denying he purchased a dating website membership a while back even though it is showing up in his paypal account. He acted shocked about it when I asked him and says it wasn't him.


If I use paypal I get an email confirming receipt. I was wondering if that receipt email can be changed as he is trying to tell me it must have been hacked but I think he should have had an email at the time of purchase and if it wasn't him that made the purchase he should have queried it back then.

IAmWales

MichJ81 wrote: »

My husband is denying he purchased a dating website membership a while back even though it is showing up in his paypal account. He acted shocked about it when I asked him and says it wasn't him.


If I use paypal I get an email confirming receipt. I was wondering if that receipt email can be changed as he is trying to tell me it must have been hacked but I think he should have had an email at the time of purchase and if it wasn't him that made the purchase he should have queried it back then.

He would have had an email unless the account email had been changed, in which case he'd have been informed.

Have you/ he tried logging into the dating website with his email? If he doesn't use a regular password you'll be able to reset the site password if it is registered to his email account. If he refuses to allow you to do this ... you'll need to draw your own conclusions from that.

dandy-candy

What has he done since finding out? If he hasn't immediately changed his password and contacted PayPal about it then I would say something funny is going on.

Comms69

MichJ81 wrote: »

My husband is denying he purchased a dating website membership a while back even though it is showing up in his paypal account. He acted shocked about it when I asked him and says it wasn't him.


If I use paypal I get an email confirming receipt. I was wondering if that receipt email can be changed as he is trying to tell me it must have been hacked but I think he should have had an email at the time of purchase and if it wasn't him that made the purchase he should have queried it back then.

Well clearly there's a lot going on.


Ye he probably bought it, and ye you probably shouldn't check up on him? Sounds like you both need to have a chat, and not the accusatory type.

MichJ81

Comms69 wrote: »

Well clearly there's a lot going on.


Ye he probably bought it, and ye you probably shouldn't check up on him? Sounds like you both need to have a chat, and not the accusatory type.

I wasn't checking up on him. The money came out of our joint account so I saw the transaction!

Comms69

MichJ81 wrote: »

I wasn't checking up on him. The money came out of our joint account so I saw the transaction!

In any case, think you need to talk and decide what you both want

fairy_lights

MichJ81 wrote: »

My husband is denying he purchased a dating website membership a while back even though it is showing up in his paypal account. He acted shocked about it when I asked him and says it wasn't him.

Of course it was him. What you decide to do with that information is up to you, but I don't see how it's going to be easy to work through this if he won't even tell you the truth.

cyantist

MichJ81 wrote: »

My husband is denying he purchased a dating website membership a while back even though it is showing up in his paypal account. He acted shocked about it when I asked him and says it wasn't him.


If I use paypal I get an email confirming receipt. I was wondering if that receipt email can be changed as he is trying to tell me it must have been hacked but I think he should have had an email at the time of purchase and if it wasn't him that made the purchase he should have queried it back then.

I get almost daily emails telling me I've bought something through Paypal, and asking me to click on the link if it wasn't me that purchased it. Some look quite convincing so let's just say he did get an email at the time, he may have assumed it was spam and just deleted it and not really thought much of it. And if they can hack his Paypal I'm sure they could hack his email as well. Though to be fair all this is unlikely (though not impossible).

But like others have said, how he acts now and what he does will probably tell you what you need to know.