A Simpler Life 2018

SimpleLiving

With regards to the discussion on elderly folk, I think that unless we are in their shoes we can't possibly imagine what it is like to lose abilities such as hearing, sight, independence & mobility. I know I turn into a grumpy ole bat when I have a cold, bad back etc.
Not sure what the answer is though....

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Take each individual in their own right, see them as a person and not just an old problem, give older people a chance to be who they are without pre judging them and they might just surprise you with what they are, can still be and will continue to be within the community for as long as they are able. It doesn't matter how many years you've stacked up in life, you're still a person!

SimpleLiving

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

Take each individual in their own right, see them as a person and not just an old problem, give older people a chance to be who they are without pre judging them and they might just surprise you with what they are, can still be and will continue to be within the community for as long as they are able. It doesn't matter how many years you've stacked up in life, you're still a person!

Well said:T

jamanda

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

Hi GQ I was responding to a post a few days ago that said older generational folks sometimes become self absorbed and selfish and Monnas post responding to the first one.

That was me, and I have apologised. Incidentally, I am 65 on Tuesday, so no spring chicken.


The post was made in the heat of the moment and in view of my mother's view on life and her friends/siblings. They were all the same, apart from my Auntie Vi, who never, ever did anything for herself and looked after everybody else.


Once again, I apologise. I get around 3 hours sleep a night at present and the brain gets a bit addled.

Edit to add, I am also supporting my daughter and 3 grandchildren who have nothing due to recent divorce due to domestic violence (not on my daughter's part).
J

CRANKY40

Cottage_Economy wrote: »

I remember my parents using washing up liquid (fairy I think) as a bubble bath. Anybody else's family do that?

Oh yes.....we had that too.

DawnW

jamanda wrote: »

That was me, and I have apologised. Incidentally, I am 65 on Tuesday, so no spring chicken.


The post was made in the heat of the moment and in view of my mother's view on life and her friends/siblings. They were all the same, apart from my Auntie Vi, who never, ever did anything for herself and looked after everybody else.


Once again, I apologise. I get around 3 hours sleep a night at present and the brain gets a bit addled.

Edit to add, I am also supporting my daughter and 3 grandchildren who have nothing due to recent divorce due to domestic violence (not on my daughter's part).
J

What I took from your story Jamanda was an account of your own experiences, not a judgement of other people. I think perhaps all the stuff in the media which seems to be trying to pit one generation against another is making some of us a bit over sensitive (and this is coming from a 64 year old)

See it for what it is people, an attempt to divide us. I think a deliberate one, done on behalf of those who have a vested interest in maintaining the status quo, while the things that hold society together crumble around us. I will now go back into lurkdom, but I don't feel that Jamanda needs to keep apologising. We need to walk a mile in another's shoes etc etc

fuddle

jamanda. Don't be stressed. It could have been any of us. Heck, I've had a moan about my MIL on OS a few months ago and I've spent the past umpteen years being honest about my relationship with my mam on here too.

I just think there are ladies on here that fit the bill age wise but have worked hard to be independent and accountable who wouldn't dream of being a burden but know that age is creeping up and because they're sensible people they know that they have to put plans in place to change their lives just incase. Some posts touched nerves I think and I don't think anyone would want you to feel as if it was towards you personally. I think it's just about adding their point of view to the debate as a whole.

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Hugs Jamanda, we most of us have had to deal with the difficult and irascible behaviour of parents who are getting older and becoming hard work to stay patient with, it must be difficult for them too to remember that you are an adult child and not still the young child that they perceive you as. I was at my wits end and utterly worn out dealing with my MIL who had Louis body dementia and peopled the world with hallucinatory folks in vast numbers and expected me to make them go away you have my deepest understanding and sympathy and sadly nothing can make it go away until nature takes its course and that life ends. Hope you know we all care about you though? and any of us who are in such a stressful situation that dominates life 24/7 xxx.

CRANKY40

I wish you'd been my mum MrsLW. I was accepted for nurse training in London where we lived but when my mum left us and moved back up north I had to help my dad in the shop so the nurse training never happened. My mum would have been 75 this year but she died when I was 21. The person that she'd been seeing since before my sister was born (her best friend's husband, sigh) promised her all sorts. A posh house, gold jewellery......lots of things. She did get some of those (the two of them also moved in with my gran, guaranteed her mortgage on her right to buy council house then terrorised her until she left with them still in it. The Christmas that I was 21 they had a row and he punched her in the face. There had been a few minor injuries beforehand and she knew he had form because he'd given her best friend a detached retina when he was married to her. Mum died 2 days later of a brain haemorrhage.

I'm not telling you this for sympathy, merely to show that selfishness and self obsession isn't age or generation specific - well that's what I believe anyway. I didn't ever get to be a nurse but I'm happy with what I have. When MrC died I paid off the mortgage, then I moved somewhere smaller and bought a car and decent furniture with the money left over from selling the big house.

When MrC was alive I used to think my life was perfect (we lived in a wreck of a house and did up each room as we saved the money). I miss him but I'm still lucky. I never want to be like my mum, always looking to own the thing that she thought would make her happy, then the next thing, then the next thing.

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There's always room under the wing for another one CRANKY, I have so many lovely additions who call me Mummy Lyn and each and every one of them is precious xxx.