Divorcing while living together?

Guest101 · 8 February 2017 at 2:18PM

balibali293 wrote: »

Yes it is the case but no authorities have been involved, although the doctors know about the drinking etc.

Well drinking isn't a problem as such. But if there is abuse then you should look at getting additional support from outside agencies

Guest101 · 8 February 2017 at 2:19PM

EmeraldEye wrote: »

Are you and the children safe? That's the first and most important element of any relationship breakdown (in my opinion).

Try your very best to maintain a separate life from him as far as possible; So don't sign any joint agreements, don't prepare meals for him, don't allow him to sleep in your bed - never understood this. Why is it her bed? and if you have any joint bank accounts you will need to address this asap.

I would also have his name removed from any utility accounts (gas, electricity, etc) - again on what basis? and tell him you expect an amount each week/month for his share of the rent etc as he is now a lodger for all intents and purposes. - He's not a lodger. Saying that doesn't make it so.

If you've been doing his laundry, stop. Anything that you usually do for him, cease doing it entirely.

Have you anyone to support you? I hope you do.

You say that he has a drink/drug problem, that's why I asked if you were safe. As for the emotional abuse, you certainly have grounds for divorce and the sooner you get him out from under your roof the better.

Good Luck and don't let him manipulate you!

I agree with most of what you said, but some is clearly wishful thinking

Art_Deco · 8 February 2017 at 2:29PM

If you are in anyway being abused I would take the children and leave if he wont, it must be easier if you are renting as opposed to having a house / mortgage to sort out , good luck.

easilydistracted · 8 February 2017 at 8:44PM

If the main problem is being liable for the rent, not finding somewhere to live and you are outside of the fixed term then you can end the tenancy by giving notice. It doesn't require both of you. Also if he's literally abusive then you might be able to get an occupation order but the bar is really high. Get some advice from support organisations and good luck