Feel sick with worry

MissKJ

You might want to point out how much he would have to give you in maintenance payments should you become too unhappy with your lot.

Back_to_Black_2

I am so shocked.
He is SO inconsiderate! he earns £14k more than you, how could he possible expect you to go halves????and even when you dont want to.
If you haven't done before this you must put your foot down and say no. You must not get into debt because he is being unsupportive - unless he is prepared to pay it off for you? Perhaps you should put it to him next time he's being persistant. In which case you can go 50/50 on everything but he can clear the overspend you cant afford.

keep us posted and good luck!!

mrluke

i can see where this is going but like you said its a partner ship , all bills etc should be split in half providing you can afford it in my honest opinion
your on quite a good wage your self 21k

providing you agreed to move in to your new house . you should agree to pay half the morgage etc ..

but ! with him being on such a higher wages , he should pay for yours and hes social life like going out for meals etc .. using hes car and that .

tallyhoh

Why don't you just show him this thread. He would be able to see how worried you are & he will also be able to see what we think of his methods.

Why is he calling all the shots? Does he expect to just lay down the law & expect you to obey him. Did you ever agree to 50/50.

There is no way you can continue like this. We could point you in the direction of the money saving boards but why should you live like that while your OH lives in luxury at your expense.

Take a deep breath & have a good talk to him, try & make him see sense. Dont just let it go & try to find the money from somewhere otherwise you will be in a pickle again in a few weeks.

Good Luck

TOBRUK

You are obviously stressed about this and as the heading of your post states that you are worried sick,surely when you live with someone you know when someone is sad, stressed etc. I don't understand that he can't see that something is wrong and hasn't asked you what's bothering you! You are making yourself ill and that will not do especially when the cause is your husband and could be resolved by him! I do hope that you did speak to him about it last night and that he listened and understood your situation.

I don't understand all this paying percentage business from both wages to pay half bills etc for me when you are married you share everything and not oh I paid for this so you should pay for that, how does it work when you take your child/children out for treats is it a matter of I'll pay for this but you pay for that?! When it comes to things like e.g. school uniforms, do you have a talk about who pays for what? I think it's sad myself, shouldn't it come out of a joint bank account or is this just me? I'm single but my sisters and brother are married and they have joint bank accounts and there is no 'my money and your money' everything is shared - If I were to marry someone it would have to be like that otherwise what's the point!

If you really did want your own accounts (your own money) as well as a joint account why not allow a certain amount (the same amount each) to be transfered evey week/month to the accounts and then it's up to you how you spend that?