Elite 11+ shopping and chat thread part 2½

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redfox wrote: »

today's TCB daily clue is Livingsocial

Is that a barbed jibe?:D
Nah, you're alright - were the circumstances different from what they actually are, I could have been getting myself into all sorts of trouble, taking offence at something not intended:eek:. Happily I know that you're just telling us of a daily clue and it just happens to be this.

"Livingsocial" though - it's something that, were it not a clue and were it in a different context (assuming I recognise the context:rotfl:) would have hit a raw nerve for me. That's understandable, knowing I have Asperger's - but I have long gone past the nerve being raw anymore - knowing of my DISorder(:D) and the explanation therefore as to why my life has happened as it has - it's actually more of an amusement these days and therefore "Livingsocial", for me, is potentially funny. It's a slight chuckle I suppose now, when writing at this point, in the context of this clue coming up almost immediately after I had returned to the topic of Asperger's on this thread (but I was on topic as I only did that when someone else mentioned ASD first and ended up me replying. And replying and replying and replying:rotfl::o:rotfl::rotfl:).

Livingsocial. :think:I suppose I do live social, just in a different way to 'everyone else' and in a manner that just causes a load of inadvertent confusion and misunderstandings (NTs misunderstand other NTs but I think perhaps on a less frequent basis) on both sides, both me and people who aren't autistic. That came out wrong - it always does!:laugh: - I didn't mean to suggest that I only like autistic people because you'd have got the wrong end of the stick if you thought that was the case - I try to get on with everyone, usually okay, misunderstandings aren't that profound, but the communications disorder, the communications failures that it causes on - if I look at in detail like I always do, almost every dealing with anyone else (in fact, probably technically every dealing even if no-one becomes aware of the absolute slight difference me having autism made) - those misunderstandings, which aren't serious, just make me chuckle at them nowadays when I think about them later - as I keep doing these days (repetitive thought also a part of the condition, though that can affect other people too). I can see exactly why it happened the way it did. Still can't learn from it for next time though:rotfl::rotfl:. Because each situation is slightly different - nothing is absolutely and exactly the same in every respect without exception as that would be a replay of part of your life - for most people, slight differences in situations, ability therefore to translate from one to another, won't matter - but, for me, the tiny variation makes it completely and hugely different in almost every way(:rotfl: - perhaps a little exaggeration for effect but possibly not far off) - obviously if I've ended up making a real faux pas, which is not too infrequent as far as I know - maybe people are not telling me (and by that would have to be done in a way that was 'straight to my face' else the communication gets lost) - perhaps this reply by me is a faux pas now - if something went really the wrong way, I do try to ensure the same thing doesn't happen again and almost always then manage to succeed in doing that, so that it doesn't happen again.

Considerate, helpful person that keeps making efforts to try to ensure I'm not doing anything wrong. The disability does impose something extra on me, I have to make efforts that I think other people don't. (I often used to feel I was pushing my back out, to achieve what other people seemed to achieve without effort - I felt I always had to do more and then to reach only the same end result as they did - now I realise that that probably is the case, I am having to do more and that is the disability, that actually doesn't feel like disability, if ever I can 'feel' what a disability is like - I think you would, from non-autism but then are not autistic so don't have the disability so don't feel it, but I don't (or don't feel I do) probably because 'disability' is a concept that's not something concrete but it's a 'feeling', for the situation, and it's those sorts of things that I lack. And also because me doing the extra effort has always been that way - I've never had it any other way, to experience not doing, so is normal for me, the way things have always been and therefore not realised by me that I was really doing anything different from anyone else but I did feel at times I was having to do a little extra effort to achieve merely what others achieved - of course I never succeed in being part of a social group with non-autistic people - and the bit of extra effort to achieve other things is most probably the impact of the disability).

"Livingsocial". I wonder if that's the answer to the clue. Is there something behind this? Can you give us a clue? It's like a quiz question - it is a quiz question, probably, and I have missed the point:rotfl:. Well, how do you live social? I have no idea at all:rotfl:. (Goes into the meaning of the word "live" and then splits hairs over the meaning of "social", loses two-thirds of the audience and still doesn't get the point:rotfl:. Actually I do get the point - in a sense. I can see, from my POV, of why social things are a good thing to do and why you might like doing them. I like doing them too - except that I try to do them and don't have success. I just don't know how to do it. Again, it's all impressions and wrong impressions abound - people might think I am not interested but again that's a unintentional misunderstanding. Unless I start putting intention onto people, now I've been informed by others that suggests that maybe I am being naive (that missing accent again - anyway, that irrelevant, move on...) and actually people are doing things deliberately. I think perhaps they are sometimes, but on the whole, I would like to think (possibly naively) that the vast majority of the time they are not.

I see an opportunity for some banter with you over "Livingsocial", that doesn't quite work in written form. You say "Livingsocial". I reply "Livingsocial. Are you have a dig?:D Is that a dig?:D:D" And then we're all okay.

So I can actually banter. Maybe. Maybe not:rotfl:.

braveheart60uk

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Why did I not notice "a autistic..." in the video earlier? Should be "an autistic..." I have noticed it now. So, even then, it never escapes from my scrutiny (eventually). EDIT: Actually - watching further into the video, the video is by someone that tells me (via non-express means) that they are autistic. So it's not only neurotypicals that can miss out punctuation and the 'correct' wording. I think what this says is that different autistic people can be very different from each other. For me, seeing no apostrophe may be exaggerated - for them, sensory distractions may be more what they have. I think we have bits of everything that forms up autism but each autistic person has different degrees of each. (Another Savvy theory at this stage (I've not yet formed a firm view without going looking for, and eventually finding, more evidence:rotfl: - [chuckles] I am strange:laugh:).) Anyway, night-night:wave:.


Just another edit:rotfl: - yes everything's foreground there isn't really any background - but I don't hear everything jumbled on top of one another - instead it seems my brain handles all the vast range of sound, seems to like having lots of information all at once as it has space for all of it, instead I hear everything, all at reasonable level - unless someone really is shouting or whatever that then comes over just as that. I do seem to hear things though, even if they are quiet - I hear those things quietly (rather than missing them altogether as, it now seems to me, most people do). I'm not actually sensitive to noise - one of my relatives, who does not have autism, is, I think, really sensitive to noise and wakes up at the slightest sound - they had problems with noisy neighbours years ago - fortunately we now live away from such people - but I slept soundly all the way through when any slight noise from next door, for my relative, woke them up. Perhaps :idea: - who knows? - maybe the problem was people making noise next door - perhaps they hear human voices (anything from other non-autistic people) more, whereas I hear everything. I do miss stuff though as well - if I am concentrating on something, some other sounds I might not then hear, unless there are really like a shocking bang from somewhere that would stop nearly everyone in their tracks, but, ordinarily, if I'm not concentrating on something, I hear quite a lot. Then I also have things that I can't block out - I think the more you try to ignore something, the more you hear it instead (you can't do it that way - it's like the "do not think of Mickey Mouse" situation) - but mostly hearing stuff doesn't bother me. It's irritating pop songs that bother me - but because the specific song, for me, is irritating and, if that's out and about, I can't not hear it (I think things that irritate tend to infiltrate even more) - but, when pop music was fine (showing my age), if it's an old pop song that I like, then I've no problem with it at all. I still hear the song (and presumably can't not do) but that's fine because I like that song and it is nice. I've never been able to write college essays when I had the radio on - always had to write them in total silence. (In fact, I did get distracted once by someone playing a song, one that I actually like, outside when I was doing one of my exams at university. I think the result was it probably brought my mark down by a couple of marks or something, because it did distract me away and I slightly lost my thread of what I was writing and lost a small amount of time, but I still got an extremely good mark in the exam. I'm just... perfect:rotfl:, still do very well.) So, I've always needed silence to write essays at home and I was told that that was part of my autism when I was diagnosed decades later. I even couldn't even have the photocopier on in a room at work when I needed to concentrate on writing something. The easy solution - it was my room anyway - was switch the machine off, write the thing and then go back to the photocopying. So, wasn't really a problem as it was solved that way. I did actually, in my entire life(!), find one song I could have on and be able to write with it on - an instrumental. However, all other instrumental songs, same as all vocal songs I've yet heard, never been able to write with them on. Or read a newspaper - can't do that either with music on (at least not if a substantial song is played - I can manage reading if I have the TV on and a brief extract of a song comes on and that was all that was being played - they then go back to talking and I can then have that in the 'background' (even though I've said there wasn't one*) whilst reading - although I am sure, any heavy text (something that is more complex in most people's senses rather than a simple newspaper story) I would need TV off in order to concentrate on the high-level academic article.

Crikey:eek: - my edit now miles of text! I have said everything though now, I think:rotfl:. After all, you have now got the full picture and, had I missed any of the above out, you won't have got some of it and there would have been something missing.

:wave:


*actually said there isn't "really" one, so I have catered for this situation. There's isn't really - but, sometimes, there are things in the background sort of, like this situation of me having my TV on as background wallpaper to much I do (got it on now, in this way, whilst writing all of this). So I can work with TV on and write - and obviously depends what's on there - if I have a film on - at 'normal' level rather than volume on very quietly - and there's a scene with a sudden crashing sound or some "action" - obviously it diverts my attention onto it. And if an irritating song, one that is to me, comes on - I do have to switch it off, or mute the whole TV, if they play it for more than about a couple of seconds. But that's my 'irritating song' situation again - only seems to affect music made since 1998 - and not really sensitivity to sound per se. Just for clarity: I didn't say there wasn't any background and I haven't said there isn't any background. I have said there isn't really any background. And that single word - the word "really" - makes it completely different. Sorry - get you paying especial attention... and then you slip up and probably misunderstand me because it then probably has you focusing on something at another time that I didn't mean you to focus on.

I wish I was as eloquent with words. I find concentrating for more than a few minutes on something almost impossible. Thankfully my job requires small, intense, bursts of concentration.
The spectrum is add it days on the label, a spectrum ., for the past few days my Kryptonium has been intense colour, I see such intensity, I am lost for words. Beautiful sky and cloud colours, and so on. Oops over running work break lol.

Freewheeling

Afternoon all.


At lunch time I went to JL with my husband for hot chocolate and cake to use up the voucher that expires on Wednesday. I then went to Sainsburys for more chai. This time I went to a manned checkout and they accepted my SSM Fairy coupon with no problems :-). Then to Krispy Kreme for a free doughtnut, then on to Pat Val's for my 'birthday' cupcake. "Weren't you in here a couple of days ago?" Moi? Surely not. :A Sadly they'd run out of cupcakes anyway so she told me to come back tomorrow. After this I might have to lay low from Patty Vals for a little while until they forget my face. Or I need a disguise.


Oh yes, and I finally remembered to go to Hotel Chocolate for the chocolate lolly. It's actually bigger than I was expecting.....

Savvybuyer

braveheart60uk wrote: »

I wish I was as eloquent with words. I find concentrating for more than a few minutes on something almost impossible. Thankfully my job requires small, intense, bursts of concentration.
The spectrum is add it days on the label, a spectrum ., for the past few days my Kryptonium has been intense colour, I see such intensity, I am lost for words. Beautiful sky and cloud colours, and so on. Oops over running work break lol.

Thanks. I'm just going to have to do something - got a visitor.
Will be back hopefully (but will be several hours time) and will try and reply to you.

aau1

sarahskint wrote: »

I also did well this morning 2 x 5000, 2 x 2000, 3 x 1000 12 x 500 and 6 x 200. I got some gift cards also and they all worked

tbw wrote: »

My store had the same signage - but they still gave me vouchers ! I got 2000 and 5000 so am a happy bunny.

redfox wrote: »

crikey I was lucky at Sains this morning! 4 x £10 of petrol produced 1 x 5000, 1 x 2000 and 2 x 1000 :eek:

Maybe they are being more generous this time because I am certainly not usually that lucky :think:

Would you all stop winning the 5000s please? :mad:

I've only got 1x1000, 4x500 and 4x200

I'm taking the wife's car tonight so hopefully you will all have left some 5000s for me ....

Busylizzie

Just logging in quickly to say I've just been to Tesco Risborough and they have mags and crisps. HTH someone.

tweets

altojack wrote: »

I'm catching up this morning, just back from Co-op . I almost grabbed my coat and dashed out , you daft bat .

2010 :eek: how come I never saw that post back then

:eek: Glad you didn't grab your coat :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

tweets

Good Afternoon :hello:

:j:j:j Week off work :j:j:j

zippydooda

my tesco had the chicken crisps today. dated feb voucher worked fine