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ivyleaf

Oh how lovely, MMF!

When we were scattering my brother's ashes another group at the crem gardens had a Lone Piper.....not my brother's favourite instrument

karcher

I'm trying but failing to continue writing and finish a promised email

Tough day today...I worked hard as always but fear it's a waste of time.

Where's that Fencers cruise ship when you need it

nursemaggie

Camelot I read "The ashes talk" and thought when did we start talking about Cricket?

I have just spent all afternoon giving the Housing Association what for as they are blaming all the tenants but the refugees for all the problems with the bins. Why don't they listen. I have written a letter because they can't interrupt and play the race card if I am not on the other end.

fuddle

I find myself in a bizarre set of circumstances.

My father in law and his wife are here to stay until Friday. They've chosen to sleep on our living room floor on our caravan seat cushions instead of staying in one of the 3 spare bedrooms my SIL (I've been known to call her Jones') has in her 5 bedroom house. He hadn't even seen my home before he made that decision, just said he felt more comfortable with us.

It's bizarre because it's finally cemented that we are our own advert. No amount of 'stuff' can give us humility and humility is what, ultimately, we need to feel somewhat comfortable around each other. Well that's the only conclusion I can come up with based on this scenario.

I'm under no illusion, this week is going to be very difficult because space is something we just don't have but I will make them as comfortable and as happy as I can. I have to admit to feeling blown away that he's said he feels comfortable with me, his DIL than his own daughter. Is it naughty to feel happy at that?

karcher

fuddle wrote: »

Is it naughty to feel happy at that?

Sorry there may be a lot of back ground to all this I don't know and I may get the wrath of the Fencers, but from what you have said yes it is wrong.

Why would you revel in that?


Got my coat already for fear of being lynched.

Floss

Fuds maybe not happy, but a small amount of smugness is entirely appropriate:)

Karcher you've no need to run, there is a back story at least one whole thread ago, and Fencers are not tested on old thread content

fuddle

Karcher I've been opening my soul in these threads for the last 8 years. Sometimes I let people see the inner workings of my mind in order to understand myself so I can grow. I've been a regular member of this thread for so long people know there are multiple back stories and struggles in my life. The main struggle is to just find contentment, peace and happiness.

I type in tears. I wasn't reveling. I was just happy that someone chose me for a change.

[Deleted User]

Why should it be wrong to be happy that someone chooses your home over another because they feel more comfortable in your company lovey? that's a real compliment and if it makes you happy it's only to the good. There has been so much unhappiness in your short life having one relative in your corner because they choose to be so is smashing!!!

Karcher I think what Fuds means (not putting words in her mouth though, only my take) is that she's happy because her FIL has chosen to stay in less comfort on a physical level than he would have had staying with another offspring in far grander surroundings not because he doesn't love his daughter but because he feels more at home with Fuds and family. That's what makes her happy love, not getting one over on a sister in law.

VJsmum

I think it's ok to be happy with your life choices - particularly when they have been criticised by others in your family, yes. it's vindication of your way of life over a more consumerist existence. After all your OH is FIL's child too and you've both had a rough time so getting approval for where you are now is a great thing.

MMF007

fuddle, yes, be happy that they have chosen to stay with you. They will appreciate the care you take to make their stay comfortable and I bet you all have a good time. I know you are not gloating and i am sure you will not make any sniffy remarks because you are a genuine person and not one who is influenced by supposed expensive possessions (unlike 'you know who' of the SIL variety!).
Now, take a deep breath and relax for a moment or two x (((0)))