The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

nursemaggie

Somehow I don't think that's relevant to me.

ivyleaf

No, I was just explaining why someone on that board started the "Nice people" thread originally How is your DS getting on? I hope he has nice colleagues.

fuddle

It's a funny auld world when all we've got to repay a favour is time and a car. I'm thrilled with my fence. He's 69 and been battering the mallett like summat demented. I don't think anyone can bother me now. Jibes and sexist banter I can cope with, officialdom I can't. As far as I am concerned no one should now be on my plot (aside from the holder who I have taken over from as he has use of the greenhouse until the toms are done) but even then Ive dragged the wood to mark my flower and herb beds so he's tekkin' the mick if he trods anywhere near it.

I'm happy. The hurtful stuff should stop now. I hate being in trouble and do everything in my power to avoid it because I cant cope.

<<<< trots of to go slice some cabbage, happily and content.

karcher

fuddle wrote: »

It's a funny auld world when all we've got to repay a favour is time and a car. I'm thrilled with my fence. He's 69 and been battering the mallett like summat demented. I don't think anyone can bother me now. Jibes and sexist banter I can cope with, officialdom I can't. As far as I am concerned no one should now be on my plot (aside from the holder who I have taken over from as he has use of the greenhouse until the toms are done) but even then Ive dragged the wood to mark my flower and herb beds so he's tekkin' the mick if he trods anywhere near it.

I'm happy. The hurtful stuff should stop now. I hate being in trouble and do everything in my power to avoid it because I cant cope.

<<<< trots of to go slice some cabbage, happily and content.

I absolutely understand that sentiment re the hurtful stuff Fuddle...I am exactly the same.

Congratulations on your new fence and what a kind neighbour you have . I'm sure he was just happy to help and the lift to and from the airport is an added extra which has been gratefully received. Often someones time means far more than say a box of chocs

I'm sure you are all happy all round with the result.

Good luck with growing stuff and that's one in the eye for the petty minded ones

moneyistooshorttomention

Thanks for the reminder - I think maybe I ought to head over to the "Nice People" thread myself.....

nursemaggie

ivyleaf I think he is doing OK. He is working on his own now but will still be doing it voluntary until 5th September. He still has all the sanctions of working full time like instant dismissal for being a second late even though that is beyond his control.

He has not complained about anyone. Someone asked him what he got paid at B&Q I wont tell you what the guy replied because you will only get a string of !!!!! these.

I am not getting on with his hours. He is waking me at 3 am when he has a shower. I don't get off to sleep again for hours. He can finish any time between 10.30 am and 4 pm. He complains his dinner is not ready but how do I know when to cook it. I can't go out for his irregular hours.

pollyanna_26

It's been hammering down here with rain for the last few hours and the lights went on at 7.30 . At least no watering cans are required .
NM I spoke a few days ago about my son the shift worker and how his meals were sorted .
My deceased first husband was a mainline train driver and worked shifts around a 24 hour clock .As well as passenger services there were the mail trains and goods trains running through the night .
As I mentioned previously we had a horrible ground floor flat until my son was nearly one , we got a nice ground floor council flat shortly before my first daughter was born . I obviously was sleeping in the same room as my husband as was the baby as she'd spent time in the special care baby unit as she was smaller than dates and needed tube feeding .My son was in the other bedroom .
Never did my husband wake any of us making any sort of noise .
He would sort everything needed for his next shift the previous day .He wasn't a fan of cars so rode his bike 20 miles each way to his station . He always allowed a great deal of extra time to get there as the trains can't wait .
My son the present driver followed in his dads footsteps , he either took a train if it was a day shift or rode his scooter the same distance his dad did .
Both quietly got their own breakfast if they were working odd times .Generally took their lunches or whatever meal and either phoned ahead when they were booking off or came in during the night and food was available but the rest of us were asleep .
I know it's a learning curve for your son at the moment but the fact he faces possible sanctions if he is late means leaving home a bit earlier for his shift in case something holds him up .
He should not complain to you if his dinner is not ready . You can't read minds and you can't be expected to stay in nor knowing when he will be home.
He's an adult so if you want or need to go out you should do so .
I've no idea how often you shop and you don't have a great deal of space for fresh or frozen food . I suggest you sit down and discuss with him the type of foods to buy and some meals that can be prepared in advance . He would be wise to get himself a filling breakfast before he goes to work and if he's allowed a lunch break take a packed lunch . If you're are out when he gets home he can get one of the meals out and reheat it .
You are his mum but he is an adult and capable of feeding himself . You aren't well yourself . There will be days you can share a meal but if he was living alone he'd have to do everything himself .
Sorry for the long post .
pollyx

Hard_Up_Hester

We walked to the supermarket in Marlow as we were running low on milk, poor CHS was mortified when I bought a single onion, two carrots and a bottle of milk.
'It makes us look poor' he hissed.
Maybe so but I'm not buying food just to throw it away!

We are now moored on an island on the part of the Thames that flows past Cliveden House.

pollyanna_26

Hester You can pretend you're five on kirren island minus three and Timmy the dog .
I'm loving following your journeys . Did you get time to finish the last of the curtains?

Monna I miss Softstuff too apart from a mid night gossip she was always there for a random thread party . We need to make a list of forthcoming ones . When you get your Bungalow . Burtha gets her freedom . Fuda triumphant first harvest . When Hester retires . Maybe we need to practice a bit first . If you don't know the time warp that's first up for burthas celebration .

polly

Floss

Fuddle, my DH only comes to the allotment to do hard labour such as building, fixing shed/greenhouse, relaying paths with chippings from the communal pile, controlling compost & fetching manure and tending his orchard - weeding beds, watering, the greenhouses, planting, harvesting and any cultivation is my department!