School changing daughters class

pogofish

Several of my schools used to relish doing this and dishing out the punishment/tin room time if you dared cross the arbitrary line in the playground to see them at break

Usually with the "it will be better for you both" excuse but I still think they just liked to see kids suffer.

BorisThomson

Mumin2017 wrote: »

I hope so seeing her upset this morning was horrible especially when school was a place shed previously loved attending. My main question really is if they dont agree to change her back could i report to the school governors

You can report if you wish, but there's no reason why the governors would intervene.

Speak to her tutor and ask for her to be buddied up. Reinforce the positive aspects of the move when she's home, don't be unsympathetic but also don't let her dwell. I'd bet by the end of the month she'll be settled and happy in her new group.

maman

Mumin2017 wrote: »

I hope so seeing her upset this morning was horrible especially when school was a place shed previously loved attending. My main question really is if they dont agree to change her back could i report to the school governors

You can but I doubt it would be successful. It's not as if your daughter is being singled out as she's one of 10.

From what you've said, the numbers in the year group haven't risen since Year 7 just that they need to offer higher level groups to more pupils (presumably as a result of end of year assessment). If that's the case then the school is doing their best to offer the challenge needed for the pupils to progress so not to be complained about.

As your only other option is to move schools where she'd not know anyone then I'd focus on helping her to settle, cope with work etc. Ask the HOY if tutors could help by pairing her with other girls in a similar position, in same ability groups. Also comment on the boys. This is a ploy to get the boys to work but it's not fair on your daughter being distracted. Ask advice about what she should do when they keep chatting.

PasturesNew

Somebody had to be moved, if not her then I bet anybody else would feel the same.

Kids move house, town, county, country all the time.

She might make better friends.... or more ....

You can't just moan because your kid did. Life sucks a lot of the time and that's just how it rolls.

balletshoes

Mumin2017 wrote: »

Thank you all for your input it's good yo hear other people's views. She's been incredibly upset as she struggles with any sort of change in or out of school and gets quite anxious something I made the school aware of in year 7. I'm really concerned about her education too as she's feeling so uncomfortable in her new setting that she's no concentrating add to that she's now sitting with boys who are distracting her. I've spoken to the school and I have a meeting with hoy tonight although I've already been told it will be very difficult to put her back as the other side is now full stating because she is clever and the higher sets were full. Also said they chose her because she shows maturity beyond her years, doesn't help me calm her fears though

all you can do is, calmly and in person, put your daughter's point across in the meeting with the HoY. Yes, 10 children have had to be moved to even up the sides, but your child is unhappy about it. She feels uncomfortable and left out.

balletshoes

Mumin2017 wrote: »

I hope so seeing her upset this morning was horrible especially when school was a place shed previously loved attending. My main question really is if they dont agree to change her back could i report to the school governors

i would say no - but wait and see what the outcome of the meeting with the HoY brings.

Marvel1

My nephew changed schools last week, leaving all his friends behind, coping all fine, happens all the time.

FBaby

Been there and yet, it's upsetting. They work so hard in Year 7 to build their friendship network, being taken away feels like all the efforts they put in was for nothing.

The same happened to DD and she was totally taken aback. The reasons were exactly the same (top sets full). She struggled a bit in the first few weeks, but she made new friends much quicker than she thought she would (and did in Y7 when she knew nobody at all) and a couple of months later, she came home saying that this Year group was so much cooler, she couldn't believe she'd thought differently before.

In Year 10, she was changed group yet again, but by then, she'd become the 'one who gets along with everyone and who everyone likes', and she went from one group to the other. In her last year, she actually attended another tutor group, and the teacher got so use to seeing her, he didn't even know she wasn't in that group!

I think looking back, she will say that even though these weeks were not fun at all, it really help her learn to make friends and most importantly, to realise that you could become friends with people you never thought you'd get along with before actually getting to know them. I hope your DD's experience will be similar.

Mumin2017

Thank you I hope so too. Meeting didn't really go the way I hoped. Moving her back looks like it can't happen without disrupting another child which I don't want to do either. It's a case of suck it up or look at other option and as I really like the school this isn't something I want to do. Teacher was actually quite helpful. Her and my daughter are meeting tomorrow alone to discuss ways of helping her to adapt and forge new friendships. I think the school wants to push her forward with another set of high achieving girls and hinted that perhaps certain friends within her friendship group may not be a great idea pushing forwards. Thanks for your replies. Fingers crossed things will work out x

maman

Thanks for letting us know. I'm sure the school said all they could without 'naming and shaming' others who might have been a bad influence. D com back in a few months or a few years when she's got all her Level 9s!:D