feel so stupid

sam_m

What do you want me to do then, send you the doctors note i had when i was 5 confirming that i had autism. I can give you my mums number and she can also tell you, i can give you my dads number who can also tell you.

Don't you dare tell me i don't have autism because i do!!!

sam_m

For crying out loud, i have autism ok!!!

I have no idea why you don't believe me but i actually can't do anything about it but to tell me i'm making it up is not fair

prosaver

the thing is everyone has bent over backwards to give you advice,
and you know you have a problem taking in advice.
so why are you still asking for advice..

btw
Ive asked him loads of questions and he dosent answere me?

sam_m

Penitent wrote: »

You can't have a battle if only one person is fighting. Is your step-brother even aware that there's a battle going on, or is he just living and enjoying his life while you sit there seething?



But you're right, I don't know what it's like to be you because I can't imagine feeling that much resentment toward my brother for just living his life. (I have been jealous of him in the past, as I grew up very much in his shadow, but never to the point of wanting to "punch his pretty face in" or whatever it was you said about 115 pages ago. I let it go. It felt good.)

You seriously need to let this resentment go. It might not get you a girlfriend or a job any quicker, but you'll feel a lot less miserable while you're looking.

No he is not aware of me feeling like that. Only my GP knows about how i feel and that is why i am on medication for depression, that is why i have called Samaritans before. But of course the users won't believe me because they think i'm trolling and that my autism is not real.

In their mind everybody has to be the same when in reality everyone is different

sam_m

prosaver wrote: »

the thing is everyone has bent over backwards to give you advice,
and you know you have a problem taking in advice.
so why are you still asking for advice..
if you dont answer this i know for definite your a troll

I will tell you why i'm still asking for advice.

Its because i did what everyone suggested, I handed in my CV to everywhere in town and it didn't work, i went on indeed and applied for some more jobs there and again it did not work. The only reason why i am asking for advice is because i don't know what to do now, how can i actually find a job if no one wants to employ me

Sncjw

It's only been a month give it time god it won't happen instantly

prosaver

sam_m wrote: »

I will tell you why i'm still asking for advice.

Its because i did what everyone suggested, I handed in my CV to everywhere in town and it didn't work, i went on indeed and applied for some more jobs there and again it did not work. The only reason why i am asking for advice is because i don't know what to do now, how can i actually find a job if no one wants to employ me

people get depressed by that, take a break from the job hunting, are you on the sick?

marliepanda

sam_m wrote: »

I have seen the men on the undatables, i am not like that, they have Very low functioning autism and none of the girls on there are actually attractive. I have high functioning autism and sometimes people actually don't think I have autism just that i'm shy

I am sorry but your opinion is far too high of yourself.

'Those guys are all low functioning'
'The girls aren't attractive'

You are high functioning but: cannot cook, cannot get a job, cannot get a girlfriend, struggle to do household tasks, struggle with controlling your emotions and actions.

At least these 'low functioning fellas' on the programme are doing something.

I work with some high functioning autistic people. They have some issues with interacting with others which comes across shy and a little awkward, but they all have jobs requiring a lot of intelligence. Drive to work. Have work relationships and private relationships Manage to overcome and interact to hold meetings. People understand their issues and help them but they are not pandered to. One man hates dealing with new people and finds it awkward, so he is the one that has to go greet people for the meetings, to get him interacting with more new people. When he has a bad day he doesn't have to, but most of the time he does.

That is high functioning. Not just thinking 'I'm not as bad as them'

You should always find someone you find physically attractive, however you have to find 'your level' I find Chris Pine attractive, but, I know my level

sam_m

prosaver wrote: »

people get depressed by that, take a break from the job hunting, are you on the sick?

No i'm not. And the reason why i am actually more depressed is because I am still at college which i love, i have been getting merits and distinctions on all of my assignments and all i want is a part time job in the evenings and weekends to earn a little bit more money. I am doing level 3 next year and really want to go to uni.

I mean when my stepsister went to college she had part time work in a shoe shop down south. She is now at uni but she did such a good job they want her back for the summer before she goes back to uni next year.

You see i'm not asking for much but it is very difficult

kimplus8

Hello,
My brother is autistic and he really struggled with interviews (not making eye contact/body language etc) so he took on some volunteer work in a small charity shop for 6 months and built up some history of being committed to a job role and gain a great reference. He now has a part time job in poundworld and secures loads of overtime to keep his wages up.
Have you also thought about enrolling as an apprentice? It probably wont be until September now but that give you time to consider what you want to do and prepare for interviews.
hope this helps :-)