Neice pulling mocking faces

rach_k

Most children go through phases of being cheeky/rude so to decide at 7 that your niece is going to be trouble seems unfair and makes it more likely that she will so I'd suggest keeping your daft opinion to yourself.

I would allow my children to be rude but grandparents and aunts/uncles are usually more lenient. IMO they're supposed to be, that's what makes them so much fun.

On the positive side, it sounds like you're gearing yourself up for full on engagement in the mummy wars. I'd suggest forward facing car seats, forward facing prams and homeschooling as topics to look into next!

GlasweJen

It depends on the child and the context imo. I don't have kids but have 4 nieces aged from 1 year old to 14 years old who I see regularly and keep overnight on a regular basis.

My sisters youngest is a cheeky little madam, she's 8 and won't do a single thing her mum says. She calls her Dad a fat !!!!!! if he takes her toys away for her misbehaving, mum is a !!!!! or a witch, you get the picture. At our house nothing like this happens; she eats what she's given, does as she's told and plays nicely with the toys we have here for her.

We've never allowed naughty behaviour outside of play time where my sister spoiled her because she's her baby and her last baby. The child totally turns when my sister is around which is sad because she's a delight for us. Even my mother can't get her to behave but for 7 long years she was the only grandchild and my mum would let all 4 of them away with murder.

System

My youngest got away with all sorts when his Dad started working away. He didnt get away with anything when he was with me alone but when Dad came back... it was embarrassing. He was about 7 i suppose. I'd try and correct him and his Dad would tell me to leave him alone.

Thankfully the phase didnt last long. I guess spending more time with me than his Dad corrected him. I hate cheeky little $h!tes.

If no one is going to correct your niece then she won't change.

System

rach_k wrote: »

Most children go through phases of being cheeky/rude so to decide at 7 that your niece is going to be trouble seems unfair and makes it more likely that she will so I'd suggest keeping your daft opinion to yourself.

I can recall pulling faces and being cheeky when I was about junior school age. However, the time I poked my tongue out at my parents, I got a smack for being rude! Needless to say I didn't do it again.

System

GlasweJen wrote: »

My sisters youngest is a cheeky little madam, she's 8 and won't do a single thing her mum says. She calls her Dad a fat !!!!!! if he takes her toys away for her misbehaving, mum is a !!!!! or a witch, you get the picture.

I take it the exclamation marks are for a word rhyming with witch?

Loz01

Do you ever tell your niece off? My own niece is 14 now and I have no issue telling her off if I think she's being rude, same for my nephew! I have always told them off just as a parent would and surprise surprise, they always behave for me, never back chat etc as they know I don't allow it.

GlasweJen

avogadro wrote: »

I take it the exclamation marks are for a word rhyming with witch?

Yes got it in one.

I've never lifted my hand to any of the kids or properly told them off really. If any of them acted up I'd just stop whatever fun thing we were doing and we'd do something boring instead. Playing up in McDonald's- fine we'll have sandwiches at home, damaging a toy - well you'll just have to help me clean, act bratty or cheeky - fine well if you want to act like a baby I'll change the wifi password and you can go colour in lake a baby (only applicable to the older 2) or give me that big girl toy and I'll let you have one of the babies toys to play with if you can't act like a big girl.

My sister is amazed that I can take her youngest to the cinema and sit down restaurants, neither of those experiences ever end well for her.

System

GlasweJen wrote: »

My sister is amazed that I can take her youngest to the cinema and sit down restaurants, neither of those experiences ever end well for her.

So it's obviously chosen behaviour on the part of the child. I am gobsmacked that someone would let their 8 year old call them a 'female canine' :eek:

Silvertabby

This is nothing new. My sister found from a very early age that if she wanted something she only had to scream, hold her breath, go purple, and our parents would panic and give her whatever it was she wanted - even if it was something of mine.

When she tried this trick in the presence of my mum's sister, my aunt just tickled her. End of breath holding.

pollypenny

Mojisola wrote: »

I would be making sure that it didn't happen again - very disrespectful!

Your Mum might think it's cute because her grand-daughter is only 7 - it won't seem so adorable when she's a teenager and is treating Grandma badly because she's learned that it's acceptable to do so.

There's no only 7 about it. She'll be off to junior school soon, toddler/ infant years behind her.

I'd be asking her to come into the kitchen or somewhere fir a quiet word and spell out my disappointment at her behaviour.