getting married on holiday

malebolge

Two different experiences. I was very ill when my daughter decided to get married. We discussed it, and as she had two children from a previous relationship, she didn't want a church do and I really didn't feel up to being mother of the bride (I'd recently had a major heart attack & had other serious health problems). We decided that they'd get married in Barbados, just them & the children, then have a party when they got home. She had her dream day & a honeymoon combined and really enjoyed it. Yes, I would have liked to have seen her get married, but being practical, it would probably have been without me anyway had she got married in this country as I was in and out of hospital so much.
Her friend recently got married in Portugal. All her guests were 'expected' to go too. (For 6 days). The cost of the flight/hotel & food was £1000+ per person. It was out of season so nothing much to do. The couple asked for money as a present so they could go on honeymoon. Add onto that a hen night that was 4 days in Spain, and people ended up paying round about £2,000 a head to be involved.
Tbh, a lot of people suggested they'd have been happier (and wealthier) had they done like my daughter; got married on their own then had a do at home.

Carmk2008

Just found out one of my partners workmates has just done the same except it was only the two of them, guess I know where the idea came from now, not that it bothers me. I heard my partner tell her mother about it and she says if that's what they wanted that's all that matters, hopefully she will feel the same for us.