How to remove a lodger/ex partner.

paddy's_mum

beckysbobbles1 wrote: »

However that makes no difference whatsoever.

I really don't understand why you have asked for readers' contributions, advice and knowledge if you know so much already!

When your doctor or accountant offers you specific advice pertaining to a problem or difficulty you have, do you tell him/her/them that such-and-such makes "no difference whatsoever"?

You may call my reply 'unhelpful' or unfair or sarcastic but in all honesty, why ask people to give of their time and effort when (you suggest) you already know all the answers.

I wish you luck and hope this all has a happy ending.

NinaSwiss

OP,
If I were you I’d keep things simple.
Text and email (so you have some evidence) your boyfriend giving him 2 weeks to leave. Don’t tell him what you plan to do if he doesn’t go.
Don’t mention anything in the text about him being your lodger/tenant (to avoid shooting yourself in the foot).
IMO something to the effect of … it’s time for you to go as our relationship is now over and you have 2weeks.

After 2 weeks if he is still here, change the locks when he is out and tell him he can come pickup his things but only in the presence of police(if possible).
If he thinks he has a leg to stand on as far as rights to the property, let him go through the court. Chances are he won’t(assuming he hasn’t got evidence to support his case) .
If he does then be prepared to defend yourself using your evidence.

Also if he is abusive, report him to the police and get some assistance for that separately.

csgohan4

Guess the boyfriend isn't going to have a happy ending for a while

Mojisola

NinaSwiss wrote: »

IMO something to the effect of … it’s time for you to go as our relationship is now over and you have 2weeks.

Why would you give someone access to your home for another two weeks when you already have fears about the way he's going to behave?

NinaSwiss

Mojisola wrote: »

Why would you give someone access to your home for another two weeks when you already have fears about the way he's going to behave?

Except where ex is physically abusive towards me (or threatens physicall abuse), I'd be prepared to allow 2 weeks for him to find a place (but thats just me).
OP dosen't mention that ex-boyfriend has being physically abusive.

If he has been physically abusive, he needs to be arrested/reported to the police. That way shed have him out too I'd have thought.

Mojisola

beckysbobbles1 wrote: »

We have been rocky for months and when I've previously mentioned splitting up and him moving out, his response is "I'm going nowhere!".

He is an emotionally abusive man and has made several threats prior to this. I have made one police report but I stupidly decided not to proceed.

As soon as I say I want to split up (and actually follow through) I know he will make my life hell. He is the type of person to purposely make noise whilst I'm trying to sleep, make a mess around the house to bother me and possibly bring people to my home that I'm not comfortable with.

NinaSwiss wrote: »

Except where ex is physically abusive towards me (or threatens physicall abuse), I'd be prepared to allow 2 weeks for him to find a place (but thats just me).

OP dosen't mention that ex-boyfriend has being physically abusive.

Abuse is abuse - I wouldn't put up with two weeks of that kind of stress just because he wasn't actually thumping me.

Chapuys

In fairness, even if he could claim he is a lodger he wouldn't have many rights. The fixed term of the agreement has ended so he would be under a periodic agreement now. With a periodic agreement, the OP would only need to give a period of notice before she can evict based on; how long the tenant lived there and how they behaved; the length of time between the rent periods; the relationship between the tenant and the landlord and the availability of other accommodation. Giving the 2-week notice as described above - or 4-week if they pay monthly - would be suitable probably. The fact he has been abusive means you could probably evict straight away. DV is the best route.

19lottie82

Change the locks and ask the police to attend when he wants to come and collect his stuff.

Problem solved.

trevormax

I feel the need to point out the fact that you should not rely on the police being able to be there when you want to tell your ex or let him get his stuff out. In fact I would go as far as to say that they will tell you to phone them when something happens and THEN they MIGHT come.

This isn't a stab at the police. It is just pointing out the fact that they are very overstretched and simply do not have the resources to do this.

If there are (being incredibly generous) 10 police officers covering your area. They are likely to be double crewed so that is 5 teams of 2.
One or two teams could be in custody or dealing with prisoners.
One or two teams would likely be dealing with calls (domestics, burglaries, dead people etc).
That means there might be just one team of two available covering the entire area.
There is not a chance in hell that that team will come to your house tobe there when you want to kick out your ex and even if they do, it is highly likely that they will leave you the moment a more serious call comes in.

Get family there, preferably some big burly brothers/cousins/father.