Did I do right thing?

GTR_King

Thank you for the advice....

So basically My Ex, is feeling ill/depressed (Could be wrong) (Having an episode/bipolar kicking is in) at the moment, And has decided to delete me off Facebook as she is telling me she wants to be left alone till she is allot better...

I feel once she is allot better she will contact me to tell my why she deleted me/why she was ill (Maybe not who knows)

I understand her reasons for deleted me/not wanting to talk etc...

I like to be friends with everyone I meet (can't happen all the time)

I don't wanna keep being told I don't wanna be friends you anymore (few months later/when she is better) tells me. I am sorry for deleting you and saying I don't wanna be friends again. I still wanna be friends with you,

I have decided to move on in life... so I have deleted her number & won't re add her on Facebook... (only accept if she re adds me)

rach_k

GTR_King wrote: »

if she don't wanna be friends then so be it.. would of been nice if she had told me...

That is what five year olds do. Normally, grown-ups just don't get in touch for a while, the friendship will peter out and one will eventually prune the other from their Facebook. No need for "I'm not your friend anymore". Either be a friend or don't.

Pollycat

GTR_King wrote: »

Thank you for the advice....

So basically My Ex, is feeling ill/depressed (Could be wrong) (Having an episode/bipolar kicking is in) at the moment, And has decided to delete me off Facebook as she is telling me she wants to be left alone till she is allot better...

I feel once she is allot better she will contact me to tell my why she deleted me/why she was ill (Maybe not who knows)

I understand her reasons for deleted me/not wanting to talk etc...

I like to be friends with everyone I meet (can't happen all the time)

I don't wanna keep being told I don't wanna be friends you anymore (few months later/when she is better) tells me. I am sorry for deleting you and saying I don't wanna be friends again. I still wanna be friends with you,

I have decided to move on in life... so I have deleted her number & won't re add her on Facebook... (only accept if she re adds me)

But if you do this and she does 're-add' you, won't you just be in exactly the same position you were in before?
Isn't this kind-of going round in circles?

GTR_King

O I see, so it that what usually happens??

Yes I will be in the same situation which I don't want to happen...

No one has ever stopped being my friend out of the blue... I have either been told it's best we not talk anymore so don't contact me again (Friends) (Only happened once), or It's better if we stay friends sorry (Polite way of letting me down, I know I won't talk to them anymore) (Dating it happens not everyone will like you)

But when you have known someone for nearly 9 years (Friends/dating/relationship) and they decided to delete you off Facebook/cut you off out of there lives (Added her when she first made the account and helped her set it up) and don't wanna be friends with you anymore without tell you a reason/telling you at all.

If I do ask her why she deleted me off Facebook she would reply same day/few weeks or more later (If she is ill) and will be very defensive about it, and will moan and say only as friends ok and act like she don't care/Give a sh*t about me anymore... (She did this nov last year when she wasn't well/getting better) I feel bit annoyed about it as only wanna be friends like before and never wanna get back together with her at all...

If it was someone I had known for a few months to a year or to It wouldn't matter/bother me at all... but 9 years is different

I would never ditch any one of my fiends/cut them out of my life with out a good reason

But o well these things happen just gotta move on in life... can't dwell on the past

System

GTR_King wrote: »

Thank you for the advice....

So basically My Ex, is feeling ill/depressed (Could be wrong) (Having an episode/bipolar kicking is in) at the moment, And has decided to delete me off Facebook as she is telling me she wants to be left alone till she is allot better...

I feel once she is allot better she will contact me to tell my why she deleted me/why she was ill (Maybe not who knows)

I understand her reasons for deleted me/not wanting to talk etc...

I like to be friends with everyone I meet (can't happen all the time)

I don't wanna keep being told I don't wanna be friends you anymore (few months later/when she is better) tells me. I am sorry for deleting you and saying I don't wanna be friends again. I still wanna be friends with you,

I have decided to move on in life... so I have deleted her number & won't re add her on Facebook... (only accept if she re adds me)

It sounds like a vicious cycle tbh. And it sounds like she will continue to do this whenever an episode occurs which leaves you in the lurch and continues the cycle. I admit i'm not the best friend/daughter/sister as i do have a tendency to retreat, especially when depressed but its not an excuse. I have to own up to my mistakes and behavior just as your friend should.

GTR_King

I feel she should tell me the reason why she deleted me off Facebook, and why she don't want to be friends with me anymore...

If I hear nothing from her then I am gonna move on in life, will not message her first. if she dose message me (Don't think she will) I will tell her straight that I am not happy that you delete me/acted like you don't want to be my friend anymore/give a sh*t... so if. Your gonna keep doing this then best we not be friends anymore...

Pollycat

GTR_King wrote: »

I feel she should tell me the reason why she deleted me off Facebook, and why she don't want to be friends with me anymore...

But I am not going to message/text here unless she messages me first...

If hear nothing then gonna move on in life...

Maybe it's the same reason as last time....

GTR_King wrote: »

So last year (November) she deleted me off Facebook when I asked her why she got defensive said sorry I have been ill & still want to be friend with me so re added me... we texted at Xmas & New Year... Now she has deleted me again on Facebook . So I have decide to delete her phone number & not add her again is that the best thing to do?

It sounds like this may be a vicious circle that will just keep on repeating.

BrassicWoman

GTR_King wrote: »

I feel she should tell me the reason why she deleted me off Facebook, and why she don't want to be friends with me anymore...

What answer could she possibly give that would not be hurtful?

Move on now.

Pop_Up_Pirate

GTR_King wrote: »

I feel she should tell me the reason why she deleted me off Facebook, and why she don't want to be friends with me anymore...

If I hear nothing from her then I am gonna move on in life, will not message her first. if she dose message me (Don't think she will) I will tell her straight that I am not happy that you delete me/acted like you don't want to be my friend anymore/give a sh*t... so if. Your gonna keep doing this then best we not be friends anymore...

Doesn't matter how long you have known her. She isn't a friend and not a friend you need.

Let her stay in the past. She didn't contact you because she has mental health issues. So leave it at that.
Get on with your life, stop sweating the small stuff and move away from this girl as the relationship is not doing you any good. Look at the time you are wasting on wondering about her motives?

Life is too short to worry about why some girl deleted you off facebook.
Go out, have some fun and stop worrying about it.

GTR_King

Thanks guys I am going to move on,