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Hi,

My wife is due to give birth in the next few weeks. Is it normal to get new mums an extra present(other than the new bundle of joy)? I was thinking about getting some flowers for her last day at work or after the baby is born?

I'd like to hear what you did for your partner or what you received?

Thanks
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  • lush_walrus
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    It's personal choice, lots do. My husband bought presents for me each time and gave them to me on the day of the birth to say thank you for carrying the child for 9 months. He bought jewellery for me for each and later each was engraved with our child's name. Each child will inherit the specific piece when they are older and will know it was worn by me and chosen by daddy. I wouldn't go for flowers or if you do maybe once baby is born and they are home. Before the birth there is a lo going on lots of presents from work and others. Flowers can't be taken into most if not all hospitals and you don't know how long they will be in for so might die before coming home.

    Google push presents.
  • Batman2017
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    thanks i will google that now.
  • pinkshoes
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    My parents brought me home cooked meals frozen in portions of two that I could pop into the freezer. The most wonderful present ever! Healthy delicious meals with no hassle and very little washing up.

    Hubby didn't get me a gift but made sure the house was clean, brought me cups of tea etc...

    I would not have wanted an actual gift. Having a baby was enough.
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  • Spendless
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    I came home from hospital after having our 2nd to discover husband had bought and had installed a dishwasher. Became a godsend.
  • jamiehelsinki
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    I bought my ex diamond earrings when our daughter was born, the problem is that the birth usually comes as household income drops so money might be tight.
  • lika_86
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    If I was pushing a human being out my vag I'd expect more than a bunch of flowers to be honest.

    For putting my life at risk and ruining my body after abstaining from anything fun for nine months I'd expect nothing less than a diamond and not a small one.

    Not the money saving answer but then a divorce wouldn't be either...
  • sarah69696pink
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    I'd say its quite a personal thing - if I was to be given a gift I'd want it to be personal and related to our special family relationship.
    Personally I love flowers and my husband often gets me the flowers I had in my wedding bouquet which I think is lovely, so if she is planning on being at home for a couple of weeks before new arrival (I know you can never know for definite) some flowers as a well done you've finished work would be a nice gesture, but then i would not see this as my 'push present', and like others say work may also give her flowers so be aware of this.
    I think jewellery or something similar that you can keep would be thoughtful.
  • goodwithsaving
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    lika_86 wrote: »
    If I was pushing a human being out my vag I'd expect more than a bunch of flowers to be honest.

    For putting my life at risk and ruining my body after abstaining from anything fun for nine months I'd expect nothing less than a diamond and not a small one.

    Not the money saving answer but then a divorce wouldn't be either...

    I hate the way society has become. Push presents are naff. It used to be that eternity rings were given, but the term 'push present' and the attitude of the above just makes me cringe. Regardless of whether it's meant as a joke.
  • iammumtoone
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    edited 24 September 2017 at 12:37PM
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    I must be odd I never expected a present from my ex nor did the thought even occur to me that some partners would buy one for giving birth. I would have thought it strange if he had given me something.

    It was both our decisions to have a child, ok I carried our son but thats due to human nature there wasn't a choice in that, if didn't want to carry a child I would have chosen not to have any.

    I never thought to give him a present for providing me with the seed to have a wanted child (I couldn't have done it without him) so why would he give me something for having said child.

    Like I say maybe this is odd/old fashioned thinking. I am sure whatever you buy your wife OP she will appreciate and congratulations.

    My ex did do practical things like taking extra time off work when I came out of hospital. He stopped going out in the evenings for a while after the birth. He did his share of changing nappies - all those things are worth far more than monetary gifts. Not that I am suggesting those who give presents don't do those things as well but make sure you don't forget about that side OP
  • gettingtheresometime
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    I hate the way society has become. Push presents are naff. It used to be that eternity rings were given, but the term 'push present' and the attitude of the above just makes me cringe. Regardless of whether it's meant as a joke.

    Well reading some of these replies makes me think I married a) a tight wad or b) unromantic as I didn't get a pressie from hubby on the birth of my son

    Good job then that his other qualities totally out weighs his lack of thought!
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