New relationship

Kirstie_

I used to visit here a while a go but lost my details, so starting again.

I've been working for a company for the last 6 months and I've got close to a member of the IT staff, He is based in another office and everytime I've rang IT and they've had to visit its always been this guy, We e-mail each other talking about the most random things, we've met up for lunch and I've been stunned I have allergies and I am coeliac, he arrnaged a picnic with this in mind especially for me.

Now he is based in another office in another city and he visits all over the UK, I've not seen him for a while (We text and call as much as possible)

We've only been going out for just a few months and I really want to ask him if we can have a UK city break one weekend, somewhere like London or Edinburgh. I just want some quality time with him instead of me break PC, he comes or we have lunch or a night here or there.

- If I asked him to come away for a weekend, do you think he might freak out?
- I'd pay but I know he will offer to pay or at least half. How have others got over that?
- He is back from his current assignment tonight, he said if I wanted to meet up tomorrow he wouldn't say no. Would that be better asking face to face or over text?

He has a picture of me and him on his phone/his desk and all his colleagues say he only talks about me and if crazy for me. I'd like a photo of us too. Do you just ask for a photo, generally I've never really wanted a photo of me/someone at work

Thanks doe any help!

chesky

What do you mean by 'going out'? As in we've only been going out for just a few months.

UKTigerlily

Well, I don't know the guy but it doesn't sound like he would freak out
You can get a photo on your weekend away! Why not ask him for a copy of the one he has of the two of you? After all, if he has it he must like the photo & you plenty, so would understand you wanting a copy

If he offers to pay half, I guess it depends. I'd personally say 'I've got this, but you can pay next time' . . so setting up for a next break too. If he insists, let him but don't allow him to pay it all.

Ask face to face if you feel comfortable, just work it into the conversation . . have you been to Edinburgh? Yes . . how was it, would you consider going back with me & showing me around etc

McKneff

Going out? What does this mean. Just lunch dates/dinner dates. Do you have an intimate relationship. If not yet, i would wait a while longer till 'it' happens. If you do, then go,for it.
How domyou see the relationship going, going forward say in6 months time

Kirstie_

Thank you

I've spoken with him, He is picking me up tomorrow and we are going somewhere for lunch, (I don't have to worry about going somewhere unsuitable with him!) and I'll ask him over lunch.

I really do love the idea about a picture from when we go away and asking for a copy. It would cheer me up at work, especially when he is travelling between sites as I do worry about him

chesky

It's quite a way from popping out for lunch and going away together for the weekend.

Kirstie_

I know but we have stayed over together. So its not that far apart

chesky

In that case I don't see the problem. Just say over lunch that it might be good to go away for a couple of days and see how he reacts.

Kirstie_

I guess I'm just really nervous I wish I could just go wait for him at his

Geoff1963

Sounds to me as if everything is going well, and you are pushing at an open door.

Kirstie_

McKneff wrote: »

Going out? What does this mean. Just lunch dates/dinner dates. Do you have an intimate relationship. If not yet, i would wait a while longer till 'it' happens. If you do, then go,for it.
How domyou see the relationship going, going forward say in6 months time

Sorry, I didn't see this reply we are in a intimate relationship, and 6 months time? With him.

So I met him at 10am we went for a drive then for lunch (Which was yum!) and I'm back home before he comes round for dinner and discuss our trip to London. (He tried paying for it then half but I said he could pay next trip, which he said he is already planning in his head)

Anyone got any tips to save money on a trip to London?

Another worry, he knows I am coeliac and when we go out, he always finds places suitable for me to eat, That means the world to me but when he tells me of when he visits another office and he visits some regulary he tells me about places I know I could never go to. I don't want him going off me because of that So I hope this doesn't put him off me in London, also I worry if he see's me ill he might go off me