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Problem with neighbours
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I don't think it is your place to tell the other residents what they are and aren't allowed to wear in their flat, and where they are allowed to position their equipment.
This whole thread is pathetic... Glad I don't live near you!0 -
armchaireconomist wrote: »I don't think it is your place to tell the other residents what they are and aren't allowed to wear in their flat, and where they are allowed to position their equipment.
This whole thread is pathetic... Glad I don't live near you!
If such a simple thing makes the OP's life better why wouldn't they do it? Until the OP asks (and is understood) no one knows how straightforward or not it might be.0 -
Because the OP sounds like a nightmare? I mean would you do as you're told by a neighbour. what if the next thing is to wear headphones so they cant hear the TV?Rosemary7391 wrote: »If such a simple thing makes the OP's life better why wouldn't they do it? Until the OP asks (and is understood) no one knows how straightforward or not it might be.0 -
Because the OP sounds like a nightmare? I mean would you do as you're told by a neighbour. what if the next thing is to wear headphones so they cant hear the TV?
I wish the latter was common practice in flats! I don't think the OP is unreasonable to ask. It sounds like more noise than usual since they didn't have a problem with the previous residents.0 -
But then - don't live in a flat? I mean it's your fault if you choose to live in a flat and common noises upset you....Rosemary7391 wrote: »I wish the latter was common practice in flats! I don't think the OP is unreasonable to ask. It sounds like more noise than usual since they didn't have a problem with the previous residents.0 -
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Noise is subjective...I know I keep saying it but what bothers some will not bother others....Rosemary7391 wrote: »I wish the latter was common practice in flats! I don't think the OP is unreasonable to ask. It sounds like more noise than usual since they didn't have a problem with the previous residents.
...and just to balance things up,it's worth remembering that the OP is not "noise free" with a small child....
Whilst there has been no mention that she has received comments about the small person...its fair to say that her household does have the ability to make a whole host of noises that could become frustrating to those living around their apartment block.
It just depends where your tolerance level is......frugal October...£41.82 of £40 food shopping spend for the 2 of us!
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Noise is subjective...I know I keep saying it but what bothers some will not bother others....
...and just to balance things up,it's worth remembering that the OP is not "noise free" with a small child....
Whilst there has been no mention that she has received comments about the small person...its fair to say that her household does have the ability to make a whole host of noises that could become frustrating to those living around their apartment block.
It just depends where your tolerance level is......
Indeed - there has to be a balance between doing what you need/want to do and not impacting the neighbours unduly. It does sound like the OPs new neighbours are doing something different to the previous ones though. I don't see the problem in principle with having a chat about it - although obviously there's a practical problem if they don't share a common language. No one is noise free - but sometimes understanding why there is a noise and being able to predict it's frequency/duration will help, even if it can't be easily stopped/reduced/moved (and for all we know at this stage it could be!).
FWIW I use headphones whenever I practice piano because I'm aware that isn't a fun sound for others. I can't do that with clarinet/flute so I do my best to make sure it isn't at a disturbing time for my neighbours and mix up technical exercises with pretty tunes. I'd certainly hope they'd approach me for a chat if it was causing them issues. At least one of my neighbours likes films with lots of shooting and swearing. Never spoken to him about it because it isn't usually late and I just stick my headphones on instead - I'm aware that my noise tolerance is unusually low!0 -
Rosemary7391 wrote: »Indeed - there has to be a balance between doing what you need/want to do and not impacting the neighbours unduly. It does sound like the OPs new neighbours are doing something different to the previous ones though. I don't see the problem in principle with having a chat about it - although obviously there's a practical problem if they don't share a common language. No one is noise free - but sometimes understanding why there is a noise and being able to predict it's frequency/duration will help, even if it can't be easily stopped/reduced/moved (and for all we know at this stage it could be!).
All advice that the OP has consistently been given throughout the thread
I agree its also about understanding noise and possibly predicting it,but it does feel from the nature of the OP's posts that there is little room to compromise on her part with her new neighbours....or at least the opportunity and desire for her to negotiate calmly and rationally is being reduced.frugal October...£41.82 of £40 food shopping spend for the 2 of us!
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Rosemary7391 wrote: »
FWIW I use headphones whenever I practice piano because I'm aware that isn't a fun sound for others. I can't do that with clarinet/flute so I do my best to make sure it isn't at a disturbing time for my neighbours and mix up technical exercises with pretty tunes. I'd certainly hope they'd approach me for a chat if it was causing them issues. At least one of my neighbours likes films with lots of shooting and swearing. Never spoken to him about it because it isn't usually late and I just stick my headphones on instead - I'm aware that my noise tolerance is unusually low!
My offspring is very musical and over the years has too indeed played several instruments that our neighbours have had to get used to....from the "I'm learning scales and it's all I know,but my teacher says I must practice "...right up to grade 8 and beyond when it really does become something pleasurable to listen to.
We also for a time until about grade 6 housed a cello....even I have to admit as much as I played the proud parent...the gutteral grunts of a cello being played solo cannot in any way be described as sweet music to any ones ears and practice time sounds were something that even I endured and would cut short long before neighbour intervention for my own sanity!
I'm not keen on a solo violin either....frugal October...£41.82 of £40 food shopping spend for the 2 of us!
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