moving house on my own

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lessonlearned wrote: »

Re the sheds and loft.......why wait until you move. Start decluttering now, its such a positive uplifting thing too, it really does help because as you clear the clutter, your mind seems to clear too. Getting rid of excess stuff seems like a weight is being lifted off your shoulders.
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I absolutely agree with this, clearing little by little. Have a look at the marie kondo thread for help febcat. Lots of us are learning to say goodbye to stuff. I did some today and will have more again for the cs on monday

moneyistooshorttomention

I get what you mean kittie - about your comments about your house being one your husband wanted so much.

But - yes - it's a decision you now need to make on your own for yourself - as to whether you personally want things to continue this way.

It's a process I can understand you need/want to go through for yourself. I've been used to making decisions for donkeys years by myself (taking into account the financial restrictions of being single - but not having to take into account melding my opinion with someone else's - to see what we both want as a couple).

From what you've said over time - I have the impression your husband would understand (and want) you to make or re-make this decision totally for yourself now and would understand either way. I would say he would want you to do what is best for you/makes you happiest. I would agree with him.

Februarycat

lessonlearned wrote: »

Well if you live in Lincolnshire you aren't too far from the coast and there are some lovely spots along that east coast.

Re the sheds and loft.......why wait until you move. Start decluttering now, its such a positive uplifting thing too, it really does help because as you clear the clutter, your mind seems to clear too. Getting rid of excess stuff seems like a weight is being lifted off your shoulders.

Can you get into the loft or do you need help. Perhaps your son could lift a few boxes down each time he visits you.

Make it your 2017 project, you might even be able to sell some of it. I made £1100 one year just weeding out the stuff in my loft.

I still only reduced it by about 50 per cent......:rotfl: still got a way to go yet.

Decluttering a lifetimes possessions can be a bit daunting. Maybe join the Marie Kondo thread over on the old style board for support and encouragement.

Thanks Lessonlearned, I have been gradually getting rid of things on EBay and charity shops since last summer. I know there are things in the attic which I could sell or donate, but there are no steps to loft and ds wont go up there either, my ex husband was the only one who could get up there. I need to find a man to get the stuff down plus do all the odd jobs too!

Februarycat

kittie wrote: »

I absolutely agree with this, clearing little by little. Have a look at the marie kondo thread for help febcat. Lots of us are learning to say goodbye to stuff. I did some today and will have more again for the cs on monday

Thanks Kittie, I have heard of marie kondo but not really looked into it or read her book. Sounds like you are doing well on the decluttering.

Newly_retired

We got rid of a huge amount of stuff when we moved here three years ago, after over 30 yrs in the same house, yet we still have far too much stuff for this smaller house ( or rather, my husband does).

We chose this house
- to be nearer my family
-because it is in a small market town, with all the facilities you need, within walking distance, or a short drive, on the main bus route to the city, some trains too, and near good road routes for longer journeys.
- the access to the street and the house is level, easier in icy or snowy weather
- there is a not too big south facing garden
- there is a downstairs loo and shower room, en suite to what could be a downstairs bedroom if required (though not currently wheelchair accessible).
I am very happy living here. The town has lots of groups for all tastes, a U3a, library, and plenty more things in the city.
A slight drawback is traffic noise, not excessive, but I'd rather have that and the decent access it provides, having lived previously in a cul-de-sac at the bottom of a hill which became impassible in winter. I like to be able to look out and see life going on. I would never feel cut off here.
The countryside is on the doorstep and there are many walks and lovely villages.