How do I get the cooking urge back?

Sola

It's amazing what those magic little words can achieve between a couple ... 'I'm going away for a few days.' Suddenly it's:

- Floor washed
- Washing-up done
- Bin emptied
- Met me off the train with flowers
- Treated me to dinner
- Offered to drive me to the airport in the early hours of Saturday morning

I reckon the bodysnatchers took my real husband

dorry_2

:T

Sola wrote: »

It's amazing what those magic little words can achieve between a couple ... 'I'm going away for a few days.' Suddenly it's:

- Floor washed
- Washing-up done
- Bin emptied
- Met me off the train with flowers
- Treated me to dinner
- Offered to drive me to the airport in the early hours of Saturday morning

I reckon the bodysnatchers took my real husband

lol :T

i just might try that one, sounds like you had good results

scrimpingbadger

Oh Sola, I'm with you on that one. I hate being the one 'in charge'. I feel like, just now and again, shrugging my shoulders and following instructions. Or just bogging off for the day and spending a good chunk of time on stuff I like doing, without shoehorning it around, cleaning, picking up stuff they've dumped and preparing bloomin' dinner. I'm heartily heartily bored with catering. Sometimes I leave it to OH and we get fried stuff out of frozen boxes into oven, which is poop and not real food at all. I can't eat like that (IBS you see).
I tried to make a point by giving up but it seems my OH doesn't mind living like a pig in excrement and didn't notice!!!
I now have a son. There's no way he'll be the same!! I owe it to womankind!!
Sorry, had to vent.....

beemuzed

Sola, I do sympathise with you. When we were first married I adored cooking and loved having friends round to eat....then it go to be just routine, especially after the boys came along. I was so lucky that DH then began to cook more and more. Now he cooks virtually 100% of the time, mainly because I don't get in from work 'til late and he's at home! However, just sometimes I look at all the recipe books and think that when I retire I just might enjoy this once more. Sorry this doesn't help you - or any one else who has to cook every day of the year. I think your feeling is absolutely normal!

whitewing

If you can't change the situation at the moment then you need to try and make it fun for yourself. If I'm in a can't-be-bothered, going-to-make-myself-very-cross kind of mood, then I pretend I am a french chef (and speak with an accent) or Nigella etc and do a running commentary as though I'm prsenting my own show. (I only do this if I am in the house on my own). So, pick a person to be each day, and I'll join in too! Never fails to amuse me, but as I'm just about to join the mortgage free wannabes, I soon won't have any other kind of social life so it won't matter if I'm barking mad ...

SJ1

I have almost exactly the same problem as my hubby hates cooking and when he does do it - its usually not very good. This is the man that made spaghetti bolognaise one night but forgot to take the piece of paper off the mince and didn't notice!

My advice is mix it up into easy meals, meals that you can get leftovers from and the odd treat meal.

I have one day off with my kids and I make something like cottage pie, lasagne or roast chicken so I go to a little more effort that day and then we have leftovers one of the other nights in the week. I also do a weekly baked potato night and just mix up the fillings which couldn't be easier or you could do pizza, I am not a fan but hubby loves it and very easy to make your own with a pizza stone!

I also find anything you can wrap in a bit of foil and leave to its own devices is excellent so salmon or any other type of fish, peel potatoes and cook veg and you have a great meal. Jamie Oliver has two good recipies for things like this with chicken (one with leeks and butter beans and another with mushrooms and thyme) both very easy and very nice- i think in happy days. I tend to go through my recipie books, mark up the 20 min recipies and refer to those marks when I order my food online. Lastly the tin meal - tuna sweetcorn pasta with salad cream and mayo (sounds horrible but v nice) and the tin of kidney beans, tin of butter beans, tinned tomatoes, tomato chutney and a fried onion - mix up and warm in pan you fry onion in, top with cheese and grill. If you haven't already got it Delia's complete cookery course is great.

Hope it helps, I know I feel a bit more human for it and sometimes even have time to actually read something! Also, go for what you like and if it doesn't please him then point him in the general direction of the stove and give him a Delia how to cook for Christmas.

SJ

newlywed

whitewing wrote: »

I pretend I am a french chef (and speak with an accent) or Nigella etc and do a running commentary as though I'm prsenting my own show. (I only do this if I am in the house on my own).

:rotfl: :rotfl:

OH already thinks I'm mad, without trying this one!!

trying-very-trying

Sola wrote: »

It's amazing what those magic little words can achieve between a couple ... 'I'm going away for a few days.'

I think it would be "'bye love have a good time" and then me returning to beer cans all over the table, the kitchen filled with takeaway wrappers and the bathroom filled with dirty knickers, wet towels......You get the idea.

Sola

trying-very-trying wrote: »

I think it would be "'bye love have a good time" and then me returning to beer cans all over the table, the kitchen filled with takeaway wrappers and the bathroom filled with dirty knickers, wet towels......You get the idea.

Mine only did that to me once, when he had his kids to stay one weekend. I walked through the door and observed the washing, washing-up, takeaway boxes, junk mail, wet towels on the floor next to the cat sick. I just looked at him, turned round and went straight back round to my friend's for the rest of the afternoon. When I got home again it was spotless and the stepkids trod carefully round me for years.

trying-very-trying

Sola wrote: »

Mine only did that to me once, when he had his kids to stay one weekend. I walked through the door and observed the washing, washing-up, takeaway boxes, junk mail, wet towels on the floor next to the cat sick. I just looked at him, turned round and went straight back round to my friend's for the rest of the afternoon. When I got home again it was spotless and the stepkids trod carefully round me for years.

That's where I went wrong then:rotfl:

I just screamed plenty.