The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

PasturesNew

Watching BBC2 - presented by a bloke with Aspergers. Chris Packham.

He is going in search of radical new therapies that "make us more normal, stripping us of our autistic traits .... if a cure came for Aspergers, would I take it?"

SingleSue

Personally, I don't think you can completely cure it. You can do things which can minimise the impact and allow you to appear more 'normal but they need constant top ups to maintain it and there will always be some things that will always be there...maybe not completely noticeable to outsiders as Aspergic traits but there will be something.

Of course, stress and pressures can bring things tumbling down.

LydiaJ

GDB2222 wrote: »

I still think that boooooiiiiinnnnnggggg sound could be caused by a couple of squirrels having a good time at one end of the apparatus.

Only if the squirrels are moving at a speed of at least a few thousand miles per second

silvercar wrote: »

Many light years ago I studied A level physics, I don't remember it being this hard.

It isn't. This is very definitely a lot harder than anything that gets into A-level. I didn't even do gravity waves in my degree, although I believe there was a third year option or two that had that sort of thing in it.

[pedant mode] A light year is a unit of distance, not time, so things can be many light years away, but not many light years ago. Unless of course you are dealing in 4D space-time, in which case I really don't know which prepositions apply.[/pedant mode]

SingleSue wrote: »

Further to my post last week...my first shift is on Sunday!

Woohoo! :beer::beer::beer::T:T:T:j:j:j

PasturesNew

In short: A man's made a noise and told us it happened millions of years ago and this is what caused it ..... and, in short - there's f*ck all you can do to prove him wrong

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

Apparently they got 'The feel' from my cv that I was the right person. Weird really as I threw the normal cv rules out of the window for the version I gave them and injected a bit of me and my personality into it.

Oh and absolutely no bigging myself up or selling myself at all. Just the facts...I really don't like boasters and I was never ever going to do that sort of thing.

Doesn't surprise me. The kind of employer who wants a bog standard person with the same skills and characteristics as everyone else was always going to be the kind of employer who got freaked out by your disability, whereas an employer with the imagination to see beyond the disability to your remarkable tenacity and other admirable traits was also always going to be the kind of employer who would react positively to a bit of individuality in a CV.

SingleSue wrote: »

Personally, I don't think you can completely cure it. You can do things which can minimise the impact and allow you to appear more 'normal but they need constant top ups to maintain it and there will always be some things that will always be there...maybe not completely noticeable to outsiders as Aspergic traits but there will be something.

Of course, stress and pressures can bring things tumbling down.

I think it's sometimes posed as a hypothetical question - even if such a "cure" were possible, would people want it, or would "not having Asperger's" mean "not being me any more" in a way that the people in question found unacceptable.

While we're on the subject, what do you think of the whole "people first language" thing? I have an online friend with a physical disability who is adamant that she's a "person with a disability" not a "disabled person", although she's happy to be a "wheelchair-user". Meanwhile, I know some people who are on the spectrum are equally adamant that they are "autistic people" and very much not "people with autism". I'd be interested to know the views of any ASD NP or NP with ASD loved ones.

And, changing the subject, do any NP have advice for removing a pale green sort of mould from the inside of a beautiful antique chest of drawers that has been kept in a poorly insulated and inadequately heated house for decades and is shortly about to get moved somewhere warmer and drier? Or should I ask on the "in my home" forum?

silvercar

And, changing the subject, do any NP have advice for removing a pale green sort of mould from the inside of a beautiful antique chest of drawers that has been kept in a poorly insulated and inadequately heated house for decades and is shortly about to get moved somewhere warmer and drier? Or should I ask on the "in my home" forum?

Is it dry mould that can be brushed away? Or wiped with a bleach covered cloth? Otherwise I'd ask some experts, I'm guessing too much soaking and you risk damaging the wood.

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

And, changing the subject, do any NP have advice for removing a pale green sort of mould from the inside of a beautiful antique chest of drawers that has been kept in a poorly insulated and inadequately heated house for decades and is shortly about to get moved somewhere warmer and drier? Or should I ask on the "in my home" forum?

Wet wipes.

LydiaJ

Thanks for the suggestions. I am not going there until Thursday, so all suggestions welcome until then.

On a completely different subject, I have just discovered someone (an American, no less) who writes the sort of erudite English prose I thought had all but vanished decades ago. How's this for an example:

Trump’s energy, unleavened by intellect and untethered to principle, serves only his sovereign instinct to pander to those who adore him as much as he does. Unshakably smitten, they are impervious to the Everest of evidence that he disdains them as a basket of gullibles. He understands that his unremitting coarseness satisfies their unpolitical agenda of smashing crockery, even though his self-indulgent floundering precludes fulfillment of the promises he flippantly made to assuage their sense of being disdained. He gives his gullibles not governance by tantrum, but tantrum as governance.

Pyxis

LydiaJ wrote: »

It isn't. This is very definitely a lot harder than anything that gets into A-level. I didn't even do gravity waves in my degree, although I believe there was a third year option or two that had that sort of thing in it.

[pedant mode] A light year is a unit of distance, not time, so things can be many light years away, but not many light years ago. Unless of course you are dealing in 4D space-time, in which case I really don't know which prepositions apply.[/pedant mode]
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Now, Lydia, you know perfectly well that Silvercar comes from Alpha Centauri, so she was perfectly correct in saying light years!

PasturesNew wrote: »

In short: A man's made a noise and told us it happened millions of years ago and this is what caused it ..... and, in short - there's f*ck all you can do to prove him wrong

I think if he were wrong, he could be proved wrong, but don't ask me how, because I'm still trying to get out from under the boulder.

It's all in the Maths.
Plus it was a whole team of people in more than one place and continent, rather than just one man.

Of course, there is the possibility that they might all be the children of the team who thought up the hoax that was the moon-landings, in which case, you might well be right!

LydiaJ wrote: »

I think it's sometimes posed as a hypothetical question - even if such a "cure" were possible, would people want it, or would "not having Asperger's" mean "not being me any more" in a way that the people in question found unacceptable.

While we're on the subject, what do you think of the whole "people first language" thing? I have an online friend with a physical disability who is adamant that she's a "person with a disability" not a "disabled person", although she's happy to be a "wheelchair-user". Meanwhile, I know some people who are on the spectrum are equally adamant that they are "autistic people" and very much not "people with autism". I'd be interested to know the views of any ASD NP or NP with ASD loved ones.

And, changing the subject, do any NP have advice for removing a pale green sort of mould from the inside of a beautiful antique chest of drawers that has been kept in a poorly insulated and inadequately heated house for decades and is shortly about to get moved somewhere warmer and drier? Or should I ask on the "in my home" forum?

re. The mould, it's best to get expert advice.

I read somewhere that it's dangerous to use bleach on some types of mould, although I think they were referring to black mould in window-frames, etc.
That green mould might be relatively harmless, and might just need soap and water, but it's best to be sure.

Re. the autism/Asperger's thing, and labels, I do feel it's helpful to have labels in a lot of circumstances, and it does explain behaviour that might otherwise come across as rude or abrupt or worse.
Speaking for myself, as someone with ADHD, which I know is nothing like the same thing, it was a total relief to find out why I was a bit 'peculiar', and sometimes it helps other people.

There usually comes a time when I explain to new colleagues that I may butt into conversations, or sit there and go vacant, or speak at a rate of knots and go off at tangents, but that I am really trying hard not to, and please would they just tell me to shut up or prod me if in vacant mode.

I wouldn't say I was an ADHD sufferer, because it's not suffering, just different.
So, am I a person with ADHD, do I 'have' ADHD, or what?
To be honest, I don't particularly like those expressions, but haven't found anything better, so I usually say I have ADHD.

Pyxis

Plus I have Sevivon, sov, sov, sov on the brain now! :rotfl: