British Asian Marrying Divorced Moroccon Woman

waamo

Ally4u wrote: »

Lemontart - I think your right, I should get to know more about her relatives and friends etc. I have the children to think about.

emmathews - Sometimes you fall in love ... love can blind you.

Cherry - The language barrier does not allow me to get to know her properly or her friends and relatives.

Mine was a serious question earlier. If she is Moroccan she should speak Arabic to a decent standard. Don't you speak Arabic?

She will also speak French. It doesn't take that long to learn with a good tutor. If you are that serious get learning.

Ally4u

Waamo>> I am a British Pakistani so neither speak arabic or french. She speaks Arabic only.

emmathews>> You sound like my dad ... ... hmm .. all these replies are helpful .. thank you.

I guess after 10 years of a loveless marriage I would settle for the first bit of comfort I can find. Hmm .. maybe I need to suffer a bit more .. lol

Pollycat

Ally4u wrote: »

Lemontart - I think your right, I should get to know more about her relatives and friends etc. I have the children to think about.

Do your children live with you or your ex wife?
If your children are small, shouldn't they be your number 1 priority?

How would they feel if a female Moroccan stranger rocked up at your house and be unable to converse with them?

Ally4u wrote: »

Cherry - The language barrier does not allow me to get to know her properly or her friends and relatives.

So what are your plans to learn Arabic or her plans to learn English?

Aren't there any eligible women who are already living in the UK and are able to speak English?

Fireflyaway

If you can't communicate well in order to establish what the future holds, I wouldn't bother. You need to get to know her and her family and that takes time. You may be a great catch but without being rude, Morocco is full of men she could marry. Why would she need to leave her home and get with someone she can't even communicate with? To boot, if her family don't care I'd be even more concerned about her intentions.
On a personal level my husband is Moroccan. I suggested the idea of getting an au pair who could speak French / Moroccan ( Moroccan Arabic is different to classical Arabic) so our child could learn another language. His reply was that a French au pair might be good, but he wouldn't trust a Moroccan one not to just run off!
Obviously I don't want to type cast all Moroccan people! My husband is a hard working honest and successful man but some people might not be. If she isn't well educated or is from a poor background I'd be more suspicious.
There are many women out there. Find one that you can communicate with and is on an equal footing. Otherwise you will always be wondering if she is just using you!

waamo

Fireflyaway wrote: »

If she isn't well educated or is from a poor background I'd be more suspicious.
There are many women out there. Find one that you can communicate with and is on an equal footing. Otherwise you will always be wondering if she is just using you!

Apparently she doesn't speak French. That would certainly trigger some alarm bells with me.

Mojisola

Ally4u wrote: »

Cherry - The language barrier does not allow me to get to know her properly or her friends and relatives.

There's no way that she would get a spousal visa to live here when you know so little about each other.

KRB2725

Why do you want to marry her? What is stopping you just beginning a relationship with her and getting to know each other?

chesky

I don't think she can be very successful in her chosen profession if she doesn't speak either French or English. Very low level.

Katgrit

chesky wrote: »

I don't think she can be very successful in her chosen profession if she doesn't speak either French or English. Very low level.

She doesn't need to converse that well.....her oral skills might well lie elsewhere. And besides, I'm sure she could easily mime "leave the money on the bedside cabinet". :rotfl:

sheramber

Where would you live?

Have you investigated what is required fro her to come to UK?

Do you earn the required income to bring her here?

Can she afford the payments necessary for a visa, medical fees etc?

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