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  • redofromstart
    redofromstart Posts: 5,837 Forumite
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    How you are feeling this morning Pauline?
    My mortgage free diary: https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6498069/whoops-here-comes-the-cheese

    GNU Mr Redo

  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 95,562 Ambassador
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    HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »
    Oh Pauline I'm so sorry to hear your news. You must feel so shocked and adrift :(.

    I hope your OH and you can resolve things eventually. Either way we will do our best to support you.

    I'm so pleased you've started a diary so that we can help you with practical advice and emotional support. Xx

    Seconded by me.
    Be kind to yourself. xx
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  • jwil
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    Good luck with it all, what a shock xx
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  • fay66
    fay66 Posts: 744 Forumite
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    Afternoon Pauline sorry to hear your newsx
    Debt £10k , HMRC £3K old debt £4k Jan 2021
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  • edwink
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    Just wanted to wish you all the best 117Pauline. You sound positive which is a good start.

    Edwink x
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  • Freedom_beckons
    Freedom_beckons Posts: 10 Forumite
    I too have had a week from hell which made me resign. But you will come through.... I promise yesterdays chip papers n all that. That is what I have to believe... You will be okay xx
  • 117pauline
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    Hi there

    Thanks everyone for your good wishes, they are much appreciated.

    I have been out twice today, done a bit in the garden, fed birds, eaten properly (no chocolate), done about 12 surveys and found my CV.

    Also I have watched Despicable Me which I have never seen. Perhaps not quite what I should be doing but I needed the escapism.

    There is quite a bit of displacement activity going on however I am OK. Not brilliant but determined. I have purposefully not contacted him and you know what? I am OK.

    So I am a work in progress, bit battered but feeling excited at the new chapter about to begin.

    Take care everyone
    Pauline
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  • HairyHandofDartmoor
    HairyHandofDartmoor Posts: 13,960 Forumite
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    Displacement is fine Pauline because you need to take care of yourself. You've also done some useful and practical stuff like finding your CV, so that is a good mix of activities :).

    And well done for going out :T.
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  • Honeysucklelou2
    Honeysucklelou2 Posts: 4,806 Forumite
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    Well done for getting out. Feeding the birds and pottering around the garden are great things to do as they make you appreciate the natural world around.

    Sorry that you are going through such a tough time...thinking of you.
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  • System
    System Posts: 178,349 Community Admin
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    Pauline well done for getting out again and eating well. It's early days yet so slowly but surely is the way to go.

    Your partner may just need some time alone , I hope you manage to sort it out.

    Have a good day .
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