What would you do.

Badger_Lady

lynsayjane wrote: »

What I'm trying to say is that it isn't impossible for a 19 year old on minimum wage to run a home, I managed and even if I do say so myslef, have done a damn good job of it.

Not impossible, no, but not entirely necessary either. Hypothetically, if you could only have done that by taking money from your parents who were in debt themselves, or stayed in rented accommodation while your parents sorted themselves out, what would you have chosen?

I assume you managed to do everything by yourself - well done to you :T - I also hope that OP's daughter (or anyone else's!) will manage the same, maybe slightly later in life

beanielou

Wow,badger lady ~ a years supply of Innocent smoothies~lucky lucky you!

trying-very-trying

Shineyhappy wrote: »

Well done to you, I guess its all relative, alot of it depends on how much your mortgage is, but a person on minimum wage could not afford my mortgage and bills. House prices have gone up a lot in the last few years so it makes it a harder thing to manage financially.

Well, fingers crossed, she has found a house that she really likes and it is within her own budget.
She has never had sky, or a landline or even a computer, so she certainly won't miss any of those things.

Thank you all for your replies, the comments were certainly very thought provoking.

asp746

tbh i'd help your daughter - but are you confident that her job is secure and she could keep up the mortgage payments.

family first is my motto.

trying-very-trying

asp746 wrote: »

tbh i'd help your daughter - but are you confident that her job is secure and she could keep up the mortgage payments.

family first is my motto.

Thanks a lot, that would have been my first response. If I hadn't gotten myself into this debt, I would have been proud to help my children start their independent lives.

It'll take me a while, but I'll get myself clear eventually. But surely any parent would be proud, no not feel obliged but actually feel proud, to help their own child get a good start in life.

Yes her job is secure and what's more she is happy in her work. How many people do you know who are happy at their work??