Buying a house with partner. He's paying deposit. We have 2 children.

DCFC79

Same thread here

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5712448

Red-Squirrel_2

Lauralou79 wrote: »

I can't believe the people that are claiming you should be married after 8 years. I've just bought a house with my partner of 6 years no plans for marriage tho I'm sure it'll happen when we get around to it. However it isn't the be all and end all of a relationship. Plenty of marriages end due to the pressure of it all and plenty non married people have long standing relationships.
I feel that the fact we've committed to a house purchase and mortgage has given us a good sign of commitment to each other!
As for the original Poster it's a difficult situation and maybe more discussion is needed if both parties aren't completely happy with the scenario.

There's no commitment like a marriage. If you plan to be together for the rest of your lives I don't know why you wouldn't do it. There are substantial financial benefits for both of you, and protection for both of you if you do separate.

Guest101

As I said in the other thread.


If he had saved up from wages which he got due to your support, as you said in your OP, I would fully agree.


But this is an inheritance and he can do as he wishes with it. The fact that you'll get a house to live in is a benefit to you. If you are already planning your split I'd say he should keep the money for himself and secure a home for himself and the children.