Can I prevent someone from transferring money into my bank account?

Birdynumnum

First may I apologise if I have posted in the wrong place, I just want to know if I can prevent someone who has my bank account details from making a transfer into my account. To explain I have split with my girlfriend and after 4 years she has a number of items belonging to me at her house which she is selling for significantly less than their true value on a Facebook sales site.

I have sales receipts for these items showing their true value and me as the purchaser, she seems to think if she transfers the money she makes from the sales into my account this is not theft. Sorry this is personal and I'd much rather settle this in a friendly manner but this has proved impossible. Is she committing an offense, can I block her transferring money, the fiscal value is nominal the emotional value greater and if she continues to dispose of my property I just want to know what if anything I can do.

grumbler

You can't stop her from transferring money. The only way is to close the account.

What stops you from collecting the items belonging to you?

If she doesn't allow you to collect and unless you are going to sue her, even 'significantly less' amount is better than nothing. And don't forget, that it's very easy to buy things and very hard to sell them for reasonable price, especially second hand. That's why Freecycle exists and there are plenty of free things on Gumtree.

DCFC79

Could you not have a couple of friends buy said items ?

Birdynumnum

Long story short she wants a confrontation and I don't, so I'd rather not see her. Given time I could arrange collection by a third party but she has put them straight up for sale at a price that will likely result in a quick sale. Regarding friends buying, she knows my friends and would recognise them. Seems strange that I can't block her depositing the money from the sale into my account, not sure that makes it legal in the eyes of the law but in truth I don't have the heart to pursue that path anyway, I just wanted to block the transfer to possibly make her realise that this isn't right. Someone is going to get a £300 Dawes racing bike less than 2 yrs old for £20, painful lesson learned.

meer53

Birdynumnum wrote: »

Long story short she wants a confrontation and I don't, so I'd rather not see her. Given time I could arrange collection by a third party but she has put them straight up for sale at a price that will likely result in a quick sale. Regarding friends buying, she knows my friends and would recognise them. Seems strange that I can't block her depositing the money from the sale into my account, not sure that makes it legal in the eyes of the law but in truth I don't have the heart to pursue that path anyway, I just wanted to block the transfer to possibly make her realise that this isn't right. Someone is going to get a £300 Dawes racing bike less than 2 yrs old for £20, painful lesson learned.

It's your stuff ! Don't let her get away with this, man up and go fetch them .

DCFC79

Its your stuff so go and get it, you dont need to rise to what she says, just grin and bear it.

karcher

Birdynumnum wrote: »

Someone is going to get a £300 Dawes racing bike less than 2 yrs old for £20, painful lesson learned.

A 2 year old bike costing £300 new won't be worth much so maybe, if you can't cope with seeing her, be grateful she's sold it for something rather than just taking it to the tip.

But if it's worth more to you, just go get it and be glad you at least have that option.

HHarry

As DCFC says get your friends to bid. You get your bike back, and then she sends you the £20.

DCFC79

HHarry wrote: »

As DCFC says get your friends to bid. You get your bike back, and then she sends you the £20.

She knows his friends but they could ask someone they dont know to buy the items, a bit of a hassle, be easier if he went himself to get the goods.

Jhoney_2

Perhap you could take the receipts and any proof you lived at property etc to the local police station and ask if a community officer can attend whilst you reclaim/remove your possessions.

Stopping the money will not stop the sales.

mt99

Transferring the money is a red herring and has nothing to do with the situation.


If they are genuinely your items (ie not joint items or anything like that) then she is committing a criminal offence by selling them (just the same way as you would be if you say got some items from your neighbours garden and sold them). Paying the proceeds of sale to you no matter how great or small does not mitigate the offence.