Little White Lies that we tell our Kids

Richie23_2

mummy_Jay wrote: »

another one my mother used was if the wind changes you'll stay like that

You mean thats not true????:mad: Richie 24years old!

Gale_10

I kinda agree with Radojo, my mum told me that I was *big enough and ugly enough to know better* all my life, and I was totally convinced that I was ugly until I was about........30.

Saying that, I know lots of kids that were told the same thing and remained untraumatised.

However, lies I have told my children, mainly my DD, who is now fourteen.
When it was the Millennium, she wanted to stay up 'til midnight and celebrate New Year with us. She was so grotty because she was tired that we turned on the TV at nine oclock, showed her Russia celebrating, told her it was midnight, lit a few fireworks and sent her to bed.

Another thing we said was *there are cameras in every room so I know if you are lying, I can check the cameras* - we had to tell her that we had taken the one out of the bathroom when she got a bit older for decency's sake. I am not sure if she believes it still, or not.

My favourite - this is one I heard about, it was when there was an eclipse of the sun a few years back. A man said to his son *if you keep doing that I am going to take the sun away........* Can you imagine the shocked look on the child's face...........priceless.

I guess it goes to show that we have to really be sure our children can take the humourous fibs we tell and that it wont scar them.

Still funny tho!

Gale

Sola

I made a point to my stepchildren about not automatically believing what an adult tells you - I told them Russia didn't exist, it was all a government conspiracy and the onion domes were really Brighton Pavilion.

I was told that if you got hiccups, it meant you'd made too much noise and you had to sit in silence until they went.

My Nan (strange woman) used to tell us that if we didn't behave, Napoleon would come and get us. And if we didn't stop fighting, Mum would leave us and we'd have to live in Nan's weird old cottage.

heather38

my mum told us that fairies lived in light bulbs and they told santa if we'd been good or not!

beefcarrot

We have never told our daughter what the ice cream van music is. She's decided that it must be people dancing in church and who are we to argue?

We've had problem getting my DS and DD to go to sleep at night. The "going to sleep nicely" fairy, who leaves stickers is doing a fabulous job at the moment!

Kazzajr

Some of these aren't what I would call little white lies, I have told my son some white lies - Some of the toys in the shops are Santa's and he is the only one able to bring them, and if you tell a lie your tongue turns black.

I would never resort to telling him that someone was going to take him away or he could become ill if he didn't do something he is told I think these are cruel methods and I have managed to discipline him fine without using these.

Diminutive

Congratulations for having to lie to your children, how do you ever expect them to trust you.

Santa is a magical thing.... but lying about the ice cream man and having to pretend some mythical character is spying on your kids to keep them in line. I feel sorry for your kids.

Are you really that bad at discipling your children?

Everything you've said are just excuses for you not to explain the truth to your children. Learn to say "No" to your children and give them a bit of respect and credit.

liuhut

My DD1 told my mum the other day that I am poor, my mum asked her why she thought that and she said that its because I always say that I don't have any money in my purse when we go to the newsagent...she ALWAYS wants a magazine and sweets.

bexsta-star

Diminutive I think that you have the wrong idea about this post. My plans were to create a magical world for my children. It is nice to think that a man/woman goes round playing music to make people happy. My 6 year old told me that when she hears the noise at school it makes her feel happy - how lovely is that. She believes in fairies, unicorns and ponies that speak and I go along with it - it's all about innocence and magic. Yes I could say no - no ice cream at lunch/dinner/bed time but when a child is fractious, hungry or tired a little white lie can go along way to keeping the peace. Also that cars are out of action, toys are just for looking at, sweets are not for eating - where is the harm in that. They make shopping trips a little bit easier and both parents and children have a more pleasent experience. The sensor/father christmas alarm thing is just a bit of fun. It stops them behaving badly for a minute and gives them time to think about their actions. It is a deterrent only. My version of Supernanny's Naughty Step (and yes we have one of these as well!!!). Children learn the truth soon enough. My OH dressed up as Father Christmas last year and we caught the 3 year old looking at him very sceptically. He's a bright little button and it won't be long before he cottons on. On the boogie man thing my mum told me that God saw everything naughty that I did and I would get paid back!!! And if anything bad happened it was because I had told a lie/pinched a biscuit/been mean to my brother etc. I hated this and have never done anything like that to my kids. However I am not here to judge other peoples parenting skills -often it's a case of muddling through, trying different things and hoping that all turns out for the best. Who is to say that my Mums child/religious take on What goes Around Comes Around wasn't a good deterrent after all - it certainly made me think twice about doing anything too naughty!!

beefcarrot

Diminutive wrote: »

Congratulations for having to lie to your children, how do you ever expect them to trust you.

Santa is a magical thing.... but lying about the ice cream man and having to pretend some mythical character is spying on your kids to keep them in line. I feel sorry for your kids.

Are you really that bad at discipling your children?

Everything you've said are just excuses for you not to explain the truth to your children. Learn to say "No" to your children and give them a bit of respect and credit.

I would like to think that I am fairly good at disciplining my children. I regularly say no to them and they are aware that if I (or my wife) threaten to do something, then it will happen.
My 3 year old and 4 year old live in a wonderful world where fairies exist and anything is possible. Why can't they have someone who watches over them and rewards them for good behaviour? It means that Mummy and Daddy aren't having a pitched battle about getting them to sleep and are able to get excited about something good happening. Is it lying? Yes. Is it harming the children psychologically? No.