The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

PasturesNew

Selling the house, or not, is a bit like when people stay in relationships when they know they'd prefer something different/'better'.

They stick round, hoping for something better to come along ... and years pass. If they just did the dumping, then they'd know if something better was possible. You can't have your cake and eat it...

What's been happening here won't change.... and I have to cut the ties and move on. I hope what comes next won't have such issues ... but I can't sit on the fence.

I have committed to selling - and sell I shall. It was bought as a "stop gap" ... and I let it drift. Then there was all the building work and I figured nobody'd want to buy next to a site.... so I let it drift. Then Wally moved in .... and that made me determined to move as I realised I'd perpetually be bothered by "the next new lot" - and there are a LOT of "next new lots"... each finding new ways to annoy me. All because of the invisible boundaries issue.

GDB2222

PasturesNew wrote: »

I have committed to selling - and sell I shall. It was bought as a "stop gap" ... and I let it drift.

I had clocked that you want to sell, and everybody seems to think that's a great idea. My point is that you want to do this at your pace, so that it works well for you.

chris_m

PasturesNew wrote: »

Bl00dy annoying isn't it!

Not really a problem, they are generally very efficient otherwise.

If you're out you don't want the risk that it'll blow over/away, somebody else will nick it, or mess about with it.

Again not a problem - chances are that either the neighbour will be in or I will. Whichever of us gets to the bins first puts them on the correct driveway, usually within 5 minutes of the being emptied..

PasturesNew

I know I'm boring ... but you have to remember that I have absolutely nobody to mull things over with and bounce ideas about.

I think I have decided that, no matter how "lovely" the place I saw last weekend is .... it's not for me. It does have the potential to become a nuisance magnet. It's a dead end, mostly leading to garages, with just 4-5 individually built properties on it. Parking there would be 3 side by side - but the bonnets would be about 2-3' from the open frontage onto the "lane".... I need stronger borders and the car to be further removed from the boundary.

More fortress like, so one can distance oneself from any future nonsense that crops up.



It was nice looking though... and I do want a big breakfast bar I think.

Maybe I can squeeze a modification into the next house that gives me that.

So, the drawing board has a fresh big new piece of empty paper on it now ... awaiting the next place to come up for sale that's "OK", affordable and "about the right sort of area".

I was being beguiled by the nice features, like getting a fit looking boyfriend and turning a blind eye to the fact he's a woman beater

Pyxis

PasturesNew wrote: »

I know I'm boring ... but you have to remember that I have absolutely nobody to mull things over with and bounce ideas about.

I think I have decided that, no matter how "lovely" the place I saw last weekend is .... it's not for me. It does have the potential to become a nuisance magnet. It's a dead end, mostly leading to garages, with just 4-5 individually built properties on it. Parking there would be 3 side by side - but the bonnets would be about 2-3' from the open frontage onto the "lane".... I need stronger borders and the car to be further removed from the boundary.

More fortress like, so one can distance oneself from any future nonsense that crops up.



It was nice looking though... and I do want a big breakfast bar I think.

Maybe I can squeeze a modification into the next house that gives me that.

So, the drawing board has a fresh big new piece of empty paper on it now ... awaiting the next place to come up for sale that's "OK", affordable and "about the right sort of area".

I was being beguiled by the nice features, like getting a fit looking boyfriend and turning a blind eye to the fact he's a woman beater

You're not boring, Pastures, and it is a good idea to bounce these thoughts and ideas around.......as you say, it helps to crystallise the thoughts you're having.

No worries about using the thread as a sounding board...... as you say, when there isn't a wide circle of people to confide in, it's useful to have somewhere like this.

It's all relatively early days yet, but something will turn up, and you will get a buyer for yours.

Any news from that lady who viewed and liked it?

PasturesNew

Pyxis wrote: »

Any news from that lady who viewed and liked it?

You'd hear if there were.... the phone's rung, for viewings and 2nd viewings, precisely 0 times since Saturday ... and, looking at the local market/list of competitors for buyers, all I see is something dropping in price every day

The house is what it is; the market is what it is. I can't change either. home.co.uk stats say that for a house like mine, in my area, it takes about 90 days to sell... so we're not even out of sight of the starting blocks yet.

The one I viewed had been on at 315, but dropped to 307 the week before I saw it. It is a lovely little thing... but, equally, it has some black marks against it from my viewpoint... *sighs*... so sad it wasn't 200-300 yards down the road, with a garage at the side, with a utility, with a conservatory, with a 1½ drainer, with better cupboards, without built in appliances .... but then it'd have been on at about £345k.

There is a 2 bed, brand new, being built round the corner, that will be less good ... and smaller and without other stuff this one's got; they want £299k. The price is good, it's just those niggles that mean I shouldn't buy it, no matter how nice it looks outside and in.

GDB2222

Are you looking for a modern house, or an older one? Or don't care?

Modern ones tend to be on estates, but you might find an older one that's a bit more on its own.

PasturesNew

GDB2222 wrote: »

Are you looking for a modern house, or an older one? Or don't care?

Modernish. 10-15 but without annoying changes. I had a mate who bought her house in 2000, added a good conservatory and didn't fiddle with anything else... it was sold in pristine condition last year. So some people do have a great house and sell it 15-20 years later in "as new/as was" condition... but I suspect they might tend to be singles. My mate was a single... they don't tend to faff about and make strange changes so much I think...

My requirement has always been "non estate". Certainly not a "new build" as they now all screw up the parking in order to squeeze an extra house in.

Pyxis

The thing with older houses is, if they have been properly modernised in the last 20 or 30 years, they shouldn't give you any grief, and older houses are in the more traditional type of residential roads where you won't get the sort of grief you been getting.

If they've had a new roof, and been replumbed and rewired, and most have had new windows put in, they are probably more solid and more soundproof than a lot of newer houses.

Have a look at some that say they've been modernised. You might be nicely surprised, and get all the features you want, too. No harm in looking, after all.

Interwar houses, or even older Edwardian ones.
(Mine's late Victorian, and it has survived bomb blast in the war and all sorts! 128 years old and still going strong! )

(Touch wood! )

GDB2222

I have no idea about the area. Do you get more house for your money a few miles inland from the coast?

In N Norfolk, we're a mile from the beach, but that oddly limits our choice of which bits of the coastline we can visit. The coast road is very slow, especially in peak holiday season.

If we were say 30 miles inland, we'd be able to reach virtually any part of the coast of N Norfolk in half an hour, whereas for us to get to the far end of the coast takes an hour from where we are.

I had to give up once, when Stiffkey became gridlocked. Lorry going one way, and a bus the other. Nothing moved.