2017 - moving life forwards

Kittychick

Aaw Coastal, big hugs from me, I had a couple of miscarriages between my two and my daughter had same experience you are having now... You are right, you cannot let this define you but please don't try to be so strong you don't grieve xx
Whatever you decide to do re wedding will be the right thing to do, the wedding is just a day... Xx

System

Hello sweet, I am so so sorry to hear of what’s happened, it’s so difficult in that first trimester and know you were being sensible and healthy, thinking of you and big hugs from me over in Norfolk! I’m really pleased to hear it hasn’t deterred you from trying again. Have you in my thoughts and very sweet to hear B is by your side, love conquers all (even the cricket!). You sound very similar to my older sister and she now has two healthy girls after going through what sounds like the same ordeal as you have, I find solace in her story and so have many of her friends. Xxxx

I’ve enjoyed reading all of your updates about the wedding. I have always been a firm believer that if I get married I want to elope but whenever I have mentioned that to my parents they absolutely hit the roof and go on a huge rant about how my hypothetical wedding would be so selfish and devastate them…. People do lose sight that it isn’t THEIR day! In terms of the bar I recently went to a ridiculously lavish and expensive wedding (it was in a castle atop a hill in Kent) and the bar was free up to a certain threshold and then after that it was a cash bar, nobody complained about it or turned their noses up even though it was a bit of a snotty event (in my opinion anyway!), at the end of the day it's your wedding so have whatever you want and feel comfortable with financially.


Big hugs again xxxxx

coastalchick

sauceoclock wrote: »

Hello sweet, I am so so sorry to hear of what’s happened, it’s so difficult in that first trimester and know you were being sensible and healthy, thinking of you and big hugs from me over in Norfolk! I’m really pleased to hear it hasn’t deterred you from trying again. Have you in my thoughts and very sweet to hear B is by your side, love conquers all (even the cricket!). You sound very similar to my older sister and she now has two healthy girls after going through what sounds like the same ordeal as you have, I find solace in her story and so have many of her friends. Xxxx

I’ve enjoyed reading all of your updates about the wedding. I have always been a firm believer that if I get married I want to elope but whenever I have mentioned that to my parents they absolutely hit the roof and go on a huge rant about how my hypothetical wedding would be so selfish and devastate them…. People do lose sight that it isn’t THEIR day! In terms of the bar I recently went to a ridiculously lavish and expensive wedding (it was in a castle atop a hill in Kent) and the bar was free up to a certain threshold and then after that it was a cash bar, nobody complained about it or turned their noses up even though it was a bit of a snotty event (in my opinion anyway!), at the end of the day it's your wedding so have whatever you want and feel comfortable with financially.


Big hugs again xxxxx

Thanks Sauce! Yes, it is pretty !!!! but we will deal with it and hopefully be ok. B is being brilliant, as are his family (mine live miles away) who have brought us flowers and food!

Yeah, both sets of parents are being great on this front now. Think they realise we can't put life on hold to have the big white wedding and are supportive of whatever we decide. Think we will get through next few days and take stock of what we want

coastalchick

So, the last few days have been pretty damn !!!!!!!! But we are going to move on.

So, back to MSE! Have just done a shop at WR. B and I decided that we are going to try and eat more healthily so bought loads of fresh fruit and vegetables and have a meal plan for next 3 nights which is healthy incl healthy puddings. Spent £95.50/2 which is a lot I know but also included toilet roll, kitchen roll, tea and coffee. Hoping once get better into it we can reduce the food bill.

Going round to a friends at 3. She is currently 16 weeks pregnant but has had 2 miscarriages so totally understands what I've just been through. It will be good to chat to someone face to face. Bought mini vanilla cupcakes at WR to take round with me.

Have got £832.81 left in spending budget to last until 20th. Not really much happening over next couple of weeks so probably just food bill. We might go out with friends at the weekend as feel we need a night with good friends. I'm currently off work, going to docs tomorrow to get certificate for this week which am sure they will give me in circumstances. Today was first day I actually got in the shower since my day in hospital on saturday. Been exhausted and crying. But think I'll be ready to go back next week. We then go away to Sicily on 21st until 5th or something.

Might need some clothes for that as pretty fat at the moment. Had bought some maternity dresses a few weeks ago which would probably fit given how fat I am(!) but obv wouldn't want to wear those now.

System

Hope those good friends of yours you mentioned on another thread are being kind to you . Look after yourself , look to the future, you will know when the time is right to try for another baby.

Enjoy your cake .

Kittychick

Glad to hear you are bearing up...keep being kind to yourself-healthy eating is a great start.. Take care x

coastalchick

Cake and tea were wonderful. And friend is 20 weeks and just had her anomaly scan and all is fine - so so pleased for her.

It's weird as she was a girl on the periphery of my friendship group I liked but wasn't particularly close to. And feel like we might become firm friends. My good friends have messaged to make sure I'm ok. Screw the rest. And funnily enough, this girl said she had experienced the same thing.

B is currently making miso salmon and rice noodles - a rick stein recipe. I was supposed to be making it but got out of it by doing pudding. So I've made pudding which is now chilling - pureed some mango, then mixed low fat greek yoghurt with a teaspoon of caster sugar and half a teaspoon of vanilla extract. Added a third of the mango puree then layered the yoghurt mix and mango puree in a glass, topped with passion fruit. Should make up for the bottle of red am tucking into and the cake I had earlier - ha ha!!!

In all seriousness, I am trying to eat at least more fruit as when I was actually pregnant, the midwife said I was at risk of a small baby as I didn't eat fruit pre-pregnancy. So at least I can try to right that now for the next one by having a couple of portions of fruit a day. Plus I do actually LOVE certain fruit, I just am lazy and don't like preparing it! If I saw strawberries out at a breakfast buffet I'd choose those over bacon and eggs, but I like them washed and cut in half!!! I am honestly NOT a princess!!!

Happierdays

Hi just dropping by (and read your last few posts..sorry to hear of your loss x)
Loving the sound of your homemade layered mango Greek yoG! It has given me some ideas- thank you
All the best to you in moving forwards... and hooray for cupcakes too!

coastalchick

Another £9.75/2 last night on a bottle of wine and some hairdo strawberries! The wine was needed as it was bake off and dr foster! 2 of my favourites! Plus we are coming into september so red wine is the way forwards

Have got a dr's appointment this morning to get a certificate and to get a couple of moles checked then nothing all day. B is out for a curry with his best mate tonight - my suggestion - think he needs some boy time with someone he loves and trusts. I have a friend coming over - the lovely girl I have recently got back in touch with who I lived with for a few months. She had a miscarriage once so not only does she get me usually, but now even more so.

Other than that, going to rest up today as didn't sleep very well last night

Poor_Single_lady

Bake off and Doctor Foster for me too. Bit annoyed about Bake Off moving to Tuesday.
Think you're right to send BD out for some man time. Will do him good. And you also catching up with friend will do you good too. Hard times for you both. xxx