How many times have you been in love?

Oakdene

My daughter asked me this a couple of weeks ago & it got me thinking about how many times I have actually been truly in love.

My answer is once, & its not with the mother of my 2 children... though I didnt say this to my daughter. I had the love of my life & was with her for 3 & a half years - everything was perfect but I lost her to not being able to communicate properly & if I am honest, I regret it every day since. She was the only person I was utterly devastated after we broke up.

How about you lovely lot?

London50

Once and after 50 years we are still together.

Oakdene

London50 wrote: »

Once and after 50 years we are still together.

Thats amazing, thats the kind of love my folks have - 30 years so far.... maybe that type of love doesnt exist in this day & age.

System

Heart stopping crazy in love? Only once.

Guest101

Once, ups and downs, but worth it.


It does exist, but it's honestly harder these days. Pressures are higher though and it takes work. Often people want the easy route, which means couples end relationships instead of working through it

Oakdene

Judi wrote: »

Heart stopping crazy in love? Only once.

Did it work out?

Guest101 wrote: »

Once, ups and downs, but worth it.


It does exist, but it's honestly harder these days. Pressures are higher though and it takes work. Often people want the easy route, which means couples end relationships instead of working through it

I agree, I think the addition of social media really doesnt help couples either.

Guest101

Oakdene wrote: »

Did it work out?



I agree, I think the addition of social media really doesnt help couples either.

I know you've posted a few times about your relationship, and especially about social media.


I don't think social media is the problem, it's more of a tool. If your partner is going to cheat (I cant remember if that was the issue?) then he or she will anyway, social media makes it easier, but ultimately they will.


What I do remember is you being advised of what your ex had written. It's again no different to them slagging you off down the pub or whatnot.


Me and my partner use social media to send eachother random nonsense and funny articles, memes, whatever.


I am sorry your relationship hasn't worked out, but that's not the end of your life and you know that I think. was the person you were devastated about the recent break up or a previous one? and if previous, is she available now?

Oakdene

Guest101 wrote: »

I know you've posted a few times about your relationship, and especially about social media.

I don't think social media is the problem, it's more of a tool. If your partner is going to cheat (I cant remember if that was the issue?) then he or she will anyway, social media makes it easier, but ultimately they will.

What I do remember is you being advised of what your ex had written. It's again no different to them slagging you off down the pub or whatnot.

Me and my partner use social media to send eachother random nonsense and funny articles, memes, whatever.

I am sorry your relationship hasn't worked out, but that's not the end of your life and you know that I think. was the person you were devastated about the recent break up or a previous one? and if previous, is she available now?

I think it is more the reaction of someone to something that is said on social media, I replied to a freind of the opposite sex on FB about something & apparently that was wrong of me to do in the eyes of the my now ex. Perhaps I have been burnt by that so my opinion is biased.

Gosh no, the one person I was truly in love with is someone from a little way back but there is no hope & never will be of us getting back together sadly.

Guest101

Oakdene wrote: »

I think it is more the reaction of someone to something that is said on social media, I replied to a freind of the opposite sex on FB about something & apparently that was wrong of me to do in the eyes of the my now ex. Perhaps I have been burnt by that so my opinion is biased.

Gosh no, the one person I was truly in love with is someone from a little way back but there is no hope & never will be of us getting back together sadly.

Well that's just silly. You can talk to anyone you like, doesn't mean anything.


I'm sorry, but once you start to heal, you may find someone more suited to you anyway.

AndyBSG

3 times for me.

First real time I was 21 she was 24 and we were together for 4 years. Breakup was due to her wanting children long before I was ready for that(i.e. I was stupidly immature, even at the age of 25). One of my biggest regrets in life because we truly were a perfect match and she was my best friend

Next one was a girl I was with for just under 3 years. Unfortunately she was from South Africa and only meant to be over here for University so when that finished we spent a year in limbo with her putting off going home me putting off going to live with her in SA, her putting off deciding to stay in the UK permanently. In the end I made the very hard decision it wasn't do either of us any favours keeping our lives on hold because we couldn't agree a way to be together so split up.

Third and (hopefully) final time is my wife and mother of my two kids.

gabriel1980

3 times I think. First was a girl at uni, together for 2 years, but I kept cheating on her. Didn't realise I was in love with her until I wasn't with her anymore. Second, first wife (went to live with her is USA, turned out to be a !!!!!) and now in love with soon-to-be second wife.