Sashybo - Back Again

sashybo

Thanks Rachel, most days I feel like I get nothing done but yesterday was quite busy. It means I can relax a bit before work today, DH has done the cat litter & will do the hoovering before he picks up his mum from the airport this afternoon.

Typically it's lovely & sunny today because I'm working. :cool::rotfl:

All I've done this morning is have a shower, open up the greenhouse vents, fold DS's stuff up from the TD, stick the towels in the TD & then eat breakfast. DH got DS up & fed and has taken him for his nap now.

I had a wee extra half hour in bed & both cats came up to join me. :rotfl:

sashybo

Work was fine yesterday & I got to leave early so was home before 10pm. :j

Used survey money to pay another £40 off the z0pa loan & £5 off the cat CC. The monthly payment for the z0pa loan is now £197 so under £200 (originally £224). :j I'm hoping to make a few more overpayments to take the monthly payment to £180/175 as it will help the budget a bit, not much but a bit. That loan only has a year to run & then it will be gone. :j

Decided to do small cash outs from one company (£5) & pay that off the cat CC. The rest of my survey money will go to the z0pa loan until I get the monthly payment down & then will go towards DH's big loan as we can lower the interest paid & cut the term of that loan too. :T

Got out into the garden this morning with DH whilst MIL took DS for his nap. I planted the sweet peas out in the front against the trellis, hopefully we don't have any cold snaps. Also repotted 2 cucumber seedlings & 2 runner bean seedlings and moved the beetroot seedlings into a big container that can stay in the greenhouse for now.

Have planted some more runner bean seeds as realised we planted 3-4 per container last year & I'd had a baby brain moment & only planted 2 seeds. So 6 more planted. Need more compost & then we might plant some lettuce seeds etc.

DH cut the grass front & back, weeded the borders & used the pressure washer to clean the last bit of the patio. The garden looks so much better. :T

sashybo

We now have a courgette seedling appearing in the propagator. :j

Went out to get more compost today & also got some violas, upright lobelia & verbena. Will plant them out in the next few days.

DH made lasagne & my mum came up for dinner with us & MIL. We all had a nice time & DS enjoyed being the centre of attention.

Did a few surveys & cashed out £11 from one site. :T Ordered the slide for DS's birthday & it only cost us £14.99 as had £20 of vouchers. Have also ordered a pop up play tunnel for DS, it was only £8 & paid for with a voucher as well. :j

Working again tomorrow, still have no idea of what my job share shift pattern is going to be. :mad: Will speak to the shift manager as I need to know so that I can plan ahead either for childcare or to arrange shift swaps if I can't get DS looked after. I won't hold my breath for them knowing though. *rolling eyes forever* :cool:

sashybo

So obviously work were no help whatsoever with having any clue about my new shift pattern so I just told them I'll let them know which days I can do every week until they get organised as they're not giving me any notice to get childcare set up. :mad: So working two days next week when DH is off.

MIL behaved on her weekend visit & loved her time with DS. I was ready for her to go home though, just because it's difficult for me to live with anyone.

We picked up the slide for DS today & also a jacket in 12-18 month size from the Next sale reduced from £26 to £8. :j Also picked up a clothing order for DS from Mr A's which included a yellow rain jacket in the next size up for DS, super sweet. Also got bigger size joggers & some romper suits in case we ever get a sunny day again. Need to get him a sun hat too.

redofromstart

I really like the 'foreign legion' type sunhats for the boys, with the roll down thing that covers the back of their necks. They rarely stayed on for more than five minutes but at least I felt that I had tried.

That's really unfair of work, how not to make you feel welcome back. Is there a way of checking they have actually sorted out you being paid which would really add to the negative impact.

sashybo

Hi redo, yes I'm sure I saw a hat similar to that in Mr M's, just need to take DS with me to see what size will fit his big head (takes after his dad obviously :rotfl:). I doubt DS will keep the hat on for long either. :rotfl:

Work are totally disorganised, not helped by our departmental re-organisation & our rostering being passed to managers who don't really know how to do it. :cool: We sign in every day, so I'll do that & will just mark my hours down on another sheet & the info gets sent to payroll every week so I should get paid. Might have to speak to the happy people at HR. :cool:

In childcare news, my sister has offered to help out during the summer if we need her as she's off college. :j

sashybo

DS is currently refusing to sleep unless I hold him, think his teeth are hurting.

Have given him as much medication as he can have & tried cuddling then putting into cot but he only seems to sleep for 10 mins if I'm lucky. Longest stretch in the cot since half 7 has been half an hour. He's pretty much been awake since 8 now & still crying. Losing the will to live. DH is working late shift & won't be home until after midnight.

In better news I managed to get on the cross trainer this morning for 10 mins. Remembered how exhausting it is when you're unfit. Was going to do some yoga tonight but don't think a screaming baby in the background would be very relaxing. :mad:

Got into the garden for half an hour earlier & repotted the courgette seedling. Also covered over the potatoes again, they are really coming on. :T Potted some of the violas, verbena & lobelia, will try & plant the rest in the front garden tomorrow.

Got DS's washing done & put away today but that was it housework wise except for usual dishes etc.

Redeemed £10 @mazon voucher from SB yesterday which I forgot to mention. Nothing much else survey wise.

sashybo

Have redeemed another £10 @mazon voucher from SB today. :j Also got a £50 cheque through the post from one of my survey companies which I wasn't expecting. :j Will have to decide which debt to pay it towards.

DS finally fell asleep last night after 2 hours & didn't wake up until 7 this morning. He definitely has more teeth pushing through as can see some of them now, poor sausage.

Have arranged a babysitter (my sister) for a week on Sunday to go out for lunch with DH. We got a good deal for a 5 course tasting menu for £39 for two. We will probably have a couple of drinks afterwards too.

DH is off work today to go to a beer festival, lucky him. Nothing really planned for DS & I except going down to my mum's to get her cats back in the house & feed them as she's on holiday.

Feeling tired & a bit fed up, like I haven't had a break for ages. DH just seems to arrange things for his days off & goes out all the time & I'm left at home with DS.

I know he would just say well arrange something with your friends then but it's not that easy to get a babysitter & fit in everyone else's needs (babysitters/shifts/can only do weekends etc).

Going back to work is going to mean more juggling as I've got to try & find childcare/work on DH's days off so he can watch DS. I'm sure I'll get used to it, just not looking forward to all the extra mental work of "Oh if I work that day who can take DS" "Maybe so-and-so could keep him for a few hours & then DH can pick him up" etc etc. Childminder/nursery no use due to the hours we work plus the expense. :eek:

I know that DH is meant to be going on a day out in a couple of weeks with his friend but it's one of the only days I can work that week so I asked him to find out what time he would be finishing. I was thinking of asking my brother to take DS for a couple of hours then DH could pick him up on the way home. When I asked DH about it he said "Oh I've just asked if we can re-arrange it because I don't want to have to rush about" :eek::mad: Argh that's not what I asked you to do & we're probably going to have a similar issue when you want to re-arrange it. :mad: I didn't say cancel the whole bl**dy thing. He doesn't seem to get that we have to arrange things around DS a lot of the time. :cool: Plus it's hardly rushing around asking him to pick his son up on the way home. More like he means he won't be able to go the pub afterwards. :mad:

redofromstart

Wait until he refers to looking after his son as 'babysitting'. Have a suitable weapon handy. I've never got why the children seem to be fairly commonly by default mothers problem, and fairly commonly mothers cost.

Maybe next time he says he is out on a day off ask him what he has done about arranging cover for DS?

Doing better than me on SBs!

sashybo

Oh redo, if he ever refers to looking after DS as "babysitting" there will be pain. :eek::rotfl: I think it's just a societal "norm" thing with the assumption that childcare arrangements are the mother's "job". Because we don't have enough to do. :cool: My MIL always asks what I'm doing about childcare for DS when I go back to work as though her son doesn't have any involvement. :eek:

DH is generally good in that he takes turns with looking after DS, does his share of the housework & most of the cooking but he still doesn't get it.

The majority of the crushing responsibility of everything to do with DS is mine because it's assumed that's what mums do. In a way nothing has really changed for him. He just does what he wants because he thinks he "deserves" it after working all week (and he does but so do I!), after all you're at home looking after the baby & that's not a real job. (To be fair DH does let me know he appreciates how much hard work DS can be). Even when you're back at work you're only part time. Meanwhile for you everything has changed. Everything. Your body, your career, your whole life. My DH tries his best but he just doesn't get it, I don't know if he can!

It's the mental load thing of having to think & plan ahead all the time and I'm dreading it when I go back to work. How anyone works full time with kids & stays sane I don't know, they obviously have better coping skills than me!

:rotfl: redo I might just do that to see what he says. Sometimes I feel like his mum as well, always having to remind him if we're going somewhere/have an appointment/I'm working. :cool: The scary part is my DH is a lot better than a lot of other men I know. :eek:

I don't know how I managed that many SB's, must have got some good surveys recently.