Neighbour building wall

mistermo_2

Hi all, sorry for delayed response, here some answers to your questions:

pointing has been done on other side better than my side (I peeked over the wall!) the boundary line is an issue now as it wasnt well defined before and the only way to properly define it is by requesting it from Land Registry (I am based in Scotland). There was no builder - the guy got his BIL to do it and they never really accessed it from my side they just built from their side upwards - hence the poor cementing on my side.

It was the neighbour's son who the built this wall and i just saw the mum (who lives in this house by herself) on the street where she approached me and asked what i thought about this wall, i said it will look ok whens its finished but its caused a huge mess in garden. She promptly ignored this and went to to say if i will be contributing to the cost - looks like they are holding me hostage over this mess and will only clean it up after i pay them something? I replied that i would pay something but she wanted the wall and i didnt really get a say in the matter so its unfair to expect me to pay - she muttered she was disappointed in me and then left saying she will be sending her son over.

the joys of home ownership:(

spadoosh

mistermo wrote: »

Hi all, sorry for delayed response, here some answers to your questions:

pointing has been done on other side better than my side (I peeked over the wall!) the boundary line is an issue now as it wasnt well defined before and the only way to properly define it is by requesting it from Land Registry (I am based in Scotland). There was no builder - the guy got his BIL to do it and they never really accessed it from my side they just built from their side upwards - hence the poor cementing on my side.

It was the neighbour's son who the built this wall and i just saw the mum (who lives in this house by herself) on the street where she approached me and asked what i thought about this wall, i said it will look ok whens its finished but its caused a huge mess in garden. She promptly ignored this and went to to say if i will be contributing to the cost - looks like they are holding me hostage over this mess and will only clean it up after i pay them something? I replied that i would pay something but she wanted the wall and i didnt really get a say in the matter so its unfair to expect me to pay - she muttered she was disappointed in me and then left saying she will be sending her son over.

the joys of home ownership:(

More like 'the joys of not speaking to your neighbour to clarify a boundry issue'. This is not a problem that all homeowners face. I had a completely different problem when i had a boundry issue with my neighbour although similar circumstances. I went round to discuss the matter, came home 6 hours later steaming drunk to an unhappy wife. Alas, there was no issue with the boundry. My head took a few days to get over it though, the wife, a bit longer.

Davesnave

mistermo wrote: »

looks like they are holding me hostage over this mess and will only clean it up after i pay them something? I replied that i would pay something but she wanted the wall and i didnt really get a say in the matter so its unfair to expect me to pay - she muttered she was disappointed in me and then left saying she will be sending her son over.

the joys of home ownership:(

How are they holding you hostage? You are casting yourself in the role of victim.

Just go out, clear-up any mess and get on with your life.

If the neighbour's son comes around and speaks to you reasonably, consider a contribution to the wall, bearing in mind the likely overall low cost.

If they are unpleasant, or if you don't think the wall has enhanced your garden, then say why you are not contributing, either because of rudeness/pressure, bad construction on your side, or both.

There's no need to be upset or aggressive, but If you behave like a doormat, don't be too surprised when people walk over you; it's as simple as that.

Aylesbury_Duck

Davesnave wrote: »

How are they holding you hostage? You are casting yourself in the role of victim.

Just go out, clear-up any mess and get on with your life.

If the neighbour's son comes around and speaks to you reasonably, consider a contribution to the wall, bearing in mind the likely overall low cost.

If they are unpleasant, or if you don't think the wall has enhanced your garden, then say why you are not contributing, either because of rudeness/pressure, bad construction on your side, or both.

There's no need to be upset or aggressive, but If you behave like a doormat, don't be too surprised when people walk over you; it's as simple as that.

As above. "Holding you hostage" is a weird way of looking at it. They've built a wall at their expense and on their land. If you don't like the appearance of your side of it, you could ask if they would mind having it tidied up at your cost.

How would you feel if they objected to your choice of curtain colour and asked you to change your curtains to improve the aesthetics of your house when viewed from theirs?

mistermo_2

Hi all, thank you for providing your thoughts. Yes i agree that I do come across as timid when it comes to conflict - never did like confrontation. Neighbour or her son haven't come over again and i think i will just get it clean up myself and foot the bill.

Thank you for all your input