Cooking for one (Mark Two)

Hollyharvey

PasturesNew wrote: »

That's just bl00dy rude.... way to make you feel worse than if they'd not bothered!

Many people "with somebody else", or "with a family" are thoughtless like that all the time.... to ponder if somebody did it while actively choosing it as their route out is despicable!

To be honest she has always been very much 'everything on her own terms' and has never liked any of my brother's family including me, and she once made the mistake of criticising my mum and dad to me, she didn't make that mistake again.

If she didn't want to take me out for lunch she should have said no when my brother asked her to (I'm sure he did). She gave me a tin of biscuits she had just bought in M&S as a present, and said "I got you these for your birthday, they were on offer at half price".

As Money said earlier, you can't choose your family...

PasturesNew

Hollyharvey wrote: »

....My dad ...

Mine too, but didn't leave, couldn't.... stayed and ended up with malnutrition, like the majority of them as no food got through.

We're probably related ....distantly ...you know
One of those "small places/everybody must be related" situations!

Have you spotted this site, which is quickly being populated with rafts of information.

https://www.theislandwiki.org/index.php/Jerripedia

All the baptisms etc are being transcribed.... there's not much else to do on the islands

Hollyharvey

PasturesNew wrote: »

Depending where you live, some areas have a really GOOD county Family History Society, full of people doing the same things - who know more, or are chatty.... and the groups might organise cheap coach trips to the London National Archives (which are free once you get there)....

Result! There is a local branch, held in this town and they meet in a church meeting room five minutes walk from here. I've just missed their last meeting, it was held on Saturday, but their next one is listed as the 2nd December. I will email them later for more details but the web site says it was last updated on the 6th November so it is clearly active.

Sorry everyone, I promise to get back to CFO related issues tomorrow and stop cluttering up the thread with posts that do not have any relevance to food, honest

PasturesNew

Hollyharvey wrote: »

Sorry everyone, I promise to get back to CFO related issues tomorrow and stop cluttering up the thread with posts that do not have any relevance to food, honest

Me too! And I'll backtrack and remove non-relevant posts.... I often do that. Some conversations are "of the immediate moment" so I remove them.

Hollyharvey

PasturesNew wrote: »

Mine too, but didn't leave, couldn't.... stayed and ended up with malnutrition, like the majority of them as no food got through.

We're probably related ....distantly ...you know
One of those "small places/everybody must be related" situations!

Have you spotted this site, which is quickly being populated with rafts of information.

https://www.theislandwiki.org/index.php/Jerripedia

All the baptisms etc are being transcribed.... there's not much else to do on the islands

No I hadn't seen that. Is there something similar for Guernsey do you know? That's where my dad comes from.

I used to go over there a lot during the 1980s and 1990s when I was married, for holidays, in fact three or four times a year, but never thought to research much. Just looked at where dad had lived and different places he remembered, and then went there with my parents and husband and my cousin from Canada and my aunt and uncle when they were staying with us in 1994 and 1996 and I can remember the places that they showed us, so I do have some information. The problem is, that I'm not really up to travelling there at the moment, and wouldn't get health insurance anyhow, then there is the cost implications. I can't afford it either. I may talk to my brother and see if he has any interest in this.

PasturesNew

Hollyharvey wrote: »

No I hadn't seen that. Is there something similar for Guernsey do you know? That's where my dad comes from.

http://www.theislandwiki.org/index.php/Donkipedia - I've not been watching this one to see how it's growing...

I should also point out that familysearch.org has many CI records. Select the relevant island from the drop down box in the bottom left of the search screen (it's not overly obvious it's there). Or click this... familysearch.org/search/record/results?count=20&query=%2Brecord_country%3AGuernsey - for some reason this site mucks up that link.... so copy/paste and remove that odd space in the end word!


My ancestor went to G with his floozy .... and b4st4rd ... he built the quay, which was popular at the time. But then he was arrested and his shame was printed in the papers for all to see... which is probably how come he moved to the next island once he was out of prison (wife/child abandonment to the workhouse).

Glad

caronc wrote: »

Glad - when I make hummus or bean dip I use a bit of the chickpea or bean water to slacken it a bit before adding the oil. I prefer the resulting texture and it does cut down on the fat too. Do you like anchovies? Those or olives if you don't, make a great hummus type dip blitzed with butter or broad beans. As do artichoke hearts (the ones you get in cans):). Both types benefit from lots of lemon juice.

I like all of the above caron apart from broad beans

I'll maybe try anchovies with the butter bean and yoghurt mix next week, the salmon mix I made tonight tasted pretty much like salmon and cream cheese

Glad

PasturesNew wrote: »

Growing up I used to want to know about mum's dad and she gave me a few bits and bobs over the years, each nugget of information I retained .... and then one day I used the local family history society search database and randomly typed in my gran's name ... the search results indicate if somebody is in their database, which year, location and the CD they have transcribed the record onto.

And up popped gran's name - in mum's birth year - and the CD reference number informed me it was the local Petty Sessions. So I immediately bought the PDF Index. The index gave court dates, participants, a quick overview of what the case was about ... and I looked through and there it was: my granny and her mother, in court, 1 month after mum'd been born, asking for maintenance from a named man (same surname I'd always been told) as the father... and a month later back in court as he'd not paid. I do know he was the father due to other snippets mum told me (e.g. he sent somebody round once asking if she'd meet him, but she declined, which I think was a shame).

So I finally had a first name! There were TWO men of that name in the area at the time - one up the road about gran's age and the other one 2 miles away and 20 years older than gran ... but I also had the other snippets of information I'd been told, so I could easily work out that it was the older chap. I've done his entire family tree - but he "disappeared" and I've no known location/date of death, but .... I have got his entire family tree and every detail of his entire family right back about 200 years.

So - in short - maybe the petty sessions will give a clue? He might be sitting there, named and everything! Back in Gt-Gt-grandparents' age they were known as b4st4rdy cases .... if a woman was pregnant she was interviewed to find out who the father was because the parish didn't want to pay out benefits ... they wanted the father to be billed. I'm from a long long line of b4st4rds

Else it's that DNA stuff on Ancestry.... lots of people finding random strangers from "he was an American GI, no name, nothing more known than he was American"... and the people can then work out their man's identity, with a little more determination, effort and patience.

thank you PN for this

it's inspired me to look again this weekend, in fact my Nain's (welsh grandma) father and mother were both illegitimate so a stop on both paternal lines there, I have done my DNA and I'm just starting to get my head around the results. Nain was my Dad's mum so for Xmas I'm buying him a DNA test which might throw up more clues

thanks again

PasturesNew

Back to CFO ... for a change

I did that cooked breakfast malarky, with toast/beans/egg/sausages ... and, a bit later, got the chicken out that I cooked in the SC (the one I erroneously bought that was stuffed).... I decided to portion it and decant it to a smaller box..... I cut two good sized fat slices in the middle, with the tapering ends a little smaller. I wrapped three parts individually in foil and reboxed those (ready to toss into the freezer if/when I don't get round to eating them all).

The 4th/end piece became a "chicken & stuffing sandwich", made with salad cream instead of marg. It was GORGEOUS. I hadn't spotted the stuffing is pork/sage/onion ... and I nibbled a little bit and it was really bizarre as it was "more like turkey/xmas" than the turkey breast I bought last year... so I'm pondering having one of these chicken breasts for Xmas this year! It must be the sage part... but it was soooo lovely and moist. I do LOVE good turkey, but this little chicken breast hit the spot close enough... so why not do it. It's on the list as a "maybe for Xmas" now (£2.50 too, so what's not to like!).

A bit later ..... I had two bits of toast/marg.

karcher

PasturesNew wrote: »

Me too! And I'll backtrack and remove non-relevant posts.... I often do that. Some conversations are "of the immediate moment" so I remove them.

It would be a shame if you did PN. You have given some very useful information and it makes for very interesting reading..I say leave it all where it is...It's a good and interesting discussion