The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

pollyanna_26

That's a wise move NM . Maybe he'll understand now how exhausting and draining it can be just setting up appointments and keeping on top of things . it's unacceptable to start ranting when someone is on the phone . I just hope he will now follow through for both yours and his own sake .
I'm hoping sleep will find you tonight you must be so tired .

love polly x

nursemaggie

Polly The last thing I would want to is move into another flat. They have been relatively quiet for the past week but started up again today it seems we are supposed to be happy with one weeks partial respite because it was just a normal level for an average noisy neighbour. Not real quiet. I hate flats. 99.9% of 1 bed flats are occupied by very noisy 24/7 music playing young people. They tend to be beyond my ability to pay.

I would move into sheltered housing because if I move somewhere on my own I may never actually have another human being speak to me again. I have no relatives or friends near by. I don't find it easy to make friends.

I have a mouth that turns down when it is relaxed and the only way to get anything like a smile is to be ecstatic. I can be walking along perfectly happy and someone will say to me.

"OH for God's sake stop walking around looking so miserable."

They have been doing it since childhood. When I try to smile it looks awful. More of a smirk.

sorry

pollyanna_26

I've just remembered I forgot to log out and shut the laptop down .

NM I wasn't suggesting you move into a flat but just make it look as if you might .

I know you've looked at houses on Plodder Lane . Have you had time on your visits to suss out the area . It's years since I last drove along there . It sounds as though a few good neighbours and a bit of community are needed . We don't have the original community we had here in the 70s but a number of good neighbours remain from those days . We know we can knock at each others doors day or night and help is there . Many of the younger families have time poor parents both working and rushing the children to school on the way .
One or two like minded people could make a difference in your life . Whatever you say you are kind and caring and help many here . Your son has friends and his own life and you're quite isolated .
If you can get a house I hope you can stop viewing yourself negatively and wear a smile . There are nice people out there I promise .

Night night

polly x

monnagran

nm, don't take it personally. Your DS is a young man and at that age most of them are pretty selfish. It is hard for them to realise that there are other people in the world who have equal rights. Some of them never grow out of it. I use to have a large notice pinned up in my kitchen.........MOTHERS ARE PEOPLE TOO. You have bent over backwards to take your DS's wishes into consideration, but enough is enough and I I think you have reached the end of your tether. We are all behind you.
As for looking miserable, my mother had the same trouble. You couldn't have found a more gentle and humorous lady, but her appearance belied that. I think the Queen has a similar problem.

Lyn, you will have the house that's meant for you even you lose this one. Hopefully you won't, but it is a nerve racking time. One house that I lost and grieved over turned out to have had well hidden, terrible defects. I think the owners had to spend nearly the purchase price again on getting it put right.

A quiet day for me today. A little bit of tidying, just to salve my conscience and then knitting reading and generally slobbing about.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

Fill your life with adventures, not things. Have stories to tell, not stuff to show.

Elona_2

monna and nm

I have what my daughters lovingly call "resting b**ch face" unless I have a genuine big smile on my face.

DH and I missed out on a house about eight years ago which we thought was perfect as someone gazumped us. We found out less than a year later that the shared drive has caused numerous problems and rows and we were lucky not to have got it. Less than a year later we had found a buyer for our house and were driving to the other end of town when we saw an estate agent's sign being put up in the garden. It turned out to be a perfect house for the family and for DH to retire to.

Crossing fingers and toes for the house search.

Softstuff

I have to disagree about your face Nursemaggie, you looked perfectly amenable when I met you. Of course, you could just have been ecstatic to see me . I'm so hoping for an end to your home troubles soon xx

I have the problem that when I am listening intently, instead I look bored and disinterested. Caused me bother at school until teachers got to know me (and saw in exams and so forth that I had actually been listening intently). I learned as an adult to just make unnatural listening noises and nod more. The only person I don't have to fake that with is hubby... and I only just realised that. Facial and body language is bloody awkward. I also cross my arms, I'm not aggressive, I just have big boobs and sore shoulders :rotfl:

Still pooped here. Have begun a new diet and exercise regime to shift 15kg which hopefully in turn will help the sleep apnea (which I'm also treating by securing myself in side sleeping position). I'll likely have a tough 8 weeks, but I'm determined and think I'm on the right track. And I'm monitored too, by the demon strapped to my wrist which I dare not disobey. Right now though, if Mardatha was here with jelly babies, I would give even her a wrestling match she might not win. :rotfl:

monnagran

Softstuff, I had the opposite problem at school. I would look as though I was listening attentively when I was actually many, many miles away in a dreamworld of my own.
This became distressingly apparent in homework, exams etc.
I usually managed to do just enough to pass muster but not at all what I could have achieved if I'd really listened.

I am still good at dreaming!

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Feed back from the estate agent is that the allotmentier really loves the house and plot, is extremely interested and their own house IS on the market. I hope he brings Mrs Gardeners wife to visit and look round, I won't even mind doing that ourselves in the evening if she works full time but we'll see what, if anything, comes of it. Not counting chickens etc.

fuddle

I'm afraid I have been in A&E since 7am and now in RAMAC. I awoke not being able to breathe and walking around I'm serverely breathless, I'm tacycardic even with the beta blocker. No infection, no pneumonia and a clear chest x-ray. My blood test indicates possible blood clot.

Positivity has gone. The camel's back has broken. l'll let you know more when I know something more.

pollyanna_26

Sending much love Fuds . Hoping all goes well , you'll be in my thoughts . Take care bonny lass .

polly xxxx