Veggies .........or not ?

Cullumpster

cristin wrote:

You could try going on strike for a month and not shopping or cooking and see what he comes up with for a change or simply get him involved with cooking as he is less likely to always turn his nose up when he sees how much time and effort goes into preparing a hm meal!:rotfl:

BTW what does he think goes into your veg soups?

I can give you the answer to that straight away - the ingredients would be, a bottle of beer the telephone and a chinese takeaway ! :rotfl:

He knows all of the veg that goes into my soup and he likes it :wall: that's what i dont get, i think it's in his head to be honest, if you can see it then he doesn't like it, but he loves my HM soup, so he has that quite a lot.

Galtizz

Spendless wrote:

Cullumpster -does that mean he did like the taste but it was the thought of eating lamb that made him sick?

Good luck -he'd have driven me nuts by now!

Hmm, if that is the case I think it would be eat it or starve or make your own.

It makes me mad when I see kids being picky over food but when it's adults I just think it's time they got a kick up the bum, tried different foods and stopped being so childish.

There is a very big difference between being a meat eater/ veggie. That is a choice a person has made for whatever reasons and you shouldn't force people to eat something they really, truely don't like but to not eat things because they think they don't like it, even if they haven't tried it is just :mad: :rolleyes:

I asume his Mum used to pander to him (which is probably why he is like this, lets blame the parents, )? What did she used to feed him? Maybe you could get some tips from her?

cristin

So would he order the same thing day in day out for a whole month from the chinese? BTW what does he order from the chinese? Could you make it yourself at home instead?

(I don't like chinese as it really needs sooooo much prep and am allergic to the monosodium glutamate (sp) but it does taste wonderful!)

Marmiter

Cullumpster wrote:

OOhh i may try that, what is Hummus? is that the fish egg one cause i won't eat that either if it is

No that's taramasalata!

Hummus is made of chick peas. Tescos do a really nice one with extra virgin olive oil - it's really chunky too! I like it with carrot sticks dipped in it!

Cullumpster

Lol yes i've tried talking to her but he was apperently the same when he was a child !!!
so no luck there.


I can't say he's that bad bless him, he has tried a lot of new things that he wouldn't have dreamed of eating before so he is getting better.

It's just (i think) difficult to cook for him, he thinks that it's easy as i know what he likes and doesn't but if i'm making say spag bol, i cant have mushrooms (My fave ) in it as *he* doesn't like them, the same with peppers so it just ends up as meat with onions :eek: which i personally think is boring, so now i mince the peppers and mushrooms, and he knows this and still eats it ! :wall:

Spendless

Cullumpster wrote:

Lol yes i've tried talking to her but he was apperently the same when he was a child !!!
so no luck there.


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This thread has taught me a lesson. I'm going to start telling son after he's liked something what was in it and stop fibbing. Don't want him an adult and throwing up after he's eaten something he likes just cos he's found out what it is and 'thought' he didn't like it.

He might not get as understanding/patient gf as Cullumpster is and I might end up with him back-lol.

Cullumpster-Do you think this is a food phobia? Would it be worth him mentioning to his GP and seeing if he could get help

Cullumpster

Spendless wrote:

Cullumpster-Do you think this is a food phobia? Would it be worth him mentioning to his GP and seeing if he could get help

No i don't think so, i think it's just something in his head that if he doesn't like the look of things he won't eat it.

I must admit i *used* to be like that, if it looked bad then i convinced myself that i wouldn't like it and therefore i wouldn't.

i'm different now as i will try different foods, but i know that if i don't like it then i won't eat it again, he just need to get a little bit more like that i think.

For example he wouldn't eat salad as he dsaid it doesn't tast of anything :wall: but he's *sort* of eating it bit by bit, i mean granted it's ina burger or a kebab but surely if it's a HM burger then it's not as bad

His actual word were ' blimey i'm 36 and i've never tasted that before and it's lovely' !!! He did the same with garlic bread, i think it's in his head that garlic makes you smell, and to be fair we have a friend that literally bathes in the stuff so he's ennough to put you off of it :rotfl:

Spendless

Cullumpster wrote:

No i don't think so, i think it's just something in his head that if he doesn't like the look of things he won't eat it.

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It was something I thought of after you told us the lamb curry story.

If someone told me that I had eaten dog or cat for example I might react the same way (being sick) but that's because I don't associate these animals with eating them. I don't feel this way about fish/pork/chicken/beef/lamb
I have a bit of a guilt complex about eating duck (which I love) and rabbit (which I dislike anyway).

I just wondered what made him feel this way about meat that we do consider acceptible for eating in this country?

Loadsabob

Cullumpster, I think you're a saint! I would tend to take the same view as Galtizz!

There's a lot of truth in the suggestion that tastes change over time. My ex wouldn't touch vegetables when he was with me, but as soon as we broke up, he took great pleasure in telling me "I even eat vegetables now!" - well, the veg thing had been the least of our worries, but it showed me that he'd matured a little.

Anyway - I wonder whether your boyfriend has any interest in health and fitness, or his body? If so, a magazine like Men's Health would perhaps give him some idea about the importance of good fuel in maintaining health and wellbeing. We're not purely talking about "tastes" here, tell him, but his lifespan and quality of life! If he has children, he owes it to them to look after himself as best he can! harsh words, but true.

As for the spag bol, I REALLY think you should put the mushrooms in as YOU would want them. After all, YOU'RE the one cooking it! Tell him you left them chunky so he could pick them out if he doesn't want them! You could do that with a lot of things?...

What would he do if you didn't cook for him? Do you think in time he would just eat what was put in front of him?

You say he's trying some new things, which is good, but it sounds as though YOU are making sacrifices with every meal, cooking meals that are not really as you would like them to be!

Carrot is easy to hide in spag bol, I don't "hide" it, but it's a fundamental part of the sauce recipe for me, a whole grated carrot, and you tend not to notice it's there. I guess pureeing is one way with mushrooms and onions in gravy. Onion gravy is a veggie standard, and I find mushrooms "meaty", so cooked and pureed with onions I would think they'd make a tasty gravy, with meat stock or whatever you use. Likewise a base of pureed vegetables as the sauce for meat dishes - sausage casserole, curries, things like that?

If he likes roast potatoes, then roasting chunks of parsnip, swede and carrot in with them may work? As was said earlier in the thread, they look less healthy! Also, if you do potato wedges, how about some parsnip wedges, too? I chop potatoes and parsnips, toss them in olive oil, garlic and rosemary them whack in the oven for half an hour on a baking sheet. Yummy, nice with burgers and things. You can experiment, using curry powder or something instead of rosemary if you prefer...Sweet potatoes, too?

I wish you luck!!!!!!!

Queenie

Cullumpster wrote:

.... if you can see it then he doesn't like it, but he loves my HM soup, so he has that quite a lot.

AHA!! I have a (radical?) idea (maybe this should be in "The Arms" though )

Make whatever you like, once a week (you can start with a small sample of several dishes, sort of Tapa's style) ....

... make it "romantic" ... serve it in bed/bath/candlelit sofa ...

... be Caesar and Cleopatra ... blindfold him!!!!!!!
Feed him morsels bit by bit - first, he can only smell it ... then he may only have 1 mouthful and he's not allowed to swallow that until he has fully savoured the flavour. Of course, this has to carry a "reward" of your/his choice.

Please don't think I'm being mental here!!!! If he enjoyed that curry right up until he was *told* it was lamb, the problem doesn't lie in the taste My kids LURVED rabbit ... but only because I told them it was chicken (I couldn't afford to throw it away!! :eek: ) My eldest son LURVED "dairy" cream - which I gave him especially because .. he "hated" FRESH cream LOL

Think of it this way ... if you introduced just 1 new item every 2 months, by the end of the year, you will have introduced SIX new flavours.

Ultimately though, I do believe some people develop phobias (as Spendless stated) and really, there can be a really deep rooted reason for it and it may not be simple "fadiness". But on *that* front, he has to recognise that himself before he can address and maybe move forward on it. (In the case of my own dh, he is very "rigid" and "structured" which is why he always believed he didn't like certain things - I never pushed the point - merely acknowledged it and then became the master of hidden ingredients ) Now? He can't believe how his repetoire has grown!!! I'm still working on the pasta thing - but hey, he's gone from meat, spuds + 2 tinned veg to ALL SORTS now.

Tip: In the early days, take your mince/onions example - I would brown the onions, add and brown the mince, then I would divide it into two pans ... his n ours His would simple get the sauce, ours would get the mushrooms, peppers and sauce. That was one way to compromise until I gradually added minced mushrooms to his, covertly; when he'd managed to go a few times without knowing it, I then extended to minced peppers too - eventually, I'm at the point where he now eats the same as us ('cept the pasta ... I do him jacket spud, reheated)