School changing daughters class

Timpu

Happened to me, I was moved into a class where I knew no one. Mum went in and we were able to work through a compromise. Much like your daughter, undoing things was not possible. While I was upset at the time, things worked out due to supportive teachers. I certainly didn't lose out. I think teachers were as puzzled as we were as to why it's been picked out and put in with with that particular group.

susancs

Both my daughter's changed their half of years in Secondary school and in both cases it worked out well as they made friends in both halves of year.

My eldest had to change to the other half of the year due to an issue with GCSE top sets having too many pupils (had a lot of top set pupils in all subjects in her year) in year 10. She would have preferred to remain in her old form but adjusted quickly and has a large group of friends. In fact she found that the subject teachers were often better in the top sets in the other half of the year.

Similar to your child, the school had to adjust my second child's form and move her into the other half of the year to even out numbers. She is quite shy so was a bit worried, but she quickly adjusted.

Mumin2017

Thank you for sharing your stories it's nice to hear things turned out so positive for your kids. Feeling much better and more importantly so is my daughter

Tygermoth

As an army kid with a dad that did short rotations I changed school at least every single year, on several occasions every six months. A number of these schools were international schools with different teaching styles, systems and outlooks.


Kids can be really resilient and sometime knocking them out of their set friendships can lead them down interesting paths.


I learned I can talk to pretty much anyone and to make friends quite quickly. I also became very good at working out group dynamics and to hit the ground running. It was also really good as highlighting that things change, not always for the better, but adapting and having a positive outlook makes a massive difference.

Fireflyaway

Once the initial shock is over your daughter might well get on better than you think. My daughter has just started a new school where she didn't know anyone and now has friends. It can take longer for some kids but it will probably be OK.
As a parent the instinct is to leap in and do whatever to 'make it right' but sometimes the greatest gift is to teach kids resilience. Let them find coping strategies and deal with stress rather than fall to bits or run away from issues.
I wouldn't be surprised if your daughter copes better than you think and grows in confidence as a result.

Wannabedebtfree01

My DD's class has been changed 2 weeks into the new year as well, which meant the lesson timetable she had was wrong. She didn't have the correct books and stuff with her, and on the first day of the new timetable didn't have her PE kit either, as on the old timetable she had PE on a Tuesday so ended up having to do the lesson in her pants