What would you do.

trying-very-trying

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

so where is she living at the moment???

In a caravan, 16 miles from her work, but the site closes next month. There's a dire shortage of rooms to rent in rural Scotland.

immoral_angeluk

trying-very-trying wrote: »

In a caravan, 16 miles from her work, but the site closes next month. There's a dire shortage of rooms to rent in rural Scotland.

could she not even kip on your sofa until she gets sorted out?

trying-very-trying

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

could she not even kip on your sofa until she gets sorted out?

Tried that, but the dog does like her own bed(the sofa):rotfl:

It really didn't work, because, she goes to bed at 9.00, and we go to bed later. Then hubby goes out to work at 4.00a.m, so she wasn't getting a decent nights sleep. Also there's nowhere for the bf to sleep at the weekend.

gems2381

How old is she? Can't she move in with her BF? God we're a nosy bunch on here

lynsayjane

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

could she not even kip on your sofa until she gets sorted out?

if she's saving up for the deposit for a house that could be a very long time on a sofa.

is she going to be paying you back for whatever help you can give her? I'd personally look at which situation is more dire, are you coping fine with the repayments and not being short of cash to live on each month or are you living on smart price beans on toast? (rhetorical questions, don't feel the need to answer). If you can still live to a decent standard and your daughter will pay you back in installments once she's settled then I'd say give her all/part of the money.

at the end of the day though it's your choice to make.

immoral_angeluk

anything's better than the streets if she's going to be totally homeless in a month though surely?

trying-very-trying

gems2381 wrote: »

How old is she? Can't she move in with her BF? God we're a nosy bunch on here

She's just 19. bf live in his mothers 3 bed house, and there's already his 2 sisters and their kids there.

blackangeluk

Personally I would throw it at the debt, I know when I was saving for my first house my parents were in debt and I wouldn't have taken money from them. In the long term as well, the sooner you pay your debts off the sooner you may be in a position to help her.

Just my opinion though...........

trying-very-trying

lynsayjane wrote: »

is she going to be paying you back for whatever help you can give her? I'd personally look at which situation is more dire, are you coping fine with the repayments and not being short of cash to live on each month or are you living on smart price beans on toast? (rhetorical questions, don't feel the need to answer).

We are managing fine on the dmp budget. The message is coming through loud and clear though. It should go on the debt!

thanks for all the replies, it really is just a hypothetical question, I haven't actually received a windfall, I was just wondering what I would do if I did come into some money.

gems2381

19 is very young to be buying a house, I'm 25 and can't afford one yet! Is she looking to buy a house with her boyfriend?