lost, lonely and heartbroken

Slinky

meer53 wrote: »

It must have been a desperate situation for your mother to leave on New Years Eve. My ex walked out on Christmas Day, leaving me sitting here with 2 children, one of whom was old enough to realise what was going on.

I refused to let what he did affect me, it was tough for the first few years but gradually, we became friends. I had to do this for my children, what he did, although extremely selfish, wasnt anything to do with them, it was his decision to have an affair, not theirs. My children have forgiven him, he's still their Dad, faults and all, but thats been helped by the fact that i've forgiven him too. I made the decision that i couldn't live the rest of my life hating someone, i'm just not made that way.

I think it's really sad that you never spoke to your mother after she left but i think it's even sadder that you still let it affect you like this.

No not desperate, she had a place all lined up to go to. She'd walked out a year previously, then come back again as living with her sister was 'ruining their relationship' and if she didn't move out 'they wouldn't be able to go on holiday together'. She then lived a separate life under the same roof as the rest of us for another year coming and going as she pleased before finally going. There was never any talk of her wanting to have us kids go with her, we were an inconvenience. And we were supposed to still be friends with her.......... She made her bed, she can lie in it.

You may think it's sad, it is I suppose, but I will never forgive the way she treated my darling Dad. The trust is long gone.

The_Ang

I might not be able to say something useful for you, but I am really sorry to this condition.
Talking about love in a marriage relationship, it is very complicated. In my opinion, love has different stages, forms, and depth.
Well, in the end, marriage will be like having an everlasting "life friend" or partner. It will not be something erotic anymore like how we were young. Therefore, I cannot interpret the word "Love" precisely.
Wish you all the best.