Husband walked out

Guest101

Loz01 wrote: »

Surely you cant do that when its a joint montage?

Or he could go back,change them and lock the OP out if thats the case.

indeed, often posters don't let the law get in the way of a point

jamiehelsinki

She can't change the locks without giving him a key. It doesn't sound like he wants to come back anyway.

Geoff1963

If you have several sets of keys yourself, and one of them "went missing", the prudent thing to do would be to change the locks.
You can mention this to your husband, but as he has no intention of visiting, he can't need a set of keys, so that would be unnecessary expense.

Luna68

Hi
I have no advice just sending you ( hugs)
Hope you feel better soon
Take care
x

annandale

Absolutely none of anyone's business what their sex life was like

People come on here for support and instead they get someone who always blames the woman in any potential break up scenario. She came on here for practical advice, not a post mortem as to why the relationship broke down in the first place.

ameliarate

Guest101 wrote: »

Not blaming, I cant ask the husband questions - hes not here....

you can ask the op but appear to be making assumptions .

DUTR

ameliarate wrote: »

you can ask the op but appear to be making assumptions .

LOL, you are all making assumptions based on one side of a story, blokes and women are different and function differently, bottom line is the relationship has broken down, we only get one life and to walk when not happy is not taking blame, whether female or male everyone has a breaking point.

maman

CathH wrote: »

Please help with any advise, my issues are making me ill. My husband of 8 years walked out 12 months ago saying he doesn't love me anymore. We have a daughter 19. We have a joint mortgage. He is now living with a family member. I have remained in our house with our daughter. He has not paid any money towards mortgage or any bills since leaving last August. I have asked for a divorce following a consultation with solicitor they recommended a clean break order, I paid for this but he refused to sign- he said he wants to wait 3 years for a divorce (don't know why). When he left he said I could keep the house and give him 20k when I decide to sell. I'm scared he will come into the house while I'm at work- or even worse want to move back until he gets a permanent residence. Can he do this ? Even though he has made mo contributions for 12 months. I have fibromyalgia and OCD, just been put on antidepressants because I'm not coping at all with the uncertainty of him coming into the house. This is part of my OCD!

Although you've been married just 8 years you've obviously been together much longer. He may have a lot more equity in the house than £20 000 so it's hard to judge whether his is a fair offer or not. As you've known him so long you should have enough information about pensions, earnings and savings to inform any decision. The fact that he's not contributed for a few months might reduce his current share a little but won't affect his share for all previous years.


I'd suggest, although it costs money, that you ask the solicitor what your options are now that he's refused to sign. I certainly wouldn't rely on you writing something on a piece of paper and getting him to sign. You need it settled legally.

Sicard

annandale wrote: »

Absolutely none of anyone's business what their sex life was like

People come on here for support and instead they get someone who always blames the woman in any potential break up scenario. She came on here for practical advice, not a post mortem as to why the relationship broke down in the first place.

Yeah, people come on here and make foolish judgements thinking they're somehow superior when their own life is probably full of misery and by imposing their silly opinions it somehow makes them feel better about themselves.