The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

Jackmydad

PasturesNew wrote: »

This can be the problem with viewers, they can act randomly and bizarrely - whoever'd think to sit on a bed in a house they were viewing? That's just very peculiar.

One "trouble" I have, too, is if a viewer were to bring any child/ren round with them... my house is not and has never been "child friendly"... what if, say, an unsupervised child is allowed to stroll and starts playing with the bleach bottles, or knives, or ... well, I don't know.

I know somebody who almost had to forcibly remove a viewer as their sticky child was "groping" her very very expensive "2' high faux sheep" which was sitting on the living room wall, alongside a collection of other items to be admired and not touched.... the child was about to attempt to mount it and sit on it! I think she screamed "IT'S NOT A TOY!!!!", it was an artpiece, intended for floor standing.

I wouldn't personally sit on a bed, but I've had it happen while showing people around. (And although I said nothing, I don't like it, I'm not big on "respect" but I do respect other people's space and kipping space is very personal.)
If you watch the "Let's go and live somewhere else" type programmes, you'll often see people sit on beds.

As far as people coming in the house with children is concerned, my home isn't child friendly.
I'm not going to make it so.

PasturesNew

Jackmydad wrote: »

I'm not going to make it so.

Me neither
It's not my job.

I did have some viewers for a previous house I owned, who turned up with a child so chaotic and savage that he was pushing/shoving and punching the parents at the doorstep. My face must have said it all "Oh ... I didn't know you'd have a child with you.... " and the bloke told the wife to take the kid to the car. In the end, from memory, they're the couple that bought it... visiting 6 more times.... when I had to grit my teeth as it got closer to "the date" and they brought The Devil Incarnate with them a couple of times

LydiaJ

PasturesNew wrote: »

As for passing traffic, there is none. It's a private parking area, an enclosed space.

I thought you'd mentioned recently that one of the most annoying ones had been interfering with passing cars somehow. I can't quite remember the details - something to do with sticking an object out into the road and then withdrawing it. Or did I imagine that??

Can delete this if requested.

PasturesNew

Slooooowly .... but I've even started "arranging" a few knick knacks! That's a long way down my order of importance... so the fact I just bothered with a handful means .... the floor is revealing itself

Only another few days walking items back and forth and packing/repacking and swapping items in boxes here and there and changing my mind about whether something goes here... or there .... and I'll be one step closer to the next list of tasks

Get the paint and paint the handrail is the next biggest item.... small job, but important as it's so visibly "shabby and peeling and grotty"... then hang a couple of lampshades. Oh, better order some lightbulbs, they come in handy.

PasturesNew

If somebody randomly knocked on the door now ...and I let them in, they could actually sit down on a chair without me having to move things out of the way before they could access it

I usually use the chair as "somewhere to toss things down", such as my jacket, or a bag, or other things I have in my hand that I want to put down and, as such, it rarely sees the light of day as everything that's put on it is "handy" and "I might need/want that again soon...."

silvercar

Kids behaving badly: When we sold our previous home, we had a small snooker table set up on the landing. The buyers visited with kids in tow. 2 boys about 6 and 8, who decided to throw the snooker balls around the room and at each other!

Parents behaving badly: My friend is a magistrate who has done some training to work in family courts, mainly deciding whether children should be removed into the care system. She says there is now a classification of "good enough". Once a family's parenting skills are deemed "good enough" the kids remain with the family. She says there is no way "good enough" is in any way "good" and isn't "enough" to make these children grow up to be responsible adults.

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

nooker balls around the room and at each other!

That's bl00dy outrageous.... I'd have frogmarched them from the premises, leaving them in no doubt that I'm "obviously a miserable old woman", it never occurring to them that they are in possession of wild, untamed, animals.

silvercar wrote: »

...removed ..

With any other nuisance, the solution would always be: Remove the immediate problem, then eradicate the source

PasturesNew

I think I've pretty much "had it" for today .... no more active sorting; I can still do a bit if I fancy, but after this point there's no "guilt" each time I'm not doing any of it.

Still some boxes of "stuff" I've not yet opened and sorted in Bed2... I think when I realised that it was the finish of me today

SingleSue

silvercar wrote: »

Kids behaving badly: When we sold our previous home, we had a small snooker table set up on the landing. The buyers visited with kids in tow. 2 boys about 6 and 8, who decided to throw the snooker balls around the room and at each other!

Parents behaving badly: My friend is a magistrate who has done some training to work in family courts, mainly deciding whether children should be removed into the care system. She says there is now a classification of "good enough". Once a family's parenting skills are deemed "good enough" the kids remain with the family. She says there is no way "good enough" is in any way "good" and isn't "enough" to make these children grow up to be responsible adults.

My parenting would probably have been rated as 'good enough' by social services when the boys were young as I wouldn't conform to the norm of a parent with autistic children and I was (at the time, it's more normal now) pretty unorthodox in the way I parented. I know they didn't approve of my discussion and debate methods and they most certainly didn't approve of my no medication because there are other solutions rule.

I believe I had the last laugh but it was bloody stressful at the time.

Mine were never allowed to run wild outside, in restaurants etc and were taught about personal responsibility and respect of other's property but apparently because I allowed them to debate and discuss things and have a voice it made me a bad parent!

Am I bitter? You bet I am, I was put through hell.

Jackmydad

silvercar wrote: »

Kids behaving badly: When we sold our previous home, we had a small snooker table set up on the landing. The buyers visited with kids in tow. 2 boys about 6 and 8, who decided to throw the snooker balls around the room and at each other!

Parents behaving badly: My friend is a magistrate who has done some training to work in family courts, mainly deciding whether children should be removed into the care system. She says there is now a classification of "good enough". Once a family's parenting skills are deemed "good enough" the kids remain with the family. She says there is no way "good enough" is in any way "good" and isn't "enough" to make these children grow up to be responsible adults.

I really am a nice person. My OH says I'm too nice.
However.
Parents would have been asked to go, and if they wouldn't then they would have been removed.
My home. My rules.
I won't put up with people being rude to me or my OH, or behaving badly in my home.