Present idea.

gettingtheresometime

iammumtoone wrote: »

I must be odd I never expected a present from my ex nor did the thought even occur to me that some partners would buy one for giving birth.

It was both our decisions to have a child, ok I carried our son but thats due to human nature there wasn't a choice in that, if didn't want to carry a child I would have chosen not to have any.

I never thought to give him a present for providing me with the seed to have a wanted child so why would he give me something for having said child.

Like I say maybe this is odd/old fashioned thinking. I am sure whatever you buy your wife OP she will appreciate and congratulations.

Or another Americanism that's creeping in.....

Threebabes

With our 3, no I did not get a present. I probably would have been to0 tired/overawed/shocked to appreciate it ha.

pearl123

You don't need to give anything except time and love!

Batman2017

lika_86 wrote: »

If I was pushing a human being out my vag I'd expect more than a bunch of flowers to be honest.

For putting my life at risk and ruining my body after abstaining from anything fun for nine months I'd expect nothing less than a diamond and not a small one.

Not the money saving answer but then a divorce wouldn't be either...

Well all I can say is I’m glad I’m not married to someone so shallow as you. My wife isn’t materialistic and won’t be expecting anything but I’m happy to buy her something reasonable just as a small thank you.

lika_86

Batman2017 wrote: »

Well all I can say is I’m glad I’m not married to someone so shallow as you. My wife isn’t materialistic and won’t be expecting anything but I’m happy to buy her something reasonable just as a small thank you.

Then we're both glad we aren't married to each other :cool2:

DoubleDoors

Get her some exquisite delicious chocolates. None of your Milk Tray rubbish, maybe some Hotel Chocolat or hand made chox.

Marvel1

lika_86 wrote: »

If I was pushing a human being out my vag I'd expect more than a bunch of flowers to be honest.

For putting my life at risk and ruining my body after abstaining from anything fun for nine months I'd expect nothing less than a diamond and not a small one.

Not the money saving answer but then a divorce wouldn't be either...

To get there in the first place, you wanted the baby also.

However a present for something we both wanted! Seems daft to me.

happyandcontented

lika_86 wrote: »

If I was pushing a human being out my vag I'd expect more than a bunch of flowers to be honest.

For putting my life at risk and ruining my body after abstaining from anything fun for nine months I'd expect nothing less than a diamond and not a small one.

Not the money saving answer but then a divorce wouldn't be either...

Really? Probably best that you remain single and childless then!!:rotfl:

lika_86

happyandcontented wrote: »

Really? Probably best that you remain single and childless then!!:rotfl:

I'm planning to stay childfree

I'm not sure where the assumption I'm single came from though.

Kynthia

A gift isn't necessary and I didn't get one. However getting a special gift is lovely and as good a time as any to give your love something particularly special. I don't think it's as horrendous as some seem to think to feel gratitude to your partner for all they've been through to bring your child into the world and acknowledge that in some way. While both of you end up with the much loved baby after the whole pregnancy and labour, only one of you is dealing with restrictions, physical discomfort, the agony of labour and in many cases permanent changes to your body. That acknowledgement doesn't have to be in the form of a gift, and providing emotional and physical support is much more important, but I certainly would have been touched by a thoughtful gift that we could afford.