So desperate - so ashamed - just don't know what to do .... no way out

Dumb_Blonde_3

Feeling really stupid right now - I'm totally fine

Sagaris

Sorry to be a pain - but would you like to explain a bit more?
If you do there may be ways other members can suggest things to help you - don't give up, however bad things seem there is always a way out.
(((((hugs))))) to you and please post again?

babyblooz

Please don't give up! It's easy to feel like its just too much, but there are shed loads of people on here who can give you some advice, and they know, because they have been in exactly the same position as you!

It might be the last thing you feel like, but please don't do anything silly. Think about all the people who care about you, just stay online and see how many people will come on and help you.

It is do-able. You will feel better. You are just at the scariest part of the journey back to better things.

Please don't give up.:grouphug:

trying-very-trying

Come on, I know it's hard, it's hard for all of us. We'd really like to be able to help you, but you need to tell us more.
There is absolutely no reason to feel ashamed if you're only problem is debt, we've all got that.

Keep posting and build your strength from the help of all the lovely people on here. ((((((((group hugs)))))))))

postingalwaysposting

i echo everyone else, please dont do anything silly and please dont give up. No matter what your debt is like its only money, i am sure we can all help you through you struggles

dizzyb_2

You are having a down day. Some days are worse than others. Please remember, it isn't forever, there IS a way out. There is help for people who think there is no was out. Have you called the Samaritans for a chat about things? They can suggest ways to pay off debts etc and well as people on here and Citizens Advice. I have called the Samaritans before and it is nothing to be ashamed of and they do help you see the light. Please don't give up on yourself. It is only money. Health, family and friends are more important. PLEASE don't give in. Why don't you go and have a nice hot bubble bath and watch a movie and FORGET about everything for the night, while you are feeling like this. Get an early night and clear your mind until you feel more positive. Keep in touch. xxxxxxxxxBIG HUGSXXXXXXXXXXXX

Dumb_Blonde_3

Xxxxxxxxxxxx

Horace

Reward your little one when he does his wee in the right place - he'll get to learning that going in the potty is the right place. There's nothing wrong with a glass of wine in moderation - perhaps you should leave your hubby with your son all day and go and have some 'me' time - leave him to do everything and see if he is in need of a beer at the end of the day.

Drinking the odd glass of wine doesn't make you an alcoholic - alcholism is when you can't go through the day without drinking and you hide bottles all over the place.

Go and get yourself some 'me' time - go shopping, go for a pampering session and leave your husband at home with pots of wee, ironing, cooking and cleaning.

You go girl and hugs (((((((hugs))))))

trying-very-trying

Dumb_Blonde wrote: »

Juat feel like no one cares .............. tears streaming my down my face right now- ususally totally in control - but sometimes we all crack.

Todays 'over the edge moment' - maybe this will help me I don't know ..

anyway son just turned 2 - almost potty trained except will 'wee' in any 'pot' and present it to me - great its not on the carpet etc but when you have company round - not so great as he presents it in his mug of tea/coffee.

HUsaband - usually good but donsn't understand that I like to have wine to wined down after !!!!!! day in hell(parasadise) - thinks I'm an alkie because of this - not true - still like milk on my frosties and not wine - although can see where he is coming from.

I feel like like this big fat F for failure - what do I do next ???

I've just had a look at some of your earlier posts, DB. It seems like you're having a hard time, you're only just recovering from the flu.
Just think how you will embarrass Spencer when he brings the girls home and you tell all the stories of his youth.
It might not seem like it now, but your precious little boy's taking his first steps to independence.
You will laugh about this incident one day, that day might just not be today.
I'm sure that your visitors found it quite cute, maybe even slightly amusing, as long as he didn't say what he'd done after they drank from the cup.

Sagaris

Sorry - but the bit about your son and the tea/coffe mug did make me smile - why didn't I know him when my ex mother in law was being a pain the the rear! That would have got rid of her! :rotfl:
And as for your husband - tell him the occasional glass of wine is your treat for keeping house and looking after his son and heir all day! It's not as easy (or stimulating!) as they like to think it is. And as you say it's not as if you are having Beaujolais on the cornflakes, is it?
Have you got any friends nearby you can talk to or visit? Do you go out much and socialise?

trying-very-trying

Dumb_Blonde wrote: »

Juat feel like no one cares .............. tears streaming my down my face right now- ususally totally in control - but sometimes we all crack.

Your little boy cares, give him a big cuddle and feel the warmth. You really don't want to hurt your little boy