Wedding gift, when we really don't need anything

Pollycat

chesky wrote: »

My daughter asked for 5euros as she was going to Italy. Doesn't break anyone's bank and it's not like asking for 'proper money'. She ended up with a tidy sum of spending money.

I can't see how euros isn't seen as 'proper money'.

And for those people who don't happen to have spare euros hanging about after their last holiday, changing sterling into euros to give a wedding gift is not very MSE.

ognum wrote: »

A friends daughter organised their independent honeymoon travelling around Japan. They were going anyway.

She then broke down each element into a list, a meal at a restaurant, a boat trip, a sightseeing bus ride, a hotel night etc with a cost and a date. There were multiple items at Avery carried cost. She set up a website with pictures, costs etc.

Grifters could choose the which item they would like to give. The lovely things was that the couple who are keen photographers sent individual thank you cards after the honeymoon which included pictures of them with what you have given eg at the hotel, eating the meal etc.

I think it was a lot of work for them but they are a lovely quirky couple and even though I really hate wedding lists it really worked.

They were of course going anyway.

This ^^^ is from an old thread and is similar to the suggestion mentioned by aylesby.

I don't like being asked to give money (of any currency) as a wedding present but I'd have had a lot of fun and pleasure choosing a gift from a list like this.

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*~Zephyr~* wrote: »

Lovely idea, but I am the proverbial bull-in-a-china-shop. I will break nice china.

That's why we went for plain white stuff! Easy to replace and you actually want to use it! We did end up having to buy a display cabinet for it all in the end.

Personally, I don't like giving money/vouchers towards a holiday. I'm happy to give money generically though.

Think of things in your house you may not have, that would 'last a lifetype' - candle sticks, nice vases, ornaments.

Natasha.rb

Hi,

We already had our house etc so said if people wanted to buy us anything then to get us thomson holiday vouchers, and then we saved up and went to america and put the vouchers towards that. Amazing!

sleepymans

Someone I know asked friends and family to put together the cost of a lovely studios photo session with a photographer of their choice. Then the couple gave the contributors an appropriate copy of one of the pics to keep as a momento

pollypenny

We are coming up to our 50th and thinking of a 'do'. It'll be donations to charity if anyone wants to give.

Great Ormond Street Hospital for us, as I owe them my life.

gonebust

I had the same problem, so I asked for white table linens, tea towels and picture frames, broke no ones bank, ensured I didn't get inundated with stuff I didn't want, and made those who felt bad about turning up empty handed happy

Izadora

*~Zephyr~* wrote: »

Now I'm not ungrateful in any sense, I'm more embarrassed by the situation in truth. I just have no idea what to tell them.

We got married 4 weeks ago, although we're not having the reception until next month, and have exactly the same problem. I've tried to explain to people that when we say we don't need anything we're not hinting that we want cash and we appreciate the offer but we just want to celebrate with people and don't need gifts.

That said, there was no way we were going to turn down this present from one of my friends

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kingfisherblue

Is there a charity close to your heart? Or something local that you would love to support?

When I had my 40th (joint with my mum's 75th as there are only a few days between our birthdays), we didn't want people to feel obliged to buy gifts, especially as it would mean some buying two gifts, one for each of us. Instead, we carefully worded the invitation to say that if anyone wanted to give a gift, we would welcome donations to my son's special school. They were fundraising at the time, to develop part of the playground into a road safety teaching area, complete with pedestrian crossing, zebra crossing, etc. It's used to begin road safety training for the pupils.

onlyroz

How about stuff that you'll always need at some point like new towels or bedding?

Trina90

aylesby wrote: »

My daughter asked for contributions to her honeymoon. They were going to Orlando and came up with days that they could do if people sponsored it all or a part. Individuals were then thanked in their Facebook write up.

This is exactly what we did for our wedding in May - we found a poem on the Internet to put in our invitations which said something along the lines of.. 'if you were thinking of a gift for us, you could contribute to our honeymoon fund'.
Funnily enough, our honeymoon is in Orlando too!:j